Feeling sad and grossed out after losing my virginity... why?

I lost my virginity to someone I genuinely care for. It happened about a week ago. The problem is that now I feel gross, sad, and angry. I don't know why but I can't help it. I dread the idea of seeing him again and I've made up excuses to avoid seeing him. If I hear friends talking about sex I just feel so grossed out that literally wish I could disappear. Have any of you ever experienced this? If so, how did you overcome this problem?
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Most Helpful Guys

  • You say you don't know why you feel this way, but if you put your feelings aside for a minute, I bet you can figure that out.

    Is it religious? Moral? Do you feel like you're disappointing someone? Think hard about what would make you feel that way, and I bet you can come up with an answer.

    In any case, there is absolutely nothing wrong with having sex. You're a human being and you are designed and evolved to do so, and you did it with someone who cares about you and you care for, which is a lot better than most people can say. There's really no reason for you to feel bad, and worse, no reason for you to push the guy away. You should at least TELL him how you're feeling, so he knows why you've been distant, and let him know this is something you are trying to work out, and that you need some patience from him. Otherwise, you're going to drive him off and lose him.

  • Did he sexually satisfy you> Did you orgasm? I guess it is a common feeling amongst girls who lost virginity and sex is not upto their expectation.

    Did it happen at your own pace, at your "own" willing? You may have that feeling if you had succumbed to pressure, either from the friends, society or continuous pushing frm the guy.

    Anyway, give it time . And you will overcome the feeling you have now.

Most Helpful Girl

  • Maybe you felt disappointed, or you knew you weren't actually that into it, or ready for it.

    A lot of people dislike their first time, only a few lucky ones actually enjoyed their first time (me included, I'm still with him)

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  • i think a girl should lose her virginity to someone she loves and he loves her not just care about .. maybe you lost it to the wrong guy

  • Was the sex bad?

    • no! I like the guy, and he was very sweet. it's just how I felt AFTERWARDS that's really bad.

    • Pregnant? Haha, I honestly have no clue what would make you feel like that

  • I certainly didn't feel grossed but it was a bit disappointing. You think the sky is going to open and angels are going to sing but it usually ends up being awkward. Other people have relayed similar experiences. You'll get over it with more experience.

    Either that or you're a lesbian and don't know it yet. jk