It means more the older you (meaning a guy) get, up to a point.
In your teens and early 20s men are programmed by nature to just run around like crazy and "pollinate" as many females as possible spreading their gene pool, before getting eaten by a leopard (historically). As you get older and thus having survived longer, your mind changes - you are now more selective with which females you combine your genes, and you are more invested in the well-being of the offspring.
Up to my early 20s, sex to me meant literally exactly as much as going to the bathroom. You have this internal pressure building up and you release it a certain way. Like take a leak if it's the pressure to pee, and slip inside some girl if it's the sexual pressure. Parents brought me up relatively well mannered, so I wasn't nasty about it (just like different people exhibit different culture of how and where they go about urinating), but fundamentally that is what it felt like, even though I was courteous and respectful of society norms yada yada.
It is quite different now though - I am a lot more emotionally invested and even with pretty hot females, there's not much interest in sex for the sake of sex alone. Maybe if you locked me up for 6 months or more there would be temporarily more interest in sex for the sake of sex, but generally not.
Hey dude, I like your answer, you strike as someone who has seen both sides of the fence. Mind reading my post and telling me if there's any truth to it when you were younger? I'm something of a student of social standards and mentality.
The general formula goes is, the more selfish the guy is, the more he can disconnect sex with romantic emotions.
Selfish does not necessarily mean they are BAD, many of them try and make the girl feel comfortable, state their intentions, and even can be giving to friends, but in the end, they can't sacrifice what they really want most when the chips are down, sex being one of them. Which leads to it being kind of viewed as a product to trade between two people.
Don't get the wrong idea, women can do this too, it's much more common than you think. On the other hand, you'll also find many guys view sex exactly the same way you do. I'm in the middle though, I can UNDERSTAND why and how people can manage to not connect emotions to sex, but I can't go through with the thought of treating a girl like some kind of casual sex retail vendor. That's essentially what they are doing. It's feels so grimy.
Just calling this in before it happens, you're probably going to get a lot of anonymous answers on this post, some people don't have the courage to back up their beliefs and put a face on their answers.
Certainly reasonable. The more selfish a person is the more anything is about themselves (including sex) and not the other people involved
Danke.
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What's Your Opinion? Sign Up Now!It is true men don't need to have an emotional connection to have sex, but that doesn't mean we don't prefer to have an emotional connection.
Being emotional in anyway is being taught to guys as being unmanly and uncool, but trust me, I think the majority of guys prefer relationships to ONS's and would much rather have sex with someone they love than with a girl they don't. Some guys just don't show it because they are simply trying to fit in to societies male image.
Sex means a lot to me. I find it to be one of the most important parts of a relationship and I feel sex brings people closer together than almost anything on the planet. Admittedly there are times where I just want to scratch the itch and I would easily settle for a quick romp with just about any attractive girl, but at the end of the day I would still much rather prefer passionate sex with a girl who I have a connection with and am in love with.
A) men can have sex with no emotional connection.
B) when a man is in love, having sex with that person has a lot of emotional meaning.
You're still not getting it.
It's not that sex has no meaning for a guy, or that we don't feel anything.
It's that we *can* separate the two.
The fact is that when we do feel something for the girl, having sex is the probably the key most important way for the guy to feel loved, to express his emotions, to bond with her, and all of that.
Which is why in the confines of a relationship, a woman who won't have sex with a guy can really make the guy feel unloved.
In other words, sex can mean everything to a guy.
It just doesn't have to.
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