Gals: you know early on a guy had a vasectomy. Would you breakup over that?

Early, before,sex, maybe after some heavy making out, he tells you he had a vasectomy, but likes kids, if you wanted could adopt, visit sperm donor. But would this,be a deal breaker? If you wanted kids, would it have to be with that person?
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Most Helpful Girls

  • I personally don't see anything wrong with that. Like, a girl might WANT the baby to be "ours," right? Belonging to both of you, a piece of both parties. To be honest, artificial insemination will still make the baby part her's, right? Her end of the bargain would be filled. You're the only one not genetically related to the baby. The biggest issue is entirely on your end :) Whether or not you'd want it.

    I hope she's understanding about it ^_^

  • I would probably do a black flip. I'm OK with no kids. However if did want to have kids I'd discuss all options. A vasectomy doesn't mean you cannot produce sperm, it having a biological child was that important, then I'd see a specialist and see if sperm could be harvested. If the biological yearning was not strong, then adopting would be fine, there are so many forgotten children who need a home.

  • The sooner in the relationship I was told this the better I would take it. If I truly cared for and loved the man to the point where I could see him long term in my life I would not care and would definitely consider other options if and when the relationship got to that point.

Most Helpful Guy

  • If you really want kids with a vasectomy, there are generally ways.

    They are often reversible.

    When not, I _believe_ its possible to harvest sperm directly from testicles and then do IVF.

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  • Deal breaker

    While I also want to adopt, I want to have my own biological children with the man I'm settling down with

  • I'm open to alternative ways of having kids. But if he got the vasectomy because he didn't plan on having kids or didn't like kids (and why else would a young person get a vasectomy, really?) that would be a deal breaker.

  • Not a deal breaker. There's adoption, artificial insemination, and vasectomy reversal. If I loved the guy, we'd find a way to make it work.

  • Why he had vasectomy if likes kids? I don't understand

    I would break up with him because he did it. But if he can't have kids because of any illness I would stay with him and adopt kid

  • no as long you know how to pound it in. your good :)

  • If I new he could not have children and I continued to see him..I would totally accept it. That's why I am still seeing him...All options of having children would be discussed and the best option would be the way we would go..But we would be in love and way beyond simply dating

  • at this point in my life it would be a plus because I really don't want kids yet, maybe later in life it might be a problem, I'm not sure if I want to have kids though. even if I do decided I want to have kids, if I loved my partner it wouldn't be a deal breaker

  • No,because I already have kids.

  • Vasectomies can be reversed?

    • Sometimes. Depends on how long...

    • Where there is a will...there is often a way...(:(:(:

  • No. I would adopt.

  • I would love that. I don't want to give birth and if a guy were physically unable to impregnate me, that'd be awesome! I'd be totally okay with adopting. It'd be fantastic. You skip the painful part and get the good part. Sounds like a win win.

  • It's a deal breaker