Got my boss pregnant (Need helpful answers)

I am in late 20s. I am a well qualified finance professional. My boss is a single lady in her early 40s. We went out for a few drinks and somehow we landed up in bed. We both tried to forget about the same and not let it interfere in our high pressure jobs. Few days back she told me she missed her periods and later confirmed that she is pregnant and that she is sure that the baby is mine as she hadn't slept with anyone else besides in last 6 months. We talked about aborting it, but she said this could be her only chance of motherhood..as she is in her early 40s. She said she is going to deliver it. I genuinely cannot marry or be with her for a whole lots of reasons...age, she is my boss, cultural differences etc etc. How can I get this sorted? Please advise me. My whole career, life seems to have stopped.
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  • thats why they say use protection, honestly I think you were very irresponsible and unprofessional, you started this question out by saying "i am a well qualified finance professional" tsk yeah right professional my ass...first rule of work is to not date your coworkers and certainly NOT YOUR BOSS. keep your professional and private life separate. it makes the workplace uncomfortable for your coworkers as well when they find out two people are sleeping with each other or dating or whatever, its not something to be proud of and rather its looked down on. I remember I worked in a retail store and this guy was shift leader I looked up to him I thought he was such a good example and then I found out he was sleeping with this 19 year old girl who was new to the store...it turned me off and I couldn't look him in the eye anymore. and everyone felt uncomfortable around both of them.

    also in work places these days there are new policies that if two people are dating they will be separated into different stores or company locations because it interferes with the work environment. I just went to a job orientation recently and we were told this.

    i don't know what to advice u. you knocked your boss up and you're going to be a father now. whether you like it or not that kid is gonna be in your life forever and you will always have this responsibility for the rest of your life, that kid is gonna grow up and learn that you're their father.

    just own up to your actions and take responsibility like an adult that you claim to be...since you're in your late 20s and a qualified finance professional and all...

    • I totally understand your point. We were never dating. We just went out for drinks (maybe that night we didn't act responsibly) and unfortunately she got pregnant. Would it be inhumane to ask her to let me go off the hook with this one as she is the one who really wants to keep it and she has more money..a house etc..

    • i wouldn't go out for drinks with MY BOSS. that's so weird. I live in new york, busiest economic city in the world and I've never seen anyone go out for the night with their BOSS. so unprofessional and just wrong. may be if you work in McDonald's but higher corporate and finance companies...hell no. in new york you go out for happy hour with coworkers if anything. I think both of you were irresponsible and she should know better too being older and higher authority then u.

    • let you off the hook? LMAO. boy, you are so selfish and ugh immature. no matter what you say or do, this kid is gonna be in your life forever haunting u, theyre gonna grow up go to school and learn someday that you're their father. truth never hides and this will haunt you for life. they probably will hate you too and have insecurities in life because they never had a real father by their side. there's no such thing as being off the hook when you just made a baby. congratulations!

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  • Talk with her and see what she expects you to do. Are you not willing to be in this childs life? or help take care of the child? or willing to give up all parental rights? It is her right to keep this child, however you both need to make it clear on what exactly you want the terms to be. No one said you have to marry her.

    • i want to be completely out of it...but I do not want to loose my job..I love it

    • So simply ask her what she wants you to do... she may not want you to be in the childs life either. (makes thing simple) but don't mention anything to her about not wanting to be there until she says something like she doesn't need you... if all else fails start applying for other companies and apply to have your rights terminated when the child is born, or man up to a bad decision you made. People make mistakes or bad decisions and the result ends up with a purpose you may change your mind later

  • Wow, Hmm...

    I I can think is to be honest with her. Um . . . is she threatening you with child support or anything like that?

    • She earns way more than me..she wudnt be after money. I just don't want people to know its my seed in her. I didn't want to get a kid in this world being so scared?

    • scared of responsibility..

Most Helpful Guy

  • Yeah, as long as you work there or she's your boss, you're f*cked. She may not care if you are in the baby's life now, but when that kid is 2 and she's being woke up all night for feedings and diaper changes then comes to work to see your dopey ass all happy and care free...best believe she'll want something from you. You blew it man. Finding a new job will be a must whatever happens with you helping to raise the kid.

    • u freaked me out !

    • Sorry man, but you wanted honest answers. You could always hope SHE gets a new job, but seeing how she's about to be a single mother I doubt she'll give up her nice paying job.

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  • you owe her nothing its her choice to keep the kid and it should also be her responsibility