Girl says she doesn't do casual hookups, what do you think of her now?

[Anonymous]

does it make you think she is uptight? this guy I met at school a few weeks ago keeps trying to make out with me. I told him I do not do casual hookups.he made a joke about how I should try it out and I said it's not my thing so he said he gets it. even though I want to make out with him and I am really not an uptight girl I know that if I make out with him he is probably just going to try to have sex soon. and I do not want to have casual sex. so I figure I should protect myself and not even make out with him. does this make me seem uptight or just like I respect myself? he kept staring at me and was still being friendly and a bit touchy. does this mean I am just a new challenge? I don't know if he is open to something more serious or not.

[kholland65]

I would actually respect the girl a lot for this and would make me all that much more interested in her.

Here's the truth, which I think you seem to already kind of know. If you are looking for a serious relationship and not casual sex, then keep doing what you are doing. The guys who share your sentiments will be OK that. They guys who just want sex won't like it and they will walk away from you (figuratively speaking), but you don't want them anyway.

so it might feel like your reluctance to not have sex is scaring guys off but in reality your only scaring off the ones you don't want anyway.

That being said, if you plan to wait 6 months to have sex with a guy you are seeing, even the good guys are likely to leave. Everyone can only wait so long.

[kholland65]

Update: again it boils down to one simple formula. If all you want is sex, then give it up right away, and you will attract those types of guys accordingly. If what you want is a serious relationship, then hold off on the sex, and you will attract those guys accordingly. Using sex as a means to get guys to date you won't work. I'm not saying be a prude, I'm just saying its probably best you don't have sex on the first date.

[kholland65]

For me, my last Girlfriend right when we started dating, made it clear that she wanted to wait to have sex. I was actually relieved to hear this oddly enough. The reason is that I could infer that she too was looking for a serious relationship and wasn't just using me as a f*** buddy. We ended up having sex a few weeks after that which was just fine.

[stubbsy]

This makes you come across as respectable, and guys who can't get what they want easily, will respect you more for that than giving in easily, because no guy wants to be seen with a girl who has a reputation as easy, and now that he knows your not someone that does casual relationships, he will be more inclined to want to have something more serious with you due to you proving your not easy and don't do casual flings, so fair play on you, your rare these days, girls often are to willing and end up forgotten because of their willingness,x

[kheserthorpe]

Neither. Its just not your thing. I don't respect you more or less for it.

[madhatters4]

I respect a girl who doesn't do casual hookups because I feel the same way. To me it means the value physical intimacy and don't simply obey their libido

I don't think it means people who are promiscuous have any lack of respect for themselves

[Anonymous]

It makes you seem like relationship material. Not a bad thing so don't worry about it lol. But how he reacts depends on what kind of guy he is.

[Asker]

so what will he do? will it make him try harder to hook up with me, or consider pursuing something more serious with me?

[Opinion Owner]

Well it seems to me like he just wants to hook up.

[Asker]

so if he doesn't want a relationship does that mean he'll just be my friend? or ignore me completely.

[Opinion Owner]

If he's the kind of guy who uses women he will not want to be associated with you unless he thinks he can get in your pants.