If you guys are getting into the technicalities of what is "considered" sex and a loss of virginity, you are not ready to have any kind of sexual intercourse, and I mean the latter word in its true sense. None of that kind of contact.
If she, as a person, is so obsessed with virginity, she shouldn't be fooling around sexually in the first place. She needs to come to terms with why her virginity matters to her (which I can't help you with, because it meant nothing to me) and discuss with herself or with you when and who she wants to lose it to
As a final aside, I will tell you there is a large chance that because you would be the first to do it anally with her, she would not be prepared, most likely not like it, and you would be left there holding the "bag", so to speak, because she'd have her clothes on before you could say "I kinda like this"
Virginity is something that has always been attributed to women. When the hymen breaks from penile penetration then you're no longer a virgin. Now, we all know the hymen can break from things other than penetration of a penis and we won't go into that discussion, but it does raise other issues on virginity for a woman.
So, when does it happen for guys? A much tougher and opinionated question to answer.
I would have to go with any first sexual experience with a girl where the penis is stimulated (or at least attempted) to orgasm. This would include BJs and anal with a girl (or a guy if you're into that). However, others will say that there must be vaginal penetration, which keeps it in line with a girl losing her virginity.
What it all comes down to is what do you believe counts as losing your virginity?
I think this is also a case (right or wrong) where it could count to the next person you date. If it's of concern to them, then their definition may also come into play.
vir·gin·i·ty Audio Help /v?r'd??n?ti/ Pronunciation Key - Show Spelled Pronunciation[ver-jin-i-tee] Pronunciation Key - Show IPA Pronunciation
–noun 1. the state or condition of being a virgin.
2. the state or condition of being pure, fresh, or unused.
3. Informal. any naive, uninitiated, or uninformed state.
Im saying YEP ! Virginit means PURE. after either act. you are not PURE
I guess you should step back and get your priorities in tack. see where you stand with your own virginity and what it means to you . as well as her also.
you should wait. if you need the answer to these kind of questions. THEN WAIT !
You're worried about saving your virginity? Maybe you want to wait on having any sort of sex then, I think anything you do as a guy will count to losing your virginity (aside from things you do yourself). Rather than find loop-holes in the virginity theory, just save yourselves until you're ready to go all the way.
"loop-holes in the virginity theory". Very well put.
Getting head, or having oral sex is NOT losing your virginity. Having anal sex would be a lose of virginity for a guy but I'm not sure about for a girl. Loosing your virginity involves penetration, but I'm not sure if the a**hole counts for a girl.
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What's Your Opinion? Sign Up Now!I'm betting that most women would no longer consider you a virgin either way. I wouldn't. And I wouldn't consider her a virgin either, after she's had her mouth all over some guy. It's still a sex act and calling it something else is a technicality - like cheating and then saying it didn't mean anything. And I would you really want your first time with someone to be anal anyway?
your both too young to have sex anyway.and anal sex is not the way to lose your virginity
I honestly wish you would f*** off preaching to people. Who are you to decide how old a person should be before they have sex?
If they have to ask the question then they are too young and immature to have sex
No. Possibly they are too immature to be having sex. NOT necessarily too young. Two completely different things.
Anal and vaginal sex is still sex so you won't be virgins
Virginity is generally considered to be only through vaginal penetration
I say the best answer for this question is, wait to have sex. If you both want to keep your virginity then you're obviously not ready.
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