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I had met this guy from my school (I attend an online school), and he really wanted to "get to know me better". I, having never dated at age 18 (this past summer) said I'd hang out with him just to get to know him better. Each time we would be together, he would always push it physically, and try to touch me in places I didn't really approve of.
Afterwards he would always apologize and say he wouldn't do it again, but always did. I dealt with this for about 1 month of seeing each other almost every weekend. He had invited me to his house to hang out, and I went reluctantly. His parents were home, but were more than willing to let us "be alone."
We started out with a nice walk, then we we jumped on the trampoline. He really wanted to touch me, I could tell, as he would stare at me jumping, and always try to pull me down. After, he wanted to go to the basement. I was having cramps (I was on my period as well), and sat him on one side of the couch, and I went and laid on the way other side of the couch. (It was shaped like an L). I had told him I was kind of hurting and wanted to be there by myself.
Before long, I could hear him rustling around, and he ended up next to me. He slowly put his body on top of mine, restricting me from being able to move anywhere, and started vigorously kissing me all over the place. Then put his hand in my pants, and I physically stopped him. He reluctantly put his hand out and occupied it with another part of my body.
He was really into it, and I literally just layed there out of fear, and dazed out while he tried making out. After he was done, he just kept trying to cuddle me, and I refused.
I know this isn't very bad, but being a virgin who has never kissed, or ever been that physical with anyone, and want to save myself, I was pretty scarred.
I stopped all communications with him. I feel haunted by it. It's been 2 months since that happened, but I'm still shook up. It's like I'm coming to the realization that that actually happened. I just needed to get it out there. Thanks for taking the time to read it. :-)
What Girls & Guys Said
0 3Dominant and domineering are two different things.
Submission and being a door mat are two different things.
True dominance and true submission begins with being equal in appointment.
When one chooses to submit to the other, and the other person understands that they are equal and accepts being dominant, he will treat the submissive person with utter respect.
Dominance demonstrates respect. Submission is at its very highest when given to an equal.
The submissive does not demand for anything but follows with choice and will.
The dominant understands the 'risk' that the submissive is putting him/herself in, outside the comfort zone, and would control the situation so as not to let the submissive be moved from the stretch zone into the panic zone.
Desire of a youth? Respect for some dumb retarded shit that immaturity entails? Why the heck would anyone do that? It's dumb and retarded and immature. Girls are smarter than that, just like you are, hence you moved quick.
But guys are just plain retarded til like 24-26 years old.
This counts as sexual assault.
You think?
He had to be braindead to continue on with kissing and touching after you had clearly said 'no' and 'stop'. No mentally sane person is that dense to disregard your pleas for privacy. If it were a 14 year old uber-horny teenager who didn't know any better it would have been a case of him not having learnt any better but since you're in 18-24 age group, he was just plain stupid. Either way, I wish you a quick recovery from this aftershock (if you can call it like that) and a nice day.
We had turned 18 a few month before that. Thank you for that :-) I guess what made me feel guilty, is that he would say it was my fault that I didn't "respect the biology makeup of a guy with those desires".
Shure :). Of course it wasn't your fault - one's 'desires' end where other's privacy begins.
That BOY obviously has agression issues and does not respect your boundaries. So I'm sorry it went down like that and just know that you did NOTHING wrong.
Thank you. :-) He had always told me he wanted to be that dominant type. I should've seen that coming. :-(
Well there's a big difference between dominant and agressive. I don't think he even understands what being "dominant" in a relationship context even means. He was just being selfish and agressive with you and that's not your fault. I'm glad you ditched the dick, and I'm sure that his actions will eventually get him into trouble. So just take care of yourself and be kind to yourself, you handled a very scary situation in a very self respecting and mature way. You did good kid be proud of yourself, you have a good head on your shoulders.
Thank you very much for your encouraging words. :-)