Girlfriend wants two guys at once, me included, advise please?

[BobSacamano]

One of my girlfriend's fantasies is to have 2 guys at once... me being one of the guys doing her. I'm surprisingly OK with this. The only thing I'm not OK with is that she wants to be able to kiss the other guy. I told her I'm not comfortable letting her kiss another guy. I told her I'd let her do a 3some with me and another guy, but the only thing is that I won't let her kiss the other guy. She said that if she can't kiss the other guy, she doesn't want to do the 3some with 2 guys. She also said that this only ranks as a 4 out of 10, with 1 being the lowest, and 10 being the highest of actually doing the deed. She additionally said that if it bothers me too much about her kissing another guy during a 3some, then she won't do it because she doesn't want it to cause strain on our relationship. I do trust her, but my concern is if that desire is still even of interest, and I'm not willing because of her kissing another guy, that she might find 2 other guys at once--- and I don't want that to happen. She's also not up for me doing a 3some with her and another girl. If she was up for a 3some with me, her, and another girl then I would be willing to let her kiss another guy while I'm doing her while the 3 of us were playing. Advice is HIGHLY appreciated!

[Carping]

If you are wanting to be in a serious relationship with this girl, you are in for one hell of a bumpy ride my friend.

Firstly, doing a 3-some in a relationship is not something easy. You could ask the people how many of them have done it while in a relationship and are still together after that. You will not find many. You need to have an exceptional strong relationship and understanding of each other to pull something like that off without any repercussions.

Secondly, het attitude regarding a MFF 3-some speaks volumes. She wants a MMF 3-some, but you are not allowed to have a MFF 3-some. That sounds very unfair to me, don’t you agree.

Thirdly, her insistence on the kissing, although you said you are uncomfortable with it also says a lot. Sounds like she doesn’t respect your boundaries.

Go and sit down and decide if you want this type of sh*t in your life. 10 to 1 you will decide against a 3-some of any form, or you will pack up and leave her. Whatever you decide, good luck, you are going to need it

[Myth024]

First off, you will need to lay down ground rules. What is accepted and what isn't. Like is the guy allowed to touch you, what is he allowed to do to her etc... All three of you need to have a safe word so you can easily say stop if something is too much or becomes uncomfortable. You could also ask your girlfriend how she would feel if you kissed another girl and that's why your not comfortable with her kissing another guy. You also have to keep in mind that if she really enjoys this then it might not just be a one time thing either.

I will say that at one point in my life I was actually dating two girls at the same time, both of which not only knew about the other but all three of us actually shared a bed and occasionally all three of us had sex. (sorry, not gonna give details) It ended badly although it was one of the best few months of my life. So you, unfortunately, may be in a, dammed if you do, dammed if you don't situation.

[eurochick]

I do number of 3some and a 4 some (with another couple before) in the past. I have only casual guy, not a boyfriend but. When we do a 3 some I then get to chose one (I want two guy at once and DP) and he get to chose one (he want another girl). I think this is very important. I also feel about the kissing. Kissing is personal. Before you do 3 some with another couple you need to set the rules of the 3some, so no kissing may be one. So if she want a 3some with another guy, you should ask for 3 some with another girl. In real relationship I not do 3some I think as it good way to destroy the relationship. The only time it good is if one partner about to cheat and this way it may stop the cheating.

[Anonymous]

If you're uncomfortable with a 4 what are you going to do when she asks for a 10? Find out what the top of the scale is and try to find a fantasy you're both OK with.

But I get it. Oddly kissing is more intimate than just straight up sex. Maybe just position yourself where you're the only one who can kiss her.

[dadnova]

Ok here is the advice, she has probably been taking with certain people or reading trash novels, AKA love books. DON'T do it. My Ex. said the same thing as her fantasy was to due twins as I was a twin, the sh*t book she was reading was about twins.

Well later I found out she did her fantasies al over town with anyone and everyone when I was not around.

Get rid of the %$%$ now.

[MrNameless]

She's twisted.

Tell her that you'll never be fine with a threesome with another guy, especially exchanging kisses with a guy, when she doesn't let you do the same with girls.

IMO, this is a big warning sign, that she isn't allowing you to compromise. Makes me wonder if she likes some other dude, and she's trying to take advantage of this, and could break up with you in the future.. I don't know.

[Anonymous]

U are a sick person

Ooops soory

U both are sick, you don't mind some other dude f***ing your girlfriend but the petty thing in comparision (kiss) in keeping you guys from doing it.

U are also willing to barter that kiss for a 3sum with chick which she minds. She has unbalanced preference , If 3some with gal is bad then 3som witg guy is as well.

And you DONT TRUST HER that is why you are afraid that she will f*** 2 other guys.

[MrNameless]

Its not sick, if its a mutual agreement, dumbass. >_>

[Opinion Owner]

Fine, bring your Girlfriend to me, Pimp!