Finding your sexual equal?

do you think you will ever find anyone that is as sexual as you are? someone that has a high (or higher) sex drive than you? someone that is into a majority of the things that turn you on, or willing to try certain fetishes you have? even someone that you feel most comfortable around sexually that makes you feel at ease and no pressure? someone that knows what you like and shares what they like? i don't think I ever will. for those in relationships, is the person you are with your sexual equal? do they satisfy you when you need it, and are they into various experimental fetishes that turn you on? have they shared new things with you that you really liked?
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  • I have a pretty high sex drive most of the time. I even used to worry that it might be a bit excessive, though I've learned that it's really only a bit higher than average.

    But I never had a problem with a girl not being able to keep up, and in fact, it often seemed the other way. Quite a few of my GFs have told me that they'd never been as sexual with anyone else as they were with me, but that when they were around me, it was all they could think about.

    According to a couple of them, it wasn't just my skills or efforts in bed, though they were a major component of that. But it was also my openness and honesty that allowed them to connect with me emotionally at a level that they hadn't with most other guys. The trust level was deep enough that they felt okay with being open and vulnerable, and able to satisfy their desires without judgement or criticism, and so they became open to their sexuality in ways they hadn't before.

    They got to the point where hearing my voice on a voice mail, or smelling one of my shirts, or me just walking into the room, was enough to get them aroused. Understand that this is a mental/emotional thing, because I'm not particularly good looking or anything like that. But by being a man (vs. a boy) and having a firm set of morals and values that I don't bend, but also being open and honest, allowed me to establish a connection with these girls that unleashed their sexual beings. If you can learn to do that, getting laid will never be a concern.

    • wow man, that's very interesting and insightful, thanks for sharing. I wish I can know how to connect to women that way...

    • Here's my "magic formula"; hopefully it will work for you and other guys: 1. Be confident in yourself - demand respect when it's appropriate. 2. Know who you are, and don't stray from the morals and values you espouse. 3. Be respectful to women, even when they don't deserve it, but don't let them walk over you either. 4. Know that if you work hard to satisfy your woman, you'll have the best sex you ever had, because she will do just about anything to please you in return.

    • 5. Be honest, even if the truth hurts. You don't have to be blunt and hurtful, but don't lie about anything of substance to your partner. 6. Never cheat, ever. There is no excuse. 7. Be good at SOMETHING, and even if you are, always work hard at doing better and learning more. Talent and skills are sexy. 8. Don't "over-share", but be open with your partner, and not afraid of talking about problems and issues that you might have. 9. Be a TEAM, and make the team your priority. Defend the team.

  • Finding your sexual equal is easy. Getting someone to do it to prove your abilities is the problem. Not two days go by without a woman claiming they can't find a man who can keep up with them. Yet are such lewd women willing to have sex with so many different men in order to find their match? No.

    You will not hear a man make the same statement unless he wants to get ostracized by society and women as a whole. I am cursed with a Sex-Drive-From-Hell that never gets enough. Literally, I don't get laid enough at all. Gee, I wonder why...

    Men would just love to see women open up sexually in order to find a compatable lover. Yeah, reality being what it is...

Most Helpful Girls

  • Yes. My ex was all of that, we were very compatible sexually. Just apparently not so compatible in the actual relationship, as we are no longer together, but still occasionally had sex for weeks after we broke up. I cut that off, but the point remains, lol. One other personal specifically comes to mind for me when I think about sexual compatibility. We match up pretty damn close, and the areas we differ in are made up for with open-mindedness and willingness to please and try new things.

  • I'm asexual and I have not found my sexual equal. I have never even met someone who is okay with me being asexual. Most guys think I'm either lying or have a phobia.

    I like holding hands and cuddling so I hope to find someone who is really into those things.

    • yeah I'm really into cuddling and holding hands too...i would be even okay if I met someone that was just into that...warm hugs, etc. i think maybe people werent okay with you being asexual cause they probably felt rejected from you? do you know why?

    • yeah but if I were in a long term committed relationship with someone who is sexual I loved I would make love . Not because I'm into it or get pleasure from it but because I love them and I want to make them happy. That's not rejection. I just want a relationship that is pure and innocent yet passionate and committed. It's so strange that you can find someone who is into the weirdest fetishes but not someone who is like me. I guess I'm much weirder than I think.

  • i already found him. there are some things that I'm into, that he originally hadn't thought much of, but now he's on board with it =) I want to make him feel good and he wants to make me feel good... our sexual chemistry is pretty amazing.

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  • Relax Sport...you'lllll find her. There are a variety of websites devoted to hooking people up based on their sexual wants...On the other hand...she might just walk up to you in the street one day. OR...(you're young) Go in the navy. There's a whollllllle world full of women out there that would do ANYTHING just to have a decent life.

  • i don't think any guy can even keep up wih my sex drive

  • I'm pretty horny compared to a lot of girls I know, but I think I'll find a guy since they seem to want sex more than girls (At least compared to the girls that I know)