G@G Nudist/Naturists, How do you separate sexuality from nudity?

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So there are quite a few people here that claim to be some version of a "nudist". Lots of them with families and so forth. And I have always had a couple of thoughts about regarding nudity and sexuality, especially around family members and all that.

- First, to those that say "nudism doesn't have to be sexual", I say the operative part of that phrase is simply "have to" - to say that nudism is "NOT sexual" (at all) - I call bullshit.

- Second, if you *were* able to completely block the sexual element of nudity from your mind, why would anyone want to? For instance, the fact that (most) guys look at boobs, is because we don't walk around topless all the time - so there's a "mind's eye" element of mystery there.

G@G Nudist/Naturists, How do you separate sexuality from nudity?

I realize being American, maybe our culture (despite the "free love" 60s & 70's, and that there are "swingers" around) - is more uptight than some other parts of the globe. But don't try to tell me that "nudism isn't sexual (at all)" - because that makes no sense. And I don't mean that just because you see your sister naked, you are sexually "attracted" to her (assuming that you are straight) - but you can't just turn your hormones/libido completely off just because you are a nudist. And if you can, why would you want to? Being sexual is part of what makes us human. Some level of modesty (especially around people that you have no business being sexual with), is a part of that, IMHO.

Thank you to the G@G user that sent me this link, which was pretty informative:
https://youngnaturistsamerica.com/nudism-and-sexuality-nudist-sex

I don't allow anon answers to my questions, but if you need to, I have the private opinions option open.

QUOTE:
"Could trying so much to be less sexual than non-naturists be counter-productive? If people are not guilty of something, why must they battle to prove they are innocent?

Welcome to the USA, where on a large political scale, perception is nine-tenths of truth."

So, G@G nudists? What do you say?

OlderAndWiser · Accepted Answer

I am not a nudist/naturist. I was raised in a modest family and have lived that way most of my life.

For two years, I was married to a girl from Germany and both she and her daughter were fairly uninhibited about nudity in our home. My wife would walk around the house nude but she did not want me to do that around her daughter (18 years old.) Her daughter would sometimes walk around the house in her underwear, sleep topless with her bedroom door open, and would lounge around the pool nude when I was not present.

For me, the tep-daughter's nudity always led to sexual thoughts (upon which I never acted, and I never revealed those thoughts to either of them.) However, I saw my wife nude quite frequently and it did not have the same effect - perhaps because she had become a frumpy hausfrau and perhaps because I saw her nude almost every day.

I think is it impossible for non-nudists to understand how naturists/nudists respond to nudity because they, unlike us, are exposed to it so frequently. And maybe they spend time defending themselves only because they feel wrongly accused of having prurient interests.

If you really want to understand the experience, go spend a weekend at a naturist resort! :) :) :) (Just joking; I don't really think you have any interest in that experience.)

matchrestore · Accepted Answer

I agree with the author of the article. I think nudists have sexual feelings about people they see nude about as often as people in textile culture do when they see people in clothing. I don't think you can deny that if you see a guy that you're attracted to over and over while clothed that you still find that person attractive over time. While novelty may wear off, attraction doesn't. I feel like nudism has modernized their views on sexuality a lot more with the latest generation of nudists. You see fewer resorts baring single men, less restrictions on contact (kissing, putting sunscreen on each other, etc). The movement I think took the position of "we're not sexual at all" as a way to try to legitimize itself, and I think its now realizing that that is part of what scares some people away. They feel like it would almost be more repressive than clothed culture. I'm still not a fan of swingers clubs trying to fall under the nudist umbrella- I think that, like in textile culture, sexual activity should remain in private in nudist culture. The line is getting blurry, but I'm OK with that.

jessiesgirl2017 · Accepted Answer

I'm not doubting that seeing someone your attracted to nude isn't sexual, it is. I think nudists and naturalists want the freedom to not wear clothing when society doesn't allow us to do that, maybe breaking the rules like a "taboo" turns them on or just makes them happy live how they want? Guys can walk shirtless, but girls can't, and I know girls notice those buff men at the beach, but why then can't women walk shirtless too?

You mentioned seeing Family members naked, there are some families in the US that don't wear clothes in the house, but you rarely hear of it because society tells us it's taboo. However; you brought up and interesting thought. If being nude is sexual, will a brother find his sister attractive, will a father find his daughter sexually appealing, and so on... do we control our urges due to laws, or would people eagerly incest family members?

Katie1964 · Accepted Answer

We go to clothing optional beaches, resorts and other functions with our friends that are either nudist or accepting of clothing optional activities. Its not that we are "assexual" or not interested in sex, but the sight of a nude body is no different than a clothed body, ie no big deal.

We have the same sexual desires as when we where our clothing, but just because we are nude or simi-undressed doesn't mean we are going to have sex. I can tell if a man is attractive to me when he is dressed and when he is nude, either way my thoughts are the same.

eurochick · Answer

I think a lot about this question too being a nudist. I think a lot of visitors to nude beaches that instead see it as a way of being a sexual exhibitionist as I've seen a bit of sex and bjs on nude beaches.
For me being naked outdoors is about comfort and avoiding tan lines.

Feralnoise · Answer

I wouldn't do it myself, but I'm not against those who are nudists!

wingattebaby16 · Answer

I have a close friend that her family are nudists.

Saying there is not a sexual angle is a total fallacy.

She told me there is more sex going on there than a sex club. People are more open about it and some pretty young/old sex goes on...

I dont want to say more coz I would be violating GAG policy..

Stellargasm · Answer

I voted no because family nudism is creepy, you can’t tell me no one ever looks at teenagers in those places and thinks she’s developing nicely or wow he’s going to be hung like his Dad.

I do however think it would be cool to go to an adults only anything goes type nudist place if one exists where it’s all about exhibitionism and voyeurism and public sex.

SarahsSummer · Answer

from what I understand of nudists/naturalists, they are the people who usually SHOULD NOT BE SEEN NAKED. So eliminating sexuality from the nudity shouldn't be difficult. That said, if I saw an attractive naked guy strolling down the beach, I would most certainly get a little twitch in my nether regions. ;)

Poppykate · Answer

Well... if you have ever been to a nudist beach and seen 85 year old grandma enjoying the facilities, you will understand why they say that it's NOT all sexual! 😝 Lol 😂

Paulaanderson · Answer

I go topless bathing and nude bathing in garden But suppose in the house I go topless if warm  Not been to nudist beaches since 90s in greece But I like it

deraz24 · Answer

I sleep naked, but I would want to go to a nude beach or something one day. If other people looked at it sexually ok, but I wouldn't be walking around drooling lol it'll just be oh they're naked me too

killergoku999 · Answer

Well, for me, it could be sexual and non sexual thing, i guess being nude is not like close our sexuality closed at home. I guess the two of them can coexist in a respectfully way, without harassing or joking or being perverts (sadly is what happens nowadays). I am pro sexuality when there is respect.

IEat70sBush · Answer

Eh I'm usually naked in my apartment for the simple fact I'm lazy (no need to take time out to put on clothes and less laundry to wash when I only need to do it once very 3 months when I put on clothes to go shopping when I run out of food). Also easier to fap to porn when I don't have clothes to remove first. Why would I want to separate nudity from sexuality? Dumbest idea ever.

wankiam · Answer

i have been to a nudist beach and it was totally because i wanted women to see me naked so for me it was a sexual thing

GingerGuy · Answer

A nudist here and if you've never done it, then I understand why you feel this way. Actually go to a nudist resort and you'll see how we do this. There's nothing sexual about it. Once you're naked and get out with everyone and start socializing, it is no different than ANY other social event. It's not long before you aren't even conscious of the fact that you and everyone else is nude. It becomes "normal" and more importantly, it's accepted and nobody judges you for your body or anything. And everyone being nude, puts everyone on the same page when you're talking to new people. There's no better feeling in the world! If you've never tried it, I encourage everyone to try it at least once. It doesn't matter who you are, doctor or a janitor, you're all the same in a nudist resort. Having said that, you can be attracted to someone, as in any other social event, but it's not a sexual environment at all.

hyperben · Answer

the culture you grow up in determines how sexualised nudity is for you, for example, I worked in Germany a while back, after work everyone went swimming nude, me and a mexican guy there were a little uncomfortable and everyone laughed at us for it. I went for dinner with a Canadian girl (literally just a dinner) and the next day all the guys asked "so, how was she?" like going for dinner was only about getting laid!

In most of Europe it is completely separate, there is no sexuality attached to visiting a sauna for example, like literally none! there is no sexuality attached to taking a naked stroll or a swim, not at all. Why people do it then? because it feels good! it feels great to be nude, like being liberated from your clothes, uninhibited about thinking you look too thin or too fat or your boobs/dick are too small/big etc, it is a very cathartic experience that as I have come to accept it and more so, enjoy it has helped developed a level of inner peace and confidence I never had.

Nudity in the USA (and the UK) has a different implication, if you visit a nudist chat site for example, the majority of users are from florida and the site is usually a bubbling pool of barely hidden sexual tension, repressed feelings and urges. I should add (whilst typing I remembered an old thought) that the only ever sexualisation of a moment in a european sauna was when I was approached by a married man from Boston on a business trip. If you ever have the opportunity to visit a nude sauna or resort in Europe, you will have many of your OP questions answered.

skidawgkc22 · Answer

I can tell you that reputable nudist clubs will have very strict rules against sexual behavior.

Bandit74 · Answer

I don't understand it either.

goaded · Answer

I voted B, although it's not a way of life for me. Saunas here in Germany insist on nudity. It's not sexual, because you don't know the people and you don't interact with each other all that much, the modesty comes from respecting other people's boundaries.

VirginiaBeachBum · Answer

For me it's always been about context. I've been to nudist resorts and beaches hundreds of times. I've never had an errant erection there. But I've been camping with a partner over a weekend where neither of us got dressed and it was sex, sex, sex, all the time. It seems to matter more to me if I'm alone with another person or with a group, and what my expectations about being nude are at the time. Being naked outdoors can either be the most non-sexual thing you can do with your clothes off or the most sexual thing.

Sarahplus2 · Answer

I know a woman from another country who has gone on family trips to a nude beach with her family and kids too. If I did that here CYS would be at my house. A lot of Americans connect nudity to sex. We are taught nudity is forbidden.

frozenhorizon · Answer

I'm not a nudist and have no interested in trying it, but I also don't think there's anything sexual about it. I don't really understand it though, clothes are comfortable and look good, why would I want to be nude all the time?

sixfootsix65 · Answer

Being nude for me is very natural and I have never been aroused when at nudist beaches camps or resorts. I do not get aroused when is see a naked woman I just see it as being natural the way we were drought into the world.

AUTiger7222 · Answer

I wanna be a nudist. I hate wearing clothes. From my understand, playing volleyball in the nude is absolutely no different than playing volleyball in bathing suits. You're playing a game with people (usually friends and family) and it's fun. You're not focused on anything that is sexual. A guy being able to see a girls boobs or a girl seeing a guy's dick versus not being able to see those parts doesn't change that because that's not the focus of the activity. That I believe is how you "separate sex from nudity."

catelyntje · Answer

Who the heck would wanna do that?

shark58 · Answer

Have you ever thought about culture? In India women need to cover their legs and shoulders, thats an absolutely must have... but the rest of the body, and there are bellies and breasts included, no one cares... or in Africa? Do you think people who life pretty naked are always aroused sexually? Thats their natural outfit, their body and merely nothing... What I want to point out, it depends on culture, what is erotically loaded and what not...

Waffles731 · Answer

I want to know how they don't get cold. I get cold wearing clothes in 90 degree weather on rare occasions, I'd freeze to death wearing no clothes all the time

patella · Answer

not too keen on seeing gramgram in the... flesh. or steve

Scarecrow13 · Answer

When it comes down to it, it is what you make it. Is it sexual? It can be, but it doesn't have to be. One thing that can be said, a lot of guys are worried that if they are in a nudist environment that they will be constantly and visibly aroused. That's just not the case, because it's not sexual unless you make it so. Just as someone could be attracted to someone in the clothed world, the same is true in the nudist world. So your analysis is pretty good.

Bleepasaurus_RexEwww · Answer

Ewwwwwww

Synysterggs · Answer

I don't always look at nude people in a sexual way. The human body is often just aesthetically pleasing

legalboxers · Answer

interesting mytake..

Nightinggale · Answer

I'm a wannabe nudist.

SwolDishWasher · Answer

I like being naked. I could do something like that. Plus eye contact is way more sexual to me. Some really good eye contact from across the room can be so much sexier.

wolfie12 · Answer

We have shitload of nudist beaches and sometimes people go topless on regular beaches (mostly women). So we could be perceived as nudist society, but majority of people still look at nudity as something sexual, though nobody really bats an eye when some chick goes topless at the beach (somehow the thrill just isn't there for it to be interesting enough).

Judy18271827 · Answer

No problem

adamski24 · Answer

I suppose because I have always been around it in some way i'm just use to it and don't really think about it or take much notice of it.

we have all seen nude and naked people before and know what naked and nude people look like.

i would think it depends on your childhood and how your family brute you up and raised you.
the culture and religious beliefs may come into it too.

thomasans · Answer

agree! I sleep naked and run around on the homestead with little on. But I would see a naked womans bare ass and/of breasts and my big dick would be stickiing strait up. Im home alone naked except socks. Like to air out my package and releave some pressure now and then.

prosmind · Answer

Nudity and sex are inseparable though intensity and frequency may vary, that seeing your partner continuously nude, sexual attraction dwindles.

Noodist · Answer

For me nudity and naturism is something I do because it makes me feel good. Being nude in nature brings me a peacefulness and serenity that I rarely achieve with clothes on. In that respect it's not about sexual pleasure but all about internal peace and well-being.

Obviously being nude puts me in a position where I'm naked in front of other people and people are naked in front of me. Naturally, because I'm human, I'll find some people more sexually attractive than others. But that's the same if they were wearing clothes.

Just because I may find a woman walking around naked sexually attractive it doesn't mean I'll automatically become sexually aroused nor does it give me permission or the right to behave in a sexually explicit way.

I expect other people to respect my right to nudity and I respect the right of others to be nude too, and their right to be safe in what can be a situation that makes them feel vulnerable.

Blitzkrieger · Answer

When i went on vacation to southern france women would lay topless on the beach, nobody would mind. Also there is no time or place for sexual thoughts to take place, unless you are perving on other people. You just go there and mind your own business also these places tend to be very big, its not like naked people are shoving their nakedness in your face.

If nudity can be non sexual for a doctor it can be for anyone, and on nude beaches people do get erections if they are new, if that happens you just put a towel over your penis.

Glen68 · Answer

I really feel that as a society we would be less aggressive if we were all nude.

daddysir77 · Answer

We don't.

brownguy · Answer

Of course, nudism is about sexuality too. I once saw two Russian tourists frolicking topless on a beach, and had to rush to a nearby bathroom to masturbate... as I was so horny! (Guess it also depends on how much sex one gets... If you're getting a LOT of it, it's probably not so important. Like those guys in porn films, who are being massaged by a naked woman, and still stay attached to a flaccid penis!)

ped02castr8 · Answer

naturism is for sure sexual, the people to what i'm not sexually attracted may be neutral for me but there are some what i cannot ignore and then i feel sexual urges, sometimes only a few and sometimes they can be strong.

jennyHofman · Answer

i want to be one but my boyfriend forbid it

monkeyboy29 · Answer

I'm a wanna be nudist

OutdoorRecreation · Answer

For me being a nudist is about how it makes me feel and the peacefulness and serenity I feel when I'm naked outdoors.

When I'm naked in front of females, I don't look at them as targets for sexual conquest. I treat them as I would any female I meet whether I was clothed or not. Sure, I might find them sexually attractive But that attraction has nothing to do with my nudity.

Anonymous · Answer

If you saw the same dinner plate of food and had to eat it day after day, how long before you would get sick and tired of it?

If every guy on GAG said rate my dick, how long before that became nauseous?

It is the same with naturism. Seen so many dicks, they mean very little. Just bits dangling from a male. The only one I have interest in belongs to my boyfriend.

This is how naturism and sex are separated.

G@G Nudist/Naturists, How do you separate sexuality from nudity?

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