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Girls, are virgins a turn-off?
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Lets say I guy approach you in a club and then admits he is a virgin, does that change anything? Is it a turn-off or maybe it's even a turn-on? And a last question, if he comes off as a confident guy, would you assume he is lying?
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I might also add that I am 22 years old but look like I'm about 25.
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Just to make my question clearer. Don't focus on if it is brought up in a good or bad way, I am just curious if the knowledge that someone is a virgin will change the way you look at him and your attraction towards him.
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104 16well anyone telling me he's a virgin when I'm drunk off my ass at a bar... I would probably think he's a weirdo...
now... if it progressed from bar-club we got home and he was like bam I'm a virgin I'd b elike ya right...
but honestly. good for you for still beign a virgin, its commendable...
No, I don't think so at all. It just makes it safer to know he doesn't have some sexually transmitted disease. And you mean confident as in what? If it was too good to be true like the 'I'm just gonna say I'm a virgin so she might be more willing' thing that yes we can catch that.
not at all. I think that a guy's personality is the most important thing there is. and if he's a virgin, then that's even better. it's not the main thing ina relationship anyways. if he has character a good career and he loves me, then why would I care if he's virgin or not? got to see the bigger picture if you want a relationship to last, that's what I think anyways
It's a good thing. and it's cute
I'd rather be with a guy with some experience but I would still really wana have sex with you if I was into you... I'd be indifferent to it
Yes it would be a turn off if he approached me in a club and then out of the blue said "By the way, I'm a virgin" - I'd thought he's nuts. But if he'd told me this when we'd be in a relationship or after few dates then I'd be okay with this.
It would be a turn on for me because that means you have a clean slate. I would look at him with great attraction and wonder why such a sexy guy is still a virgin and that would interest me a lot more lolz. If he's confident and his ego is larger than the club itself, I would wonder and try to test his statement and if he is false, I would call him out and deflate his ego because no girl likes an overconfident guy
I would dfinetely be interested in a virgin guy, sadly I never got the opportunity..
My question why are you telling girls at the bar. My answer is it makes me want to run away. No offense I think that's amazing that you've been able to keep your beliefs or standards or whatever. But to me it freaks me out because:
ONE: Virgins tend to get clingy afterwards (Yes guys not girls I know more guys than chicks
that do)
TWO: I'm not a fan of teaching and when you start out you won't know what your doing
I would just think that it would be weird to go up to a girl and tell her that. It would be a turn off not because he was a virgin but because he relayed such intimate knowledge to me when I don't even know the guy. And no I would not assume a guy that looked 25 was lying only because most would not want to admit that.
Most wouldn't admit it, that is what the ones that would lie about such things would be counting on you believing! Although I don't really see why one would lie about such things, as if it is really that big of a deal. I'm with you on the bringing that up too soon and unprovoked though...a bit odd.
I did not necessarily mean just walking up and saying "I'm a virgin" out of the blue. Even I would think that was weird. I am talking about if the subject sex would come up, then would it be a turn-off to admit you are a virgin?
If it just came up in conversation no it would not think it a turn off.
It would turn me off to be honest. I definately wouldn't want to hear that when I first met you. The reason it's a turn off is because they'd think you were unable to satify them (if they're not a virgin). You can't get away from this so maybe find a girl who's a virgin? I might think you were lying though, because of your age, ask yourself if you'd believe you.
When I was younger and never had sex before I had girls wanting to sleep with me becuase they knew I hadn't had sex. It's a massive turn on for many women, they feel dominating. I'd say don't rush and sleep with anyone. Wait until someone special or at least someone high in your books. ;)
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Honestly I don't mind if a guy is a virgin or not I don't think it matters. as long as being a virgin you are up to trying different things when you find that one you wanna loose it to.
Virgins are a turn off if the girl likes more experienced guys. It just depends on the girl's taste in guys.
For your second question, no I wouldn't assume he's lying.
I feel as if I could only be intimate with very few people in my lifetime, so when I hear someone else feels the same way, it give me a respect for them, it's special.
well at first thought I'd think "...not experienced so probably no good" THEN second thought would be" I can teach him!" and plus that'd be fun to like be there for someones first experience of something. corrupting the virgin hah
definetly a turn on I mean who doesn't want to have sex with some inexperinced person like they might have some GR8 ideas 4 their 1st time
It could be a good thing or a bad thing.
-He could be one of those virgins that try to have sex but fails miserably because no one wants to have sex with them.
-Or it can be a great situation where this guys is very selective and just doesn't have sex with anyone.More thatn likely he is a keeper because he thinks about his actions and has morals.A typical nice guy that wants more from you than the physical but be with you because of your mind...I would date this type of guy.
If a guy just met me in the club and told me he was a virgin then I would believe him but I would have to ask why he is telling me all that so soon.
I think for guys, being a virgin is frowned upon, though it probably shouldn't be. If you are a virgin this doesn't mean you need to bring it up as common conversation. If a girl really asks how many girls you've had sex with (she's a slut) then you should tell her, but if not, don't bring it up. Same goes for single moms out there, the fact that you have a kid shouldn't be the first thing you tell a guy.
sometimes I think that guys that are virgins are rare and makes it seem less likely if he was realy confident. The big turn off is that how many girls you have slept with and lye if it was just 1 or two women