Girls, how much touching is too much?

i remember that when I was with my ex, I used to touch her in intimate areas almost every five seconds. she never complaint about it but I kinda felt guilty in maybe the fact that I might be making her feel uncomfortable (not to sound like a damn sweetheart or anything). but exactly how much is too much touching? how much is it till it becomes sexual harassment? cause I really don't wanna make my next girl feel uncomfortable.
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sorry, "five minutes" not seconds
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  • You can find out by asking her if it is OK. If she pushes you away or says no, or gives you a look that reads any kind of discomfort, stop immediately. If she expressly says no, anything from a massage to a hug could be considered sexual harassment. Just ask her where she is OK having you touch. Also, as a side note, she may not want you to do it all the time. I know I'm OK with it every once in a while when we are alone, but I don't like it to be going on 24/7.

  • Bro, every girl is different. I was only like that with my first boyfriend because you guys have a tendency to just touch down those areas instantly haha. But it was because I was inexperienced and hadn't had someone touch me like that before. Your ex was probably the same too.

    If your next girl has some sexual experience before then I'm sure she will be more lenient to you touching her in that way.

    • he said she DIDNT complain. so what do you mean, is next girlfriend, will be _more_ lenient.

    • yea, my ex was already experienced, so that explains it

    • Yeah well that'll help you with that. As for toulouse ummm well I'm just saying that even though she didn't complain, she may have still felt uncomfortable anyway. IF his next girlfriend is more than okay with him touching her everywhere then that just says that she's experienced and has probably done it with guys before hence she will be more 'lenient'

  • Yeah every girl is different. You should ask her what she likes. But if you're touching her *all the time* in her private areas, then it begins to lose its magic. My ex used to touch me sparingly, but when he did, it would make shivers run up my spine. That's the kind of feeling you want to create in her. Good luck :)

Most Helpful Guy

  • Everyone's different, so all you need to do is ask. That's how you get consent :P And you can also say, "If I'm ever being too touchy, just tell me."

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  • I am quite sure the girl will let you know rather quickly if it seems more than she is interested in.

  • usually when people start getting touchy feely they want sex and just random touching would be kind of weird. I probably wouldn't care too much if it was like 2-3 times a day :).

  • So are you saying you used to touch her private areas every 5 seconds, when you guys were not being intimate?

    If so that would be way too much touching for me.

    • even 5 minutes would be too much if we were not being intimate.

    • Agreed. f***. I thought you meant, while kissing or w/e. just randomly touching, there. no. not cool. but you need to ask her& the girl needs to tell you that.

  • you are just going to have to ask her when the time comes, every girl is different