Girlfriend nervous about sex? How to convince her otherwise?

[Anonymous]

my girlfriend is nervous about having sex with me for the first time, which is completely understandable. I understand the possibilities of "accidents" such as pregnancy and STDs. She is nervous about that, and also the pain, which I understand. We are both virgins, but deeply in love. She wants to have sex, she has told me so, but she is just nervous about the pain and the possible bad outcomes. How can I help her get through this? Someone please help me with detail, I love her and don't want her to be afraid.

[nycmaverick]

my girlfriend was the same way for a while. as long as she wants to do it, that's great, you're gonna get some... you just might have to wait a little while, so patience is key. since you don't have to convince her why sex is a good idea, all you have to do is be patient and let her be ready don't be afraid to bring up sex occasionally when the two of you are being intimate, as long as this doesn't seem to bother her... eventually it'll just feel right for her and it'll happen. just make sure not to pressure her too much. make sure to explain that you love her and you want to make the experience fantastic for her and that the pain is very temporary and is nothing compared to the pleasure she'll get in the future... but don't make yourself sound desperate or needy for sex. youve just gotta play it by ear and use her body language to judge what you should say. oh, and when you have sex the first time, make sure you finger her first, and possibly eat her out... it'll make it much eaasier on her.

[Anonymous]

virgins she doesn have to worry about getting an std or a disease. and because your both virgins you guys can teak it as slow and if she's scared of the pain then masterbation wwell if both of you areill help with it or you fingering her but when you do have sex have her be on top so she can control how deep and fast it goes in let her get comfterble until she tells you that you can start moving and do your thing. like that she will have control and will want to try it again but so it can be less painfull make sure she's wet and wear a lubricated condom. and that's the 1 thing you have to have CONDOMS! GOOD LUCK hope this helps

[Anonymous]

A virgin myself, I would also be extremely nervous. Let her know that you will wait until she's ready. Not feeling pressured and feeling like she has to do it in order to make you happy will make her more relaxed about it and less nervous. Just let her know that you are ready when she is and that you love her and will make sure she is safe. When she is ready, she will let you know, and it probably won't take long. My friend's girlfriend was the same way, and it only took her two weeks to get over her fear and have sex with him.

[Anonymous]

well see I was the same way... but if you get her really wet then it will be a whole dif. subject just find out her turnons and do it