Do your parents still think you're a virgin?

Do they know you have sex? Do you talk about it in your home? Is it taboo to talk about it?
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  • Nope. my family was kind of weird to some of my friends but eh. my dad kind of left the sex bit to my mom lol lots of "youre still my little meatball". mom is a very pro-sex feminist so she was really about sex education and positive body image, and she told me she wanted me to wait until I was 18, but that it was out of a natural motherly concern/reaction to wanting me to cherish my innocence while I had it because you can never get it back, but she also understood that sexual development is a part of being human and she would always be there and wanted to be there to support me if and when I did choose to sex. not a popular choice with parents, but because of her views, she was that way. she always told me that if I decided to have sex, she wanted me to communicate with her and she never wanted me to feel like I couldn't tell her something or that I couldn't cry in her lap if I ever got my heart broken. she taught me the risks that come with being sexually active and some social issues with women and sex.

    i learned a lot from my mom in general and she knew how to balance the friendship and authority figure elements that I think make for great parenthood. I would say she is my best friend on some level and because of the communication I had with her, I think it made me respect her more. she always gave a reason and tried her best not to fall into that "do as I say, not as I do" reasoning. I really appreciated that growing up and I still do. I was comfortable with my sexuality too (bisexual) because my mom taught me at a young age that its okay for people of the same sex to be together. she made up her own stories for me as a kid with two princesses and everything. she's very talented artistically so she'd have little books for me with illustrations so I could visualize. mom was just awesome. she's a huge positive influence in my life.

    its kind of interesting considering my grandparents (her parents) were the opposite when raising her. they aren't very liberal when it comes to this and they were more the harsh disciplinarians (which was hard for them because my mother was always rebellious against their christian morals and conservative-ish ideas on sex, like no sex until marriage, etc.) they are more the type who would try to put the fear of god (literally and figuratively) into you to get you to behave accordingly. they didn't support my mom in educating me about sex and thought certain things should be left until a certain age and they didn't like that she chose to be so sex positive. my mom had portraits of naked bodies and things in our house and stuff. my grandfather was hilarious when he'd come over "jessica, what the hell is this p*rn on the walls? get this sh*t away from my granddaughter! you feminists want to raise your daughters to be sluts too now?" and then my mother would start on her "female sexuality isn't something to be ashamed of or hidden, and we don't call women sluts in this house!" ha ha my family is crazy.

    • No that's good family I have there and a great mom! ; ) be sure to tell her that too!

    • You speak of your mom in past tense O.o is she gone now? :\ But ya, it's interesting that your mom is (or was) so strong willed and whatnot and named Jessica. Makes me think of Jessica in Dune :P though she was a bit more reserved (at least as far as I can grasp about your mom) only cause she understood she had to be in the position she was in.

    • lol no but I meant growing up. I'm 21 now, so she's still here and still awesome but I'm an adult.

  • My dad has no idea lol. He doesn't know anything about my social life so he has no clue as to whether I am or aren't. I would go with him thinking I still am one but honestly the man has no clue

    And my mom probably thinks I'm still a virgin. I only lost my virginity 5 months ago and the last time she asked me if I was still a virgin was probably like a year and a half ago. And of course I told her yes cause that was the truth. I don't know what I'm gonna say if she asks me again but to be honest I'm probably gonna lie.

    • Why? Would they get mad at you or would they be like dissapionted?

    • no I just don't want my mom in my business lol. And I've been advised by a friend to just keep things as they are because once your parents find out they are up your ass every time you leave the house haha. My family (apart from my mom) honestly thinks I never go out and have few friends and probably think I'm an innocent girl still when its kind of the opposite lol. I feel like if I told them certain things they would always be questioning me and I'd rather not deal with it

    • Yea I get that!

  • I'm pretty sure my parents don't think I'm a virgin.

    We've never out and out spoken about it - but my mum for sure knows I'm not; and I'm pretty sure my dad's aware of the fact too. It's not like it's taboo or anything for me to talk about with them, I've just never felt the need to really discuss my sex life with my parents.

    • Would you like to? Or it's to wired?

    • Not really- I mean, I wouldn't mind talking to - at least my mum about sex but I don't know. I'm not going to go in to details with her - and I sure as hell don't want to know anything about their sex life - so I assume they feel the same in regards to me. So yeah - whilst I'd be fine telling me mum, I had sex with this guy and then talking about subsequent issues surrounding that - I wouldn't be comfortable if it was anything more than an off hand comment like that.

    • Cool! : )

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  • I don't think they give a sh*t, and if they do, I don't give a sh*t about what they think :P but my dad most certainly doesn't and I doubt my mom does. My dad tends to care more about just being smart and not doing anything to get my brother or I in jail or something too serious (would joke if we do drugs to bring him home some or something, I don't and never care for drugs though) and my mom was more focused on pure education and financial stuff and whatnot. I don't think either ever cared about virginity. Doesn't hurt only had boys, and (sadly) boys aren't held up to virginity standards like girls.

    *shrugs* tbh, I think both genders should be held up to it somewhat. I don't care about waiting for marriage or anything, but at least wait, give a relationship a long period of time before engaging in such so you don't make any mistakes. Rushing into stuff is just so dumb.

    • U make a good point : )

  • Yes because I've never had a girlfriend. Never brought one or ever went to HS events like prom, homecoming, and what not. Never had a date and they are aware of it. At 24, I still haven't even kissed a girl though so forget sex. But yeah, they know now that girls really aren't into me. When I was younger, for some reason they expected me to become some stud when I got older, especially my mom haha. Boy were they wrong.

    • Ur still a stud ; ) and you will find a great girl! : )

    • Lol you haven't seen me.

    • No offense dude, but why do you think that you are ugly ? I am a super virgin and even I haven't had my first date, my first kiss, and have not even touched a girl. I never had a girlfriend too. On top of that I am 4 years older than you. I will tell you one truth. Only some girls like me, not most. Still, I don't think that I am ugly. Ugly, is just a word. You are not ugly.

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  • Nah, they have no illusions about the state of my virginity, lol. They've had some idea since I was about 18 I'm sure. We don't talk about it right out and I've neither confirmed nor denied because they've never straight out asked. But I'm more open about sex in general with my dad. We joke about it, haha.

  • they are pretty sure I am not. my mom gave me condoms for christmas. Very nice condoms though. Anyway though they have heard things and well.. yea.. they know.

  • they do. because I am one. I'm a bit young for sex,at least in my country,i mean it's not unheard of that kids have sex at my age,but most kids lose their virginity later on. and I doubt I'll talk to my parents about it,it's just...awkward.

  • I actually am a virgin, and my father knows. My mother seems to have her doubts. All the men in her life have been sin incarnate, so she doesn't seem to think men are capable of holding back.She also thinks I'm frickin' George Clooney. She also figures if I remained celibate for very long, the girl I was dating would just roofie me or something.

  • They think I am one because I am one. And it's no big deal.

    • : )

  • my parents know I'm a vigin because I am. I'm very open with my parents and when I lose it ill just flat out tell them.

  • Well it was always kinda "taboo" to talk about it... We were expected to wait till marriage which none of my siblings did lol (4). She probably thinks I'm a virigin (because I am heh). I remember once my I was talking to my sister one day and she was like,

    " like any boys at school?"

    "nah not really"

    Pause..."any girls you like?"

    ... Thanks Sis. Just because I had a boyfriend yet lol

  • No.

    They were both still alive when I got married.

    • : )

  • From the way they talk to me,i can say yes they know I'm a virgin.We can talk about it openly at home but at certain limits.

    • Sweet : )

    • :D

  • I am a virgin. Nuff said. If I wanted to lose it though, I doubt they'd know. No, we don't talk about sex.

  • Not a chance, my mum does the washing, she's seen plenty messy bedsheets, that woman knows what goes on

    • Lmao! ; )

  • i've never had any kind of sexual conversation with my parents but my dad knows I'm not, he's never worried about what I do for the most part.

    • So how does your dad know that?

    • he's seen me in the past with girls and he knows what's going on, it just stays unspoken.

    • Oh. Okay. : )

  • ahahahahaha

    YES they do think that. it's totally taboo. if my mom ever found out, I'd be deported to Saudi.

    • *notes this moment* it's official. slipslender = nonvirgen. :-D

    • lmfao.

    • So what would happen if they found out?

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  • My parents probably thought I lost it way sooner than I actually did...

  • I don't know, but I am. It's not taboo or anything, it's just not a subject that's not brought up a whole lot.

  • No, I do 't think they do. We'd never talk about that though o:

    • So they think your still a virgen?

    • No they don't, lol

  • No. They just don't know who I lost it with. It's not hard for my mom to guess since that's the only Girlfriend I had.

    • Lol

  • yea it really weird to talk about anything sexual with my parents.

    • So they know your not virgen?

    • virgin and no I mean I don't talk about anything sexual with them.

    • ; ) got it

  • They think I am and I am. It's not taboo at all with my family, we're very open.

    • That's really cool! : )

  • No, they know I'm not. When I was in high school, my boyfriend at the times Mom, came in and caught us...twice, I think? She called and told my mom. It was an awkward conversation about being safe after that.

    Anyways, my brother has no problem talking about sex with my parents and making jokes. That's probably because he lives with them. I talk about sex a lot, but I've never felt comfortable talking about it in front of them.

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