Do you think some guys are just meant to be alone?

[Anonymous]

for some reason or another it never works out for them and they are always alone, do you think they are just meant to be alone?

[southern_belle33]

i feel that way sometimes too. I've never had a solid relationship before. the guy that I'm into now hasn't either though...so I'm kind of hoping that since neither one of us knows what we're doing, we can just learn as we go without unrealistic expectations...it might be a good idea to get him to date me first though =)

everyone's circumstances are different though, so I wouldn't say "meant" to be alone. I really think it's something that the majority of people deal with in the course of their lives. just give it time.

[swiftsaver602]

I think things happen for a reason. I think if a person is alone, at that point in time they are MEANT to be alone...to figure out whatever it is about themselves that needs to be figured out before they can find someone.

[MikeK]

Well said... very thoughtful

[swiftsaver602]

Thanks!

[CatholicVirginia]

Not at all! Everyone deserves and can find love. Maybe you're not destined to be with the same person for your entire life, but you are destined to love and to be loved, and don't let anyone tell you differently!

[TimB -1-2-3]

'Meant to be alone' implies destiny, of which I'm not really a fan.. And as we cannot foresee the future, one cannot say people are 'meant to be alone' unless from hindsight..

For the rest: people can always change. And people can meet other people that may be just right for them as they are in that period of time.

[Hades]

Yeah. Not every guy is worthy of passing on his DNA in the eyes of women.

[Asker]

that seems to be the harsh reality of it, looks and genetics

[Hartmut]

Hell, as a species, we're rather generous towards those who don't share our genes, as compared to other creatures.

[Chauncy2]

I think guys who are promiscuous are meant to be alone. Not in a sense that they won't have a girl, but because they'll never find what they're looking for and they'll never be satisfied.

[Asker]

and guys who are not promiscuous?

[Chauncy2]

I honestly believe that no one is meant to be alone, people just start to believe that they are supposed to be alone,and these people are usually overly-dramatic. Most people complain about being alone at an age where it's not common to have experienced a real relationship with another person. People who think they're alone also believe that if they experience a break-up it means that they'll always be alone. This is not in the least true. Almost all relationships end in breakups.

[Asker]

how about 21?..

[Chauncy2]

It's pretty tough to maintain a healthy relationship in one's late teens and early twenties. Young adults are usually self-centered and haven't had enough time to learn who the really are or how work with another person in a relationship. Not to mention that most young adults have to spend most of their time in college or working. So if a 21 year old is alone, they probably won't be for long.

[peace-love-couture]

"meant to be alone?" No

Keep themselves that way? Yes

Anyone and everyone can find someone if they look and try hard enough and remain realistic.

too many people just make excuses

[Asker]

what if they are realistic?

[G_GTom]

I can agree with this. I certainly have things that have kept me out of relationships from people who were interested. Do I regret this? Honestly, not really. At least right now I don't.

[solveigjrk]

I really hope not, because that would mean that I would be alone too. I'm a girl and it never works out for me either, so I really hope that it's not the case, that even though it haven't worked out for us just yet - I hope that it will one day. Trust me, someday a girl will come into your life and make you realize why it never worked out with anyone else. That goes for me too, only that it will be a guy for me.

[why-makoto-kun]

Well, yes, they should be alone if they abuse a woman and never change their ways. Verbally or physically. Yet I know guys like that and they still get the girls *eyeroll*.

[scnbabe89]

no everyone is meant to find love sometimes it just takes some people longer then others.

[sovetskii13]

I don't think some people are "meant" or "made" to be alone. It just happens for all kinds of reasons. Maybe the guy has a bad sense of humor, or attitude, so nobody wants to be around him. Maybe he lived on a lonely farm in the middle of nowhere with his parents. So, he never got the chance to really be with anyone else. Many more possible reasons. But again, I don't think anyone is "meant" or "made" to be alone.

[MikeK]

Yes... there's no such thing as a solitary woman, only solitary men.

and yes, many men choose to be that way, but there are MANY more who do not wish to be alone and yet they will still have the same outcome: loneliness

[larry69]

I am 42 and never had a true long relationship..it never worka out and I am always dumped for another man or woman..i hate being alone at my age and its not getting eaaier to find a woman either

[HateBeingSingleAspie]

i would say so

[Anonymous]

yes I would agree

[Anonymous]

I think there is absolutely nothing wrong with being alone (as in: not having an exclusive relationship) if the person is just not comfortable being in any relationship. But I definitely think that if you WANT to be in a relationship, there will always be someone for you. There's no point in giving up because you never know when you might meet that special someone, it might take some time or effort, but if you stay positive and keep believing that you deserve someone, it will all work out.

[MikeK]

That all sounds nice and everything, but chances are VERY slim

[Anonymous]

Some girls I like that too ... I don't know I think some just have to try harder or be more patient