Feeling guilty after fooling around with girlfriend?

[Anonymous]

My girlfriend and I have been dating for around a month now and we've been doing some sexual things. Pretty simple stuff and we're not actually having sex and this is mostly because she wants to take things slowly. With her being slow you'd think that any sort of sexual acts I'd be really into and feel great about. While we're doing it I feel good, but afterward I feel kind of guilty. To me it seems like if she wanted to take things slowly she wouldn't be doing these things yet. The weirdest part of it to me is that I let her initiate most of these things. She's been the one asking to get in bed and asking me to do all of these things to her. And she's usually the one to initiate things with me but maybe I've been a bit more assertive in that aspect. I'm extra careful to not be overly aggressive with her and let her be comfortable. Do you have any advice on how I should think about these things to try to feel less guilty afterwards? Or maybe do you have experience with this and found a way to think better about it? I think with more experience together and me trusting she's OK with everything we're doing I won't feel guilty any more, but I really don't want to feel that way now.

[toulouse]

If she says she WANTS to do stuff, respect that. if you are worried she's pretending to want to do stuff, to keep you interested, then talk to her about it.

dont go deciding, through guilt or any other means, that what you are doing is wrong for her. she's an adult.

in my experience, going slow, just means the guy doesn't force me, and or is not aggressive. we don't necessarily go slow, but I control how fast we go. so there's no pressure.. assuming he is ready to go quicker than me. obviously I would not want to rush a guy either.

[dartmai]

If you feel guilty is because something is obviously wrong. he said slow and so you should have listened. anyways, you guys are suppose to be married or at least in love to do sexual things. Heck it would be wrong if she's a virgin and you take that from her.