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Don't women value giving themselves only to their husbands anymore?
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What's with all the whoring around? In the end you'll regret it when you won't be able to tell your husband honestly about your sexual past, how good it was, and the things you did.
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Shaun said "Any self respecting man would feel like you're using him after you had your fun." This couldn't be more true. And in the end women's promiscuity will stay in the mind of her man and eat away at him. He will try to shrug it off as "in the past" or try to believe her when she says "he's the best ever" but all men know women lie about such things so in the end the relationship will faulter and crumble under the wieght of lies and indescretions.
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A comment I posted on another question: Most of us don't sweat the small stuff like previous threesomes or a reasonable amount of sexual history but if you're a f***ing whore YOU ARE A F***ING WHORE! We're not going to sugarcoat it and you're never going to be anything to most guys besides a plaything, a fleshlight with a pulse ie come dumpster. Note to all women out there. This is how most guys think. If you want a good guy than you'd better act like a respectable lady. That means
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not going into heat anytime a hot guy gives you the time of day.
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29 8Because there is a crazy double standard.
Guys can go around and do whatever they want, and they are expected to and it is glorified, while if girls do it, they are sluts or whores.. And sometimes people just don't want to wait. If you love someone, it should not matter if they are a virgin or not.
I don't give a sh*t about their past just be upfront with menif you an STD is all I ask
I definitely don't but I'm a liberal atheist and a feminist on top of being bisexual so I'm probably not your target audience anyway lol seriously though my body is a gift for no one, I'm a human animal and I like sex so I have it. You sound a bit ignorant if you honestly think every man in the world is like you and wants an inexperienced virgin to marry. I know plenty of guys who aren't that shallow and actually look at the person, and who are also believers in sexual liberation. I know guys married to girls who were promiscuous before them, I know a couple people who are really sexually adventurous in their relationships, etc. Not everyone is stuck in the dark ages, love. Believe in what you want, by all means, but gain some perspective and understanding about the world and the people in it. Many guys still believe as you do but many also think very differently.
And yes there are some girls who wait for marriage, I know a few.
i have too much pride in myself to sleep with a bunch of guys who don't respect me but I don't put much thought in what my future husband who I've never met will think about what I did before I met him. you can't live your life to please someone else, especially someone you've never met and don't know exists at the time. stop trying to police grown women's sex lives, if they wanna do them that's their business. my future husband could be in the middle of an orgy right now, what he did in his younger days is his business just like what I choose to do (or not do) in my yonger days is my business.
do you know how many married women have whorish pasts? whores have been getting wifed for centuries, their men just didn't know about it *shrug*
What's with all the whoring around? In the end you'll regret it when you won't be able to tell your husband honestly about your sexual past, how good it was, and the things you did."
Who are they whoring around with? So these guys that are whoring around (like you question asker) how come you and the other male whores don't value saving yourself for your wife? It's the same thing, the difference is, your fragile male ego. Women, we don't care about your 'conquests' because our egos aren't attached to our sex organs. You talk about taking a girls (wife's) virginity like it is some prize or something. I've seen a lot of double standards in my life but NEVER as much as is thrown around this site. A guy that has a lot of sex partners is experienced...a pro...a hero or whatever, a girl that has that same amount of sex partners is whore, a slut a come dumpster. It's a freaking joke! If you are allowed to have multiple sex partners then the woman you are allegedly going to marry someday is allowed to have multiple sex partners and you know what...GET OVER IT. Maybe you should have kept your d*** in your pants. You've already stated that you've slept with whores...it makes you a whore too sport. Heard the saying "lay with the dogs get up with the fleas"? It's just more immature, ridiculous, pathetic double standards. Go ahead and start clicking the down arrow button just because I don't agree with you. Another saying that is more applicable here..."that's the pot calling the kettle black" You sleep with a whore it makes you a whore. "If you want a good guy than you'd better act like a respectable lady. That means not going into heat anytime a hot guy gives you the time of day." Same is true for you hypocrite, If you want a good girl, a PURE girl, then don't go hopping in a whore's bed (like you've already done). It also means not hitting on a girl and trying to f*** her brains out just because she smiled at you.
Lets be honest a lot of guys want that ideal virgin. They want to be the one that gets to say I popped her cherry... But for men it's less special. There is no physical change so life goes on as before. So for him to f*** whores you know what have fun with that but for a girl it's different. No respectable woman will spread her legs for anyone.
Thank you!
That's not my deal.
You're f***ing dumb it's the same for both genders and having sex shouldn't be shameful for women it's a natural part of life
f*** you bitch =.=
Question Asker Said to Anonymous User:
"I've f***ed plenty of whores in my days. Nothing wrong with it. Just don't fall in love and think you can turn a whore into a housewife."
Okay, so Question Asker, you want women to save themselves for marriage, but you blatantly just said you f*** all these girls?
WTF?!
Don't sit up here and start and argument about virginity and marriage, like you know what's best, when your just as dirty and gross as the whorish women your complaining about!
How f**** dare you!?
Exactly. Talk about hypocrite.
Major, and then has the nerve to attack women about or sexual habits. How about you make sure your sh*ts together before trying to clean up someone else's? Lol damn I hate hypocritical people...
Nice. Take my words out of context. Why don't you read everything I've written here before jumping the gun.
No, you asked why women aren't saving themselves for marriage and throughout the entire forum, complained about women having 7,8,9,20+ partners, and then stated that whores don't get married, or deserve crappy partners. Everything you complained about described yourself, so how dare you make such a hypocritical statement, then argue like your righteous? That's the gun I'm jumping because you have no grounds to state something like this because all the negativity of it reflects you?
bottom line is no man wants to be compared to her past lovers, the less lovers she's had the more valuable she is, simple as that.
Yup!
" This couldn't be more true. And in the end women's promiscuity will stay in the mind of her man and eat away at him."
Maybe if she's constantly throwing it in his face. He knew what he was getting involved with before he married or got with the girl, so 9 times out of 10, he'll learn to live with it. Well, the sensible men at least.
"All men know women lie about such things so in the end the relationship will faulter and crumble under the wieght of lies and indescretions."
If you knew anything realistic about relationships, it takes a lot more than a partner lying about their sexual history to end one.
The big realistic picture is - the girl's man, will not give a damn.
So what he's not her best in regards to sex? She's probably not his. So long as the sex is fufilling and satisfying to the both of them, it's not that huge of a problem.
Men mean so much more to women than just sex; and most men see much more value in women than just sex - real talk.
Men who are NOT INSECURE don't give two sh*** about any of a women's ex lovers, because he knows he will always be better than them in every aspect to her because he was the one who she picked over all.
And the focus of sex fades after a while - bringing to light what's really important and what gives an excellent relationship it's foundation; love.
Relationships crumble when the union of love is gone. Relationships based off of great sex usually don't last long because after a while, sex just isn't enough to keep it together.
Why?
Because there's simply more to it, than that.
Plain. And. Simple.
Keep telling yourself that. You don't know men at all.
And you don't know women at all. :(
I know enough to know you lie about these sorts of things. Maybe its because you don't have the balls to tell the truth or something. Ask yourself what percentage of guys lie about their sexual history versus women? That's what I thought!
Lol there was no point to your last comment. Both sides lie. My aunt and uncle have been married for 20 years, and my aunts still hearing about bits and pieces of his vibrant sexual past. Guys are more open because they don't take sh*t for it. If the treatment was equal on both sides, women wouldn't have a problem fully opening up. But it's men like you who make it difficult. Criticizing women when you've done the same or more nasty whorish things...
"Guys are more open because they don't take sh*t for it." Well at least we agree on this. We're not pressured to lie and therefore we do not.
Yea. I also think the pressure on women's virginity has lessened over the years too because sex has become way to significant in most relationships. Maybe that's why more women are inclined to behave in an over-sexed manner?
How does having standards in a mate make things 'difficult'?
Sweetness! So you think sex is more important than love do you?
@shaun I think having standards makes it easier for you and your partner if you both meet them. @ Question Asker When did I say that? My argument is the opposite; I think sex has become more important than love and connection in most relationships nowadays.
Well I'm ready for the girls to be mad at me but I agree with you. I'm young and been with the same guy for a long time... He's not a virgin but I am and I'm dead set on waiting to be married and he knows that and has from the start. No he doesn't cheat on me and he's okay with me being a virgin. So I think that it should be that way. People should wait till they're married to f*** everyone and their mother and brother and sh*t.
My choice has nothing to do with feeling superior it just works for me and is the way I want to live my life
Why would the girls be mad at you? It's great that your saving yourself, I'm saving myself too. It's not like it's a bad thing. It's just not as huge of a deal as it used to be because of the numerous reasons givin throughout the forum.
And that is why you have a faithful guy. He values your body as well as his. Now if you didn't value yours he wouldn't either. And that's real talk.
It should be an even bigger deal these days. Not beacuse of pregnancy but because of all the diseases out there. Stay clean people! And condoms don't protect against WARTS! Ewww.
"People should wait till they're married to f*** everyone and their mother and brother and sh*t. " So what do you think of your guy then? Seems like he got the better deal which is why he's okay with it. No one's mad at you for agreeing with him at least I'm not But it seems idiotic for men to expect and demand women value themselves by saving their virginity but excuse yourself for not valuing yourself because you're male like the QA does.
@QA "Now if you didn't value yours he wouldn't either." Then why should women value themselves as well as men who don't value their own body? Why expect women to value a guy's body if doesn't value his own?
Now that I'm older and still single, most of my experiences are with married women or at the very least divorcees. Am not necessarily proud of myself for this, but justify it by the fact that as a single guy, I'm not the one who is cheating. Not sure their husbands would see it that way.
I've f***ed plenty of whores in my days. Nothing wrong with it. Just don't fall in love and think you can turn a whore into a housewife.
So why should we think a man whore can be turned into a husband? I'm a virgin, what if I won't want to be with someone who could have caught an STD?
Because guys want and some do f*ck girls they deem sluts and get a virgin or nice girl just like they claim all women do with the whole go after bad boys then settle down with a nice girl thing.
First of all you take an STD test when you get married. Second of all a man whore can be a good husband because guys, once they've found their woman, are much less promiscuous then woman.
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Right here is where you and I break ranks, QA. I walk my talk. I've turned down sex.
I've turned down sex too. Not very often but it has happened. Most recently when a coworker wanted me to f*** her on the down low and behind my girls back. There was a time I'd have hit it (she's hot) but these days I'm more into being able to look myself in the mirror.
Am quite offended by this guys. The fact that these women choose to sleep with me does not make them whores. Desperate maybe, but whores - no! Our definitions clearly differ. I understood that there was some sort of financial transaction between a whore and her client and this isn't what happens here. As for STDs, to keep my visa status, I have to get tested every six months, so I know I'm good for another four. Besides, have you never heard of condoms? To get married, it's the law to be tested
I was using whore as in slut. You're correct. Whores typically get paid. I didn't know about testing for foreigners. How crappy would that be to get deported for catching something? And condoms don't prevent warts.
I'm not sure about that. As a complete barrier protection, I'm sure condoms do protect against warts. Pubic lice no, but warts yes. In any case, I don't think I've ever met a woman who wasn't completely waxed which makes lice unlikely. However, in terms of catching something, you make it sound like it's a different woman every night (I know it only takes but they are all expats like me, ie: tested) Am flattered of course but if I gave you that impression I apologise, it's not like that at all.
Don't men value only giving themselves to their wives anymore? How hurtful is it to know you've kept yourself pure for this man (your husband,) just for him to tell you how many threesomes and chicks he nailed a year ago?
Remember, the virgin at the wedding thing was a two way deal; He's a virgin, She's a virgin. It's not one over the other.
Can you just answer my question and then ask your own later?
I did answer your question - because it's not fair men get to have as much sex as they want but women are expected to remain pure, when 9 times out of 10, our husbands will have plenty of experience. It's not fair women are called whores for doing what is just as natural for us, as it is for men, but men get off clean. Excused because they're guys. That's bull. So women are sick of the double standard and are enjoying their sexuality. Why is that a problem? You've had a partner, she's had one.
She is. Women no longer want to be virgins since men aren't doing their share of the deal. Seeing as how most virgin guys are virgins unwillingly not from value.
The difference is women WANT ment to have experience. Just look it up. Men on the other hand DON"T WANT women with experience. Generality I know but it's true, in general.
Indeed. Now, some women are slutty, yes, but most women only engage in sex with partners they feel a deep love and connection with- not just any old guy. Plus, I feel it makes a girl with a little experience in love and relationships a better lover/partner for marriage because she knows the ropes a little better than a virgin who's never really dated and kept to herself most her life. Just a thought though.
Women don't want men who have experience by slutting about but men who've taken sex ed and can communicate. Sex is an easy set up. D*ck meet vagina or mouth or butt. Experience with one girl might not work for another. All past experience gives you is some tips which you can get from sex ed, sex101, the kama sutra, exploring each others' bodies during foreplay. You might want to recheck what women consider experience. Guys use this line to excuse bs themselves because they're natural sluts
i think women started the sleeping around thing with the sexual revolution before they were more reserved men simply want more sex then women its easier or them to not put out
What's the number one thing girls want in a sex parnter besides size and stamina. ITS SKILLS! Where are these skills obtained then? Women want and crave promiscous men! They do it because they believe it will lead to a more satisfying sexual experience. The same can't be said for what men want.
I like how he avoided your question with some bullsh*t
He he, it goes both ways. I asked a question about men having lots of sex; most told me a women who was bad at sex is a deal breaker for the relationship. So, on one side, we have men saying they need good sex, which is obtained by exp. Then on the other, we have men saying a women with a sex life is a disgusting whore. Damn, women can never win huh? Make up your minds...
I'll clear it up for you. We want a woman to be good at sex for us. We dont' want her bringing in a bunch of moves she learned her last year in college with the entire membership of PHI STICKMA GAMMA. Instead we want to learn how to get each other off together.
"Instead we want to learn how to get each other off together." Which guys don't need to get by slutting around since girls don't need to learn to get each other off by slutting around. lol at you saying a guy needs to learn to get a woman off by sleeping around when he could do just like you want women to do & learn to get each other off.
How does Udolpixie turn my post into something that supports guys being sluts? Check my comments. I'm not saying slutting around by either gender is a good thing. You're out of line with that one.
Exactly. But that means a women will still have a sexual history and maybe a partner who has been better than you. but so long as you " get each other off," and the sex is satisfying for the both of you, your not gonna care about her ex lovers, and she's not going to care about yours.
"I'm not saying slutting around by either gender is a good thing." But you are excusing males by saying sex is all on the women.
You're also excusing men by saying man whores can be good husbands by woman whores can't. You may think it's bad for both genders but you only treat one gender badly for doing it.
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I have: "I'm not saying slutting around by either gender is a good thing." But you are excusing males by saying sex is all on the women. Your quote: Either is just nasty but women are the gatekeepers to sex. It's on them. You're also excusing men by saying man whores can be good husbands by woman whores can't. Your quote: Second of all a man whore can be a good husband because guys Once again you may think it's bad for both genders but you only treat one gender badly for doing it.
Indeed, you do tend to focus on the shortcomings of women, and ignore the shortcomings of men in order to give your argument credibility. No one learns anything from being biased...