Girlfriend doesn't like giving blowjobs

We haven't been together too long but she has been less willing recently to give them. She has told me that it hurts her jaw after a while. But the last few times we have been together I am almost having to beg for them, then she gets upset with me. I am always very nice to her, I always go down on her, get her off, anything she wants before I ask for anything, and I am just extremely nice to her in general. I really don't want to make her do something she doesn't want to do, but they feel great. And when she does do them, she seems to enjoy it. From what I've read most girls like giving them and are happy to make their guy happy.
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I have told her how much I enjoy them, I also have tried to make a deals with her. I don't really want to stop going down on her because then it just becomes a stand off and nobody wins. She is a small girl so I do understand there being jaw pain, but my tongue gets tired also when going down on her. Also I don't think it's painful, uncomfortable probably, but painful enough that she never does it, that just sounds like an excuse.
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  • She's being selfish & using jaw pain to justify not reciprocating oral. IMO stop going down on her, better yet stop initiating sex all together.

    How big are you & how long does it take you to come? If your average (6-8 in erect) & you can come rather quickly, then there's no excuse for her not to give you head at least once in a while. Does she know how much you enjoy receiving oral & that it's upsetting that she won't perform it? If not, tell her...unless she's a mind reader? :) How is sex otherwise, does she like to try other things (new positions) without any issues?

    Try this-----> reason with her for a trade off-ask her to give you head for as long as she can, even if you don't come, then do something that she wants you to do (don't finish her off, but get her right to the brink) then have her ride you until you both finish. OR have her fully put your shaft into her mouth 2-3x, to get you wet, then just stick the head in her mouth while working the shaft with her hands.

    If you have to keep begging, that's not right...she didn't have a problem with it in the past...it's because she knows she's going to get off whether or not she gives you oral. BTW I love giving my hubby head & I love to make him come multiple times in one session. Just saying.

    • wow great answer you should get BA! Really good suggestions if the questions asker is wise he will take your advice

    • best answer!

    • It's not the length, I am pretty thick and that's why she says her jaw hurts. Sex is great otherwise, we do talk and I am always honest with her. She is always willing to try new positions also. Personally I think she is being a bit selfish. I went down on her for a long time last night. Then we had sex, then I fingered her, then we had sex again but didn't finish and then I asked if she could finish orally and she refused. I asked for 2 min, just to get something and she refused.

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  • Well, just because you are nice to her, that doesn't mean she is obligated to give you blowjobs. Being caring and considerate is a much more intrinsic part of a relationship than any sex act is. BUT, I definitely hear you and it's important for you to feel that your needs are being met in the bedroom as well- especially since you always make sure she does. I would suggest talking to her. Let her know that you understand that blowjobs can get tiring after a while, and you want her to feel comfortable, but you do really enjoy them and see them as an important part of sex. Perhaps you can come to a compromise that will satisfy you without making her feel tired out. You could consider having her go slower, take more breaks, or try a different position in order to eliminate discomfort for her. She could also give them for shorter periods of time, and then help you finish another way. If you discuss it and you are both honest and open, you should be able to find a solution.

    • It's not impossible for her to be experiencing actual pain, especially if she was doing it for a while. It's not necessarily just an excuse. But that doesn't mean a compromise can't be found. It definitely seems like she is being stubborn, though. If she isn't willing to compromise, then you will have to decide how to deal with the situation. Denying her oral sex might seem immature, but it could also be a good way to get your point across. Another idea is to try to get her to do it for just

    • short periods of time, and see how that goes, and eventually try to work up to longer periods.

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  • Bc it is an excuse! & you not giving oral because she won't IS NOT a stand off our even tit for tat! It's the principle. Just as you said in your update...ur tongue gets tired, but does that stop you from pleasing her until she's done? No! I do it because you love it that you bring her pleasure, and that you care about your partner. Hey we all do things that err may not particularly like. My hubby loves anal, I'm not a huge fan, but when he puts it in once in a while I don't complain because I'm not asked to do it all of the time & I know it makes him happy.

  • i love it and me and my guy like to please each other. stop eating her and she how she feels. tell her to rest her teeth on her lips while sucking, that way she's not prying her jaw open and you can't feel teeth scraping u

    • @update...excuse

  • : ( You should stop going down on her.

    • ha & another good suggestion

  • Some girls just don't like it. You just have to deal with it.

    • or get a better girl lol

    • Nah. I disagree. If you're breaking up with her because she doesn't like blow jobs then you need to re-evaluate your life.

  • stop going down on her cause it makes your tongue too tired

    • well said well said

  • I hate them. They hurt my jaw too. He only gets then when I feel like it. Subjecting her to pain (and awful tasting stuff) seems very mean on your part.

    • its give and take and a relationship, he's not asking her for bondage he just wana get his d*** sucked once in a while. every jaw will feel discomfort, but she get to get her p**** eaten all the time, its just not fair

    • Haha didn't see that part. Then it's not fair.

  • Pain is pain. Would you want to do something for your girlfriend if it caused you pain? I think not.

  • put chocolate on your penis and she will dive for it

    • Hahahaha best answer!

    • lmao- I know that always works for me

    • lmao