During BJ's jaw pain & getting bored?

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Background: I'm bi and so is my lover. I know he really loves blowjobs, and I absolutely love making him squirm and moan. Also I ADORE getting eaten out but wanna be able to return the favor so to speak. However, the actual act of sucking **** just doesn't appeal to me that much.Problem: After a couple of minutes my jaw always starts to hurt, any ways to avoid this? I also get so f***ing bored. Unless he's crazy into it I find myself just wanting to be doing something else after a bit. I have seriously never been able to see a blowjob out to the end! Any advice on how to a) make my jaw stop hurting, b) keep myself focused on the act at hand, and maybe even c) ignore the gag reflex in the event I can actually focus on the BJ?

JennyNice · Accepted Answer

try this next time, it's could help

1. First you need to get him turned on - be more aggressive, grab his stuff, slowly massage his balls through his pants, it's important that you act as seductive as possible - the more you're turned on - the more he'll be turned on. Pull his pants down slowly and act as naughty as possible - this is a great turn on.

2. Grab his hand and lick on his fingers slowly before you give him head - just put his middle finger slowly into your mouth and suck on it, up and down, slide it slowly and moan - you have to moan a lot so he feels like a king.

3. As you're licking one finger, slowly start stroking his shaft (penis) with your other hand, you have to be on your knees and he should be standing, look him in the eyes - this way you can see his reactions. You need to love giving him head if you want him to really enjoy it.

4. Most girls make the mistake of being too soft - don't do that, grab his penis tightly and stroke it hard, as you're twisting his shaft with one hand slowly start sucking on the head (the tip) of his penis, curl your tongue around it, twist it in circles, then point it upwards and slowly lick it while you're watching him.

5. Say something like "mmmmm I love it" then smile, smiling is very important - it conveys that you love it. Keep on stroking and sucking harder.

6. Start talking dirty to him, put your hands around his balls and tickle them gently - make sure you are gentle 'cause his balls are very sensitive, as you're tickling, keep on stroking and sucking.

7. Once you see that he's getting closer start stroking harder - and don't even think about slowing down. Scream at him, tell him you want it - tell him where you want it (swallowing will make him go crazy just as you want it) - then as he starts to come, you have 2 options - you can hold his penis or he can hold it - I suggest you let him hold it and squeeze it out.

8. Then hold his penis and stroke it slowly, just as if you were trying to squeeze every last drop out of him into your mouth, give it a few more finishing licks.

9. Then smile at him, open your mouth and show him what you've got in your mouth, smile, then swallow all of it - then look up at him again and open your mouth to show him it's gone. If you REALLY want to learn how to give a blow job then you have to read Jack's Blowjob Lessons ----> link

10. Smile again, believe me he'll love you for it.

Good luck

toosexualcat · Accepted Answer

Not sure if this would work for you, but it might...

Try having him stroke himself while you lick the head, then do the occasional dip his d*ck into your mouth like a lollipop, lick swirl, you know, suck...that whole thing, then let him go back to stroking... the point is, it's a weird jack off moment. He's jacking off but he's getting bj'd at the same time. It helps your mouth and I'm told the sensation is awesome. Hey, it's worth a shot, no?

Oh and for the butt thing, why not wear a finger cot? (ie those 'condoms' for your fingers for when you have a cut or something and need to keep it dry while doing something. Go look at your drug stores, they're called finger cots.)

That way, you can still finger him without your hands getting gross because believe me, I know EXACTLY what you mean. I hate getting my hands dirty as it is, ie. sticky, messy, etc. with food, I use up like 100 napkins the rare times I eat barbecue anything. So the thought of that "stuff" on my fingers? no to the hell no!

But the finger cot I bet would work. Now, I don't have a guy asking me for this, but that's how I'd try it if I had to...I mean, if he asked.

Fourkaitlyn · Accepted Answer

So for me when my jaw starts to hurt, I just do to the balls. Lol.

I have no idea how to ignore the boredom thing, happens to me sometimes and I just want him to bust already so I kinda try something I haven't done and see how he reacts, so maybe do that?

You just have to practice for the gag reflex to go or sometimes it just won't. If its not going to go away then just take as much as you can before you gag and wrap your hand around the bottom so you don't gag. Mix blow job and hand job together. :)

Method · Accepted Answer

Did you try this?

1. First you need to get him turned on - be more aggressive, grab his stuff, slowly massage his balls through his pants, it's important that you act as seductive as possible - the more you're turned on - the more he'll be turned on. Pull his pants down slowly and act as naughty as possible - this is a great turn on.

2. Grab his hand and lick on his fingers slowly before you give him head - just put his middle finger slowly into your mouth and suck on it, up and down, slide it slowly and moan - you have to moan a lot so he feels like a king.

3. As you're licking one finger, slowly start stroking his shaft (penis) with your other hand, you have to be on your knees and he should be standing, look him in the eyes - this way you can see his reactions. You need to love giving him head if you want him to really enjoy it.

4. Most girls make the mistake of being too soft - don't do that, grab his penis tightly and stroke it hard, as you're twisting his shaft with one hand slowly start sucking on the head (the tip) of his penis, curl your tongue around it, twist it in circles, then point it upwards and slowly lick it while you're watching him.

5. Say something like "mmmmm I love it" then smile, smiling is very important - it conveys that you love it. Keep on stroking and sucking harder.

6. Start talking dirty to him, put your hands around his balls and tickle them gently - make sure you are gentle 'cause his balls are very sensitive, as you're tickling, keep on stroking and sucking.

7. Once you see that he's getting closer start stroking harder - and don't even think about slowing down. Scream at him, tell him you want it - tell him where you want it (swallowing will make him go crazy just as you want it) - then as he starts to come, you have 2 options - you can hold his penis or he can hold it - I suggest you let him hold it and squeeze it out.

8. Then hold his penis and stroke it slowly, just as if you were trying to squeeze every last drop out of him into your mouth, give it a few more finishing licks.

9. Then smile at him, open your mouth and show him what you've got in your mouth, smile, then swallow all of it - then look up at him again and open your mouth to show him it's gone. If you REALLY want to learn how to give a blow job then you have to read Jack's Blowjob Lessons ---->
10. Smile again, believe me he'll love you for it.

Good luck

dtaylor31906 · Accepted Answer

take it slow and do things you likke to do

like you could tease him more and make him want it more

u could start off by just licking it this will tease him a lot you just don't know and when your jaw hurt try usuing more hand and less mouth untill you can use more mouth

since he is bi maybe you can finger him in the ass and that might give you another job requiring you to focus more

TheAnswerer · Answer

I'll answer "b - focusing on the act" first:

Why don't you try a 69 position with him?

Look at the number 69. The circles are the heads and the extensions are the genitals. You get it? Both partners giving orals to each other siimultaneously!

The better you give, the better you take. How about this?

If you plan to try it, the most common position is when the male lies back and the female lies on top of her.

Now for "a - hurting jaw":

Each time you do it, you are exercising your jaw muscles, so after a couple of times, you will get more and more used to it and the pain will reduce.

Still, if you want to solve that problem, here's a way:

Start with a handjob for a couple of minutes while you lick the tip of his penis. Then initiate to blowjob. He will come quicker because you aready teased him for a couple of minutes. Since he will come quicker, the job will hopefully be over even before it starts hurting. If it starts hurting, return to handjob + licking until the pain reduces.

Now, for "c - ignore the gag reflex"

Don't take the whole penis into your mouth. Try to take less of it so that you don't gag yourself. There's no other way to get rid of the gag reflex, really.

Mande1985 · Answer

I usually play with myself or in a position to where he can play with me while I go down on him. I usually let him just face f*ck me if my jaw hurts. My gag reflexes are really good. I've learned to breath while going down all the way. It seems to help with the gagging.

Maybe you should start stroking him more often and during the time you stroke him... lean up and kiss him. Also, start sucking on the head a little more and licking. You have to vary it all up. If you don't.. you'll get bored and so will he.

sa230e · Answer

Just because you're giving a blow job doesn't mean you have to have his penis in your mouth for the whole time. If you feel your jaw getting tired, stroke him with your hands for a while. And you can still give a good BJ even without having his penis actually inside your mouth. You can stick out your tongue and lick it or use just your lips.

It's no wonder you get bored if you spend the whole doing the same thing. Don't be afraid to switch it up.

KERMlT · Answer

Go down a few times to get his penis really moist. Wrap your hand(s) around his shaft and squeeze. This tightness helps get him closer to climaxing. Put only the tip in your mouth and use your tongue to lick the tip. When you see or feel his nuts get closer to his body or feel his penis swell up in your mouth... you know he is about to finish.

Most women who dislike the taste/texture of it should try to insert as much of him as possible and swallow immediately. If things aren't fast enough, use a digit to milk his prostate. Hope that helps.

LuvRedHeads · Answer

You need to think of blowjobs as fun.  Think of how beautiful the penis is & what you would like to do to it.  Then do whatever you want, if you jaw hurts, then try something different.  Blowjobs can be so much fun if you let them be, you are the only one standing in your way.

human_condition · Answer

I always tease my boyfriend as much as possible beforehand so the actual oral doesn't last as long.

You should definitely put all you've got into it though, especially if he's eating you out a lot :)

The gag reflex thing is a bit moe complicated, it takes time to get rid of it. I tried but it took too long so I've given up on that for now. But google "stop gag reflex" or something for instructions :)

chandan2658 · Answer

dont give him bj from strat play with your hand and after sumtime when h is abot 2 realese take and suck in bj mannr and ofcourse swallow the cum

Anonymous · Answer

ha well does he know how to pull hair good? I hated my hair being pulled until I met this guy I'm with.. It's like amazing! ha ha well Its a good tingle and it don't hurt at all.. when I give a BJ its fun to let them use your head, after all your giving head lol and it just makes it all easier lol maybe it takes your guy a while to get off so a BJ would be super long! oh no lol anyways try blindfolding him.. naked. kiss his chest. touch him in places he won't expect! ha that helps with the excitement. he won't know where your gonna kiss lick or suck next! ha I don't know good luck though!

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