Douching Before Oral Sex?

[Anonymous]

I don't smell or anything and I'm bare(I go get a wax) but before my boyfriend and I have oral sex,I take a shower(Obviously common sense) and he has me douche,then shower again(washing down there again) Is that bad for me?

[nymphoman]

Unless your using a wire wool brush and bleach then I would say no it is fine.

It's nice to be clean, he is probably like me that will only give oral if you are absolutely fresh and clean.

It's not very nice to go licking something that although might not smell is likely to when you get right in their and it's really awkward to have to back off and not have the girl be offended.

After all you do pee from that area and have vaginal fluids that don't exactly smell like a bag of roses.

That goes for ALL girls, no matter how clean you are.

I also like them to be shaved clean, I think like me he has an issue with germs and stuff when it comes to oral.

My guess is he is quite rigorous cleaning his own genitals too and maybe even shaves?

However you should only need to do this in one go, you should be perfectly cleaned out with 5 minutes with a shower head and a good massage around, if you use soaps then use natural soaps otherwise you may cause a reaction from the chemicals and just rinse after so he doesn't taste it.

Shouldn't need to be a chore though, if it is too much and you feel disrespected then refuse to, there is nothing he can do about it, if he refuses to give you oral then so be it, don't do anything that makes you uncomfortable, there's being clean then there's been treat like your dirty and must do beyond a decent clean.

[Asker]

Well,i douche everyday cause oral is the only way I can get off.But I just won't ask for it anymore,cause it makes me itchy and dry down there

[Asker]

And no he doesn't shave nor wash beforehand

[nymphoman]

Wow, that's pretty selfish of him, he instructs you to clean up and doesn't himself. I say lighten up on the intense washing and just have a gentle wash for your own benefit and use a moisturiser, it sounds like your doing more harm than good.

[Asker]

He'll only do it if I douche.But nevermind,i just won't ask for oral anymore

[PrettyBrownDiva]

That's just too much. A shower is enough to get clean and the douching the 1st time is all u need. For him to have u take a shower and douche after u already did because he's so ignorant to know the vagina cleans itself is ridiculous. I would never want to be with a man that shallow and uncomfortable to give me oral that he make me go through hell just to get it.

[Retronym]

I too would consult a doctor.

Plus, I cannot imagine anyone needs to douche often. That's insane.

Sounds like this Boyfriend has issues thinking vagina's are nasty and dirty.

I noticed there was no mention of your Boyfriend taking a shower. He wants you to shower and he doesn't?

Many times when I have used a bathroom toilet, my penis will hit the front edge of the bowl and/or touch the water and/or get back splashed with urine. I sure hope he is washing his penis before you have sex or give a BJ. Now that would be nasty. I always wash & clean mine prior to use.

That's my sign of respect & love for my partner.

[peace-love-couture]

Douching is bad,whether it be once a month or once a year,all douching is bad.Vagina's are self cleaning,hence discharge.

A shower should be enough,with water.No soaps,as they irritate the sensitive skin down there.And Douching and using soaps down there cause an imbalance in vaginal bacteria,making you more susceptible to yeast infections.

I hope he washes twice before oral sex,cause he's acting as though you're germ central

[Anonymous]

Douche should only be used every so often so yea you are over using it .. You should try taking a sit down bath because it does the same as a douche .. . This usually work but all women are different

[Anonymous]

Douching is a bad idea. It washes bacteria up into your reproductive tract and increases the risk of infections. Don't do it. Washing externally is sufficient.

[l-hedoniste]

I would confirm with your doc, but douching doesn't have a good rep, healthwise. It's critics don't like unnecessarily and artificially changing the vaginal environment, and think it puts you at greater risk for infection. Again, if you're set on this, and you want to know the risks, you should have it out with your doc.

[John83]

I wouldn't recommend it. I think just a shower would be fine

[Anonymous]

douching actually upsets the balance of good bacteria in your vagina that protects you, and makes it so that you're more likely to get a yeast infection. go to the planned parenthood site or webmd for more information.