Giving oral sex when you're a virgin?

I've made a vow to myself and God that I would remain a virgin until marriage. I honestly don't know if a guy would be willing to wait that long. I know oral sex is still considered sex but would it be wrong if I just did oral sex for a guy that I was in a relationship with?
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  • You made a vow to yourself and God. You are having second thoughts because you believe a guy would not be willing to wait that long. So you are looking for an okay from GAG users to do what you still consider sex with a guy you aren't married to if you are in a relationship with him.

    You stated you believe it qualifies as sex. That means you believe it qualifies as sex in the eyes of God. So how do you feel that GAG users can give you an okay to try to twist a vow with God?

    I am not trying to say what is right or wrong, either in general or in anybody's religion. I just want to point out how your question points out that you seem to be looking for an out on a technicality that you don't even really believe.

    This question belongs between you and your God.

    • Ooo he's right.

  • NOBODY can tell you what's "right" or "wrong". I mean yes I can give you my opinion on what I think is right or wrong but ultimately it's your morals and ethics that will define what you believed to be right or wrong. Follow your instincts, listen to what they tell you. You're question isn't as important as the fact that if you do start giving oral sex, how do you know that you won't start justifying sex in the future and bending your vow? The mind works in interesting ways, especially when you have external pressure.

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  • Only YOU can decide if it is wrong for YOU. Do YOU feel it is something intimate? Is it something that YOU want to do, or are you just doing it because the guy wants to? What we think doesn't matter. Most disagree with your choice to remain a virgin until marriage anyway. What do YOU think?

    • I hope you're feeling better about it and did what was best for you!

  • I don't see anything wrong with performing oral sex on your boyfriend. But you are kidding yourself if you think that doesn't count as sex. Sex is sex. The only thing that is different is you still have an in tact hymen. You may not have that if he has fingered you a lot.

  • God is forgiving, but you should do it if you are Christian. Even masturbation in most religions is a big sin.

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  • Virginity isr really just making sure that your hymen remains intact, but this is harder to maintain that most people think especially if you play physical sports or ride horses. It's very easy to rupture doing that and as a result a lot of girls actually lose their virginity without realizing it. Giving oral sex does not in anyway rupture your hymen so go ahead.

  • You would still be a virgin if you gave oral, yes.

  • NO I don't see anything wrong with that.If you want to wait for marriage then you should tell him that

  • it's only wrong if you think it's wrong. and you can always change your mind. I knew plenty of girls who wanted to wait for sex until they were married, but then had lots of anal sex instead (unfortunately, none of them were interested in me).

    I can tell you that I don't think it is wrong, but then I don't think sex before marriage is wrong either, so...

  • It begs to say that you probably don't want to be in a relationship until you're older then. If you don't plan on being sexually intimate, you probably shouldn't enter a relationship unless you think you want to marry the guy you're with (which of course depends on what age you think you want to get married at)

  • In biology, sexual reproduction is a process of combining and mixing genetic traits, often resulting in the specialization of organisms into a male or female variety, each known as a sex(Wiki)

    So I guess if you give head, you're technically still a virgin

  • Well I don't think it would...of course that is the opinion of one guy who did not wait and never wanted to...I am not into bjs so I would be fully satisfied if I were allowed to give you oral...but I will confess that a hj would be awesome as well..(:(:(:

  • That's up to you, and maybe God

  • This question that I asked before, will give you good statistical data on what people on GaG consider "virginity":

    link

    You can thank me later. :)

  • if you don't suck it, he'll find somebody who will. factor that in.

    • LOL, downvote it you want to, it's the truth

  • Yes and to receive it as well. Preserving virginity is abstaining from intercourse and that includes anal (yecch).

  • You would no longer be a virgin, would you? You're trying to get around some archaic technicality. Since you believe in God, do you think he would let you by on that one. lol It's still a form of sex. My advise is to either way or stop falsely advertising yourself as a virgin.

    And no, I don't think it is wrong to give oral to your boyfriend. Just in the case of what you're asking...

  • if you give oral you aren't a virgin. I hate all these people walking around claiming "im a virgin" and they have gave/ recieved anal and oral lol

  • I'm just going to say this now. God doesn't seem to like sodomy. Just saying, because I forgot and figured if you may not have thought about it.

  • I did that and I still consider myself a virgin.