Does Size Truly Matter to a Woman?

This is a ticklish question and in truth, the answer is multifaceted.

Now, if one were to believe the hype of male enhancement ads, every woman in the world wants a Long Don Silver in the boudoir. I can tell you from experience, this just isn't true. I don't think I can stress enough the importance of ability and technique over size.

I know of a good friend of mine, a wonderful young man, intelligent, sweet and attractive, (he models even) who can't keep a chick around to save his life. His issue?

Dude has a fourteen inch member.

*Ouch.*

He even complained about his lack of companionship to me and I told him that maybe he needed to finesse it a bit; get the beauty "primed and ready" so to speak, and when the time was right, take it slow and easy and try not to penetrate too deeply.

He shook his head in amazement, "I just don't understand, a woman can stretch to have a baby!" he replied. I looked at him, incredulous, "Hun, a woman doesn't want to have a baby every time she sees you!"
"In truth, the average man, who comes in at 5.5 to 6.0 inches, can satisfy the average woman."


He laughed, but I couldn't take credit for that one. A stand up comedienne whose name escapes me at the moment (byproduct of being older), made this declaration when talking about a man who approached her bragging about his humongous size.

In truth, the average man, who comes in at 5.5 to 6.0 inches, can satisfy the average woman. That said, every woman is different.


As one gynecologist told me, women are different sizes internally, just as men are different sizes externally. That means that for every man who is four inches, there is, in nature, a perfect fit.

Likewise, Mr. Fourteen Incher can locate a woman who can take him in with very little problems.

In this I see the miraculous symmetry of life emerging once more, even in the realm of human sexuality.

Does Size Truly Matter to a Woman?


And it make sense.

But if you happen to be twelve and are attempting to couple with, lets say, an internal four--well, a round peg won't fit into a square hole.

This is where the old saying, "It's not the size of the boat, but the motion in the ocean" comes in.

A man can be well-endowed, but if he is careless with his lover, or disregards what she desires, three things will happen:
  1. The sex won't be good for her at all
  2. He can hurt his woman or even cause medical problems
  3. He'll be begging for sex often, not understanding why his lady love is so hesitant to get busy.

For example, an ex beau of mine was twelve in all, but his technique was severely lacking. It hurt and caused severe physical problems for me. It got to where I hated to see him coming....ahem...

My hubby is a little above average at 6.5, but I would say that his fantastic prowess and ability to make me howl at the moon were among his finer points and were in all seriousness a due part of the consideration of marriage (although his being a nice, wonderful, sweet guy helped)...

The other side of this coin of course, in that man could be too small for his chosen mate.

This is because a woman's pleasure center, call it the G-spot if you will (Lord Knows I have that "spot", so call me a Geffenberg believer), may be difficult to reach with routine or missionary entry.

There are ways to remedy this, and I have always believed it begins with technique first. Learn ways to pleasure her with your lips and hands that will drive her wild. Toys can also be introduced to liven things up.
"If a woman feels like she can open up to you, she will unleash secrets that will help you find her sensual center."

Different positioning, like rear entry, can help tilt a woman's pelvis towards you as well, so that it is easier to locate and hit the spot in question, irregardless of size. Use pillows to raise her hips--this can also help increase the depth of penetration.

Men can also find extensions which are readily available at any adult novelty store.

So, does size truly matter?

It all depends on the couple and their symmetry. When all else fails, be open about talking about your lover's likes and dislikes. If a woman feels like she can open up to you, she will unleash secrets that will help you find her sensual center, and if you do that, size won't matter in the least.

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  • I would't run from him.I love big penises.Where does he live?I will APPRECITE THE HELL OUT OF HIM!

  • This is a cliche but it's the motion of the ocean, not the ship you're riding in that will ultimately give you the best time.

    And if you don't get the right vibe to begin with, it won't matter what his size is.

  • It's odd (to me) that in the size discussion, girth is rarely mentioned. While I am just about 6 1/2 long, I am just about 2 1/4 thick - not counting the glans. I have had several lovers weigh in on the subject; some were delighted, and told me about having an incredibly "full" feeling, a few felt it was overwhelming at first, and one, I couldn't penetrate past the first inch, or so. What I also find amusing are the arguments about what "women" or "men" want, or like. While most of us understand that we are discussing generalities, I couldn't help but notice how many people took a single viewpoint, and held it as gospel. My favorite on this point is anal; if you ask some people, women are "supposed" to hate anal, unless they're porn stars. Once again, the generalities kick in; I dated a haughty freak girl that told me; "... get it out of your head..." before the clothes even came off, while I had a mousey little librarian type stop me in mid intercourse, switch to anal, and demand; "... tear me open!!!" - with only existing moisture from a previous ejaculation, and herself, for lubrication!

    I guess the bottom line is that people might find sex more satisfying if they assumed less, and communicated more. Just my 2 1/4 inches.

    Peace.

  • This is purely anecdotal and has no value.