Does him buying lube mean I'm bad in bed?

I've just started sleeping with the guy I'm seeing. Anyway, it was the third time we've slept together and he pulled out a bottle of lube this time that he said he bought for us, does this mean I'm difficult to have sex with or something or did he just want to experiment ?
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  • It may be that he might want you to try anal as was suggested. However, first a question. When you have sex with him, are you quite wet and stay wet, or does it get kinda dry after a bit and you have to stop? Maybe he wants to prolong the action so to speak and use lube to keep you nice and lubricated so that you guys have keep going.

    Obviously, using lube DOES NOT mean your bad in bed. If you were bad in bed, then either, if he was smart, he would talk to you and help you to become his fantasy lover by teaching you how to have sex the way he loves it, or he would simply look for another girl. Since he is still around, it probably means that your NOT bad in bed. So don't be silly.

    Look, why not sit him down and talk to him. Tell him that something has got you bothered and you want to ask him about something. Then just ask him what exactly was the lube that he bought for? It may be that he was trying to help you. You won't know until you talk to him. Communication is so important when it comes to relationships, and even more important when it comes to sex. Don't shut down, talk to him. :)

  • for women, the measure of how good they are in bed is how much the woman enjoys it. The more you enjoy the sex, the better the sex is for the man. The need for lube is indicative that you aren't enjoying it. Or it could be that he wants you to ask him for anal sex - few things are better in life than a girl who asks for anal sex.

    but with anal sex the rules are the same. It is only good sex if you enjoy it. It's a little gross but a litmus test to determine whether or not you would enjoy anal sex is whether or not you are comfortable farting loudly around him. If you immediately 'clinch up' after a loud fart, chances are you can't relax enough for anal sex to not be painful - because you can not clinch during anal sex, especially when its just getting started. Of course, if you can train yourself to be comfortable farting loudly in his presence, that's a good way to train yourself to enjoy anal sex.

Most Helpful Girls

  • LOL my friend told me her boyfriend brought lube once. They never used it and eventually she found out he brought it cause he was talking about sex with his friend at work and the friend said that if my friend's boyfriend had lube that she'd be more willing to do anal ahahaha

  • don't worry. lube can be your best friend...or his..but not something you should worry about. haha.

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  • You're likely reading too much into this. It could mean that you're tight, it could mean he'd just like to get you wetter than you've been getting, it could be a kind of lubricant that adds sensation, it could be flavored or scented, and he likes the taste or smell, it could mean he want's to try anal, it could men you're a little tight and he doesn't want to hurt you, it could mean he just likes the feel, it could mean a ton of things.

    Try not to take this as an insult, or any kind of commentary on your ability in bed, or whether you're any good, or what. Don't read too much into this stuff. You might drive yourself nuts. If it really bothers you, then just ask him point blank. Try not to ask in a way that sounds accusatory or leading or loaded in any way. Just ask in a way that is neutral and curious, and whatever the answer, just try not to get offended. It's likely not a slight against you, it's likely not personal.

    Don't worry.

  • When you are aroused fully - the vagina is self lubricative. if he has come up with lubes means that he may not finding it slippery enough - reasons may be that you are holding yourself up or not getting into the mood to make yourself all wet.

    Chances that he want to lube your other hole. But neither shows that you are not good in bed only you can do better.

  • Can never have enough lube,When was the last time you had a bladder infection from the friction and irritation of the urethra ?

  • maybe he wants to try anal with you.

  • It means he wants to try to untie your ballon knot.

  • You probably have a really tight vagina / anus, and he wants to avoid hurting you.

    This is a GOOD thing; this means he knows what he's doing. Don't be self-conscious. :)

  • No. It's biology. Buy some water base lotion and use it routinely before before sexual activity including masturbation.

  • dat p**** like a hole made of sand paper

  • no it might be because your just tight