During sex, why do we guys love too hear our women "suffer"?

[CasaNorba]

now don't get me wrong! I love to hear women scream and moan during sex. makes me know that I'm doing a good job and that she is enjoying it. plus is just fun. I'm pretty sure it would be boring just pounding your partner while she stays all quiet. but anyways, not to defend women or anything, but I have notice that a lot of guys actually go beyond this. is like they love to be sadist during sex, instead of loving their women to scream for pleasure they rather wanna hear them screaming from pain and suffering. in other words, they rather be sadist over intimate. so for the guys that are like this; I just wanna know why does this seem so enjoyable? is it because of the trend that p*rn started or am I missing out on something? and like I said previously, I'm not asking this for any white knight types of reasons; since there are a lot of women who actually do enjoy being punished and tortured during sex and I don't wanna hear that is not true, because I'm talking from experience

[Anonymous]

I been sexually active since I was 14 and 16 years ago p*rn availability was somewhat restricted especially if you were after anything for free and on the discreet. Also 16 years ago it was rare to find p*rn depicting the woman in pain. I started enjoying it that it was hurting her from the 4th time I did it. Therefore p*rn had nothing to do with it that I liked it to hurt the girl, I will only hurt her with the penis though, never with hands, legs, mouth or objects. Also quite well endowed in length and very well endowed girth wise. I quite like it when the girl is afraid of my size and shows the fear in her that my penis will hurt her.

Usually the very first session itself I will make it painful for her as firstly I want her to feel it as much as possible that a big penis is entering her vagina. Secondly I will thrust it hard to enter her as the feeling is very nice both physically and emotionally, I also thrust it hard into her because most girls would expect it that I'd be gentle when entering them since I'm big, in fact I'd even tease them that it would be a gentle, thus it usually shocks her, I like her reaction to the shock and her crying or screaming in pain is especially nice as I know that I'm stretching her vagina more than her previous partners had. Finally I make that first insertion into her painful as I want to imprint myself somewhere in her mind and pain is a more effective way of doing it. When pumping her, I'll be quite rough in her, not so much to make her come but more so it would be painful for her. After it is over I will cuddle and hug her so she remembers it best.

I'm fine with not having a 2nd time with her, I'll be happy as I've already asserted my dominance over her, it also will make me happy as I know it will always be in the back of her mind somewhere even if negative I'm happy.

Subsequent times, I will still thrust hard into her but it isn't so much to hurt her, it's more to dominate her and for practical reasons (like she may need to work for example) I pump her just so she will be sore but not hurting too painfully.

With my long term live in girlfriend, we been together 4 years now. She knows it that I will hurt her sexually and 3-5 times per month she will get hurt quite badly. She won't know when it would be until moments before, I will force myself into her and do everything possible to hurt her vagina. The purpose of hurting her is just that, it is to dominate her, remind her she is mine and she submits to me no matter how bossy she thinks she is. If she screams, it is OK I will be happy that I can still hurt her, if she cries then I let her cry but I won't stop. After it is over she will usually curl up and cry either on the bed, in the corner of the room or in her daughter's room. The next day it does make me happy to see her in pain, especially as she would be limping and she would tell me that it was hurting quite painfully. The following night I will always treat her extra nice though.

[CasaNorba]

very true, but I have to disagree with you on p*rn not depicting women suffering 16 years ago. cause I'll be honest, 16 years ago I used to watch p*rn on the download when my parents were unaware; and as far as I remember I didn't see any difference from today's p*rn.

[Opinion Owner]

Ahhh you're obviously more experienced than me in the subject of p*rn :) We never had any decent internet connections at home and most clips were tiny and short. I seriously can't recall any p*rn that depicted women being in pain though I'll take your word for it that there were. One thing for sure, I don't miss dialup connections from that era.

[CasaNorba]

sorry, I met down low* not download

[brn2dy]

That woman must be sicker than you, if that's even possible. If I was her I'd fuck you in the ass with the biggest, hardest existing dildo until you're bleeding and have no voice from screaming. I'd repeat this procedure every day until the number reaches the number of times you hurt me.

[hollydolly]

You sure you're as big as you think you are? Sounds like overcompensating to me. Must suck to live life so insecure in yourself as a man. "I like seeing my girlfriend crying in a corner"= needle dck FYI your live in girlfriend probably knows this and is playing a role that she knows you need to see to feel like a "big man" Some pain during sex can be satisfying, but what you are describing is abuse, get some help- can't do that than at least be enough of a man to walk away - give her a shot at something real. Don't care who she is - she deserves better and you deserve a corner of your very own.

[MakeLoveNotWar]

Probably has something to do with male dominance and making your woman your bitch lol

[Anonymous]

Hurting other people makes the person doing the hurting feel powerful. Some guys would give anything to feel powerful, even if it means taking risky drugs or harming someone they care about. It's a huge ego trip to be able to hurt someone.

Most girls don't enjoy being hurt. Being domanant and hurting someone are very different. It's true that some women do enjoy being dominated, which means the guy is aggressive ... it's especially true for those who were taught to feel very guilty about sex. Being passive lets them feel kind of "off the hook" for experience sexual pleasure. But she still wants to feel pleasure, not pain. Except in couples who practice S&M safely, if a girl is crying out in pain, she does not want that activity to happen.

[peace-love-couture]

Well, I'm a girl and for me, a little pain and roughness feels good

For instance, I prefer to be fingered while I'm slightly dry, because the friction feels so good. But I think for me it's a dominance thing. I like that he has that control and power over me, in a way. He can make sex feel good or bad, but to make it feel good and a bit painful(and the fact that he knows it's hurting me) is what turns me on the most.

So I guess for me, it's mental. But physically I do enjoy the pain...

[Anonymous]

Isn't it just what guys are used to seeing in mainstream p*rn? I personally think that's the reason, plus the appeal of feeling powerful/dominant/aggressive. And you're right, lots of women like it as well, but it's still important to make sure your partner enjoys it before hurting them.

"not to defend women or anything" Is that a bad thing?

[CasaNorba]

kinda, since I'm not a sucker

[Opinion Owner]

Boy that sounds so sensible.

[CasaNorba]

and if I was the other way around that would of made me p****whipped , huh?

[Opinion Owner]

Not to me, but apparently I don't make the rules.

[beerY33]

some people are turned on by dominating, some are turned on by being dominated. both are very normal and it's not really to do with making the other person suffer.

[kheserthorpe]

I don't think p*rn is the root of this, p*rn sometimes caters to that desire. Frankly, for legal reasons traditionally I'd guess that the desire for that type of imagery was underserved relative to other types of p*rn.

That said, people interested in that sort of thing may have that reinforced via p*rn.

Why do people like it? Its hard to say why people enjoy -anything- . Its always a theory.

[onlyaguy]

I don't believe it's because of p*rn at all. Art generally imitates life and not the other way around.

Not all guys like to make girls suffer. I don't.

[girlygirlkk]

lol I like to suffer:p

[Robotic]

>:)

[girlygirlkk]

heheheheh

[Anonymous]

We guys may need to read 50 Shades of Grey.

[jacquesvol]

link

[Anonymous]

My complaint factory is tolerant of what happens.

[Anonymous]

Us guys are THE WORST! We should be sensitive to women's suffering during sex.

Actually, never mind that's boring.

[Anonymous]

I like to make a girl suffer in bed. It is fun to toss around a girl, pull her hair, tie her up, smother her with the pillows, spank her, grab her hard and pound her with my d*** until she says she can take no more. I think most girls love rough sex, as long as it is from a man who is dominant and they trust. I love inflicting a bit of pain on a girl in bed. Girls are tougher than they look.

[heywat]

this is true but your not hurting her to the point of where she's screaming for you to stop and to where she can't handle it and she isn't enjoying it?

[Opinion Owner]

Nope, she knows I know my limits. Also, my girlfriend trusts me without question. She's given me full permission to do what I want in bed, and I know what her tolerance for pain is. It is fairly high. :)

[noidfome]

you sound like the perfect man! I love being pushed to my limits, but I would only ever do that if I knew that the guy knew his limits! Keep it up! :)