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Guy forced his finger inside me and broke my hymen. Help!

I was making out with my boyfriend and we were rubbing on each other (above clothes). Then he got to the point he was above my underwear and he went under and I told him to stop and then he forced his finger in me and broke my hymen. I feel horrible I'm not a virgin anymore. I broke up with him that minute and I feel horrible. What happens if I find the man I want to marry? I can't even say I'm a virgin anymore. I'll look like a liar.
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  • don't panic, it's all going to be okay. no matter what you are thinking right now your life will not end. with that out of the way, you are by many still a virgin. the definition of Virgin is up for debate and may say that it is not until privets of been interested. I do think you made the right choice in braking up with him right then. as for you future husband, you will have to explain to him what happened. if he is the right guy, he should understand and be supportive, otherwise he's a looser. until then, keep pure, should you wish. use this as a learning experience and also a close call. if that guy was that eager, I think you should be glade he didn't get further.

    • I'm upset that he went that far period. The rubbing stimulation was a new thing I had no idea he was going to try to finger me let alone force it.

  • It seems to me that was not just a horrible thing he did to you, but I wonder if you can get him charge for assault! No, you have not lost your virginity. The strict definition for losing your virginity is that a penis has entered you for the first time. That did not happen so you are still a virgin. Not too many guys in the heat of passion are going to first give you a pelvic exam and say, "Hey! your hymen is already broken!" In this case what the guy doesn't know at that time isn't going to hurt him and you're under no obligation to tell him. It's none of his business.

    • Okay I didn't know guys could tell or not by feeling a difference. This reply calms me.

Most Helpful Girls

  • Your still a virgin, techniquly, spiritually, etc. You have to have full sex, as in giving your body to another to lose your virginity. I've had oral sex, fingering, etc but no sex and I'm still considered a virgin.

    But I think maybe the guy you were kissing got over excited in the moment and maybe thought you'd be in to it if he did. If he's a cool guy nd you still like him, I don't think you should let a small mistake kill the relationship.

    • ... ugh

    • No I told him to stop multiple times and pushed him away so it was clear. He forced it. He's not a cool guy to force something on me that I didn't want to happen and no I hate him after that I had all my morals, values, and beliefs laid out he killed them. It wasn't a mistake he did it on purpose.

    • o OK, see that was definately not okay, I'm glad you dumped his ass. But yes sweetie, you are still a virgin. No one can take that from you unless you let them willingly.

  • You're still a virgin. When its done with a penis you won't be. Plus many womens hymens break before they even have sex, and it doesn't mean they're not virgins.

    I think the actual issue here is why your boyfriend didn't stop when you told him too.

    • Yeah I completely agree! I had to end right then and there. He was supposed to be a nice guy!

  • techniqally you are a virgin because a penis didn't go inside you and that's really losing your virginity and if you find a guy and he does truly love you then he would be fine with it just don't lie to him tell him the truth

    • Okay

  • he didn't stick his d*** in you you're still a virgin. Here is an article that might help.

    link

    • Thank you!

    • See its going to be OK and you can loose your virginity to a special guy.

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  • Tell the truth ... You don't have to tell a guy if you are a virgin or not the moment you meet someone. If you date someone and the topic comes up later you tell them what happened.

    • Okay

  • 1)Your still a virgin...u didn't have intercourse...

    2) The whole hymen thing is way msiunderstood and overhyped...please take a look at this article if you want to know more.. link

    3) Have you considered pressing charges? I mean the guy sounds like he sexually assaulted you.

    • Okay but no I can't press charges it would be a my word against his type of situation (the worst kind) he's broke anyways so pressing charges would be pointless and it wouldn't make me feel any better. Even before that could happen I would have to tell someone and I don't want anyone to know about this especially my parents.

    • even if you can't get any money out of it...u don't want him to go to jail?

    • Nope that doesn't give me any satisfaction. I'll just stop talking to him

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  • You are such a stupid girl. by definition you are still a virgin until a man sticks his DICK inside your vagina. You broke up with him for no reason, but you saved him the displeasure of dating a total idiot, so good job.

    • I was worried whether I was still a virgin because a lot of people think no hymen equals not a virgin. So I was worried about it so I wouldn't tell the guy I actually fall in love with that was a virgin when it's lie. I didn't break up with him for no reason whether I'm considered a virgin or not. I told him stop multiple times and push him away and he pushed right back and broke my hymen trying to finger me on purpose. He's the idiot for trying to force that action not me.

    • Yeah, but if you were actually mart enough to do 10 minutes of research before posting this question, then you'd find that your hymen could be broken from MULTIPLE things, and not even with penetration. Hell your hymen could be broken simply by doing a split, pulling your thigh muscle, or riding a horse. Fingering is foreplay, not actual sex.

    • A lot of girls on this site think a broken hymen means the loss of virginity. She isn't the only one. Why not call her stupid one more time and make her feel better?

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  • You are still a virgin. Your hymen isn't your virginity, it's just a sign that you haven't had sex. Lots of girls break their hymen just by being active. Having a guy's finger in you doesn't change anything. I'm sure whoever you marry won't have ANY PROBLEM AT ALL with the fact that some guy broke your hymen by forcing his finger in you against your will. Most guys wouldn't even care if you had let him.

    • Okay that's kind of soothing.

  • It was a terrible thing the guy did, but you are still a virgin. Your virginity is more emotional than physical, when you meet the one and you have intercourse, you will consider that the night you lose your virginity.

    • Yeah I guess I wanted to be both actually I think that's why it's such a big deal for me.

  • You did NOT have sex, thus you're still a virgin.

    Concerning the man you want to marry, you have two possibilities:

    >picking a guy who loves you and who will be understanding about what happened.

    > faking virginity (all too easy but I wouldn't recommend it)

  • mentally you're a virgin that's all that matters by the way he's a weird inconsiderate jerk! lol

    • Lol aww thank you! =

  • you are still a virgin, but he is a d*** so you should do something about that

    you could brake your hymen while riding a bike, it doesn't mean that you lost your virginity

  • don't worry I lost mine that way. nowadays just riding a horse, falling the wrong way can cause you to have your hymen pop. he must've been hyped up in the moment and unable to hear you. has he tried speaking with you? stay strong girl.

  • It happens. You're still a virgin without the hymen. It can break from a number of things that aren't sex. Personally I think you shouldn't have fooled around that far with a guy you weren't going to go all the way with, though.

    • I wasn't even trying to him just rubbing me was a new step that didn't happen before and he went even farther than that by moving my panties and right then and there I said stop multiple times and tried to push him away. I never did oral sex or mutual rubbing type of things before.

    • I don't agree with this. Nothing justifies why he did that. No matter how far she went, the moment she felt uncomfortable, he should have stopped. No matter what. He's a d***.

    • It wasn't my intention at all to place blame on her, it is definitely his fault. But in the "heat of the moment" stuff like that can happen, which is why I would recommend avoiding stuff like this until you're ready to go all the way. Because stuff happens.

  • I feel dumb for even having to tell you this because it's so simple. You're still a virgin! Losing your v-card requires a penis to inside your vagina, NOT a finger. If you use tampons your hymen was probably already broken. You should maybe consider going back to your grade school health class and paying attention this time.

    • In grade school sex education wasn't taught but in HS they mentioned a broken hymen was a sign of sexual intercourse and a lot of people actually view it as no hymen = not a virgin. Read the comments here...So...

    • Also there's no need to insult me now that I look at this. I think you know that otherwise you wouldn't be scared to voice your opinion, "Anonymous" So just don't be a bitch it's pretty pointless especially if you scared to say it without checking the Anon box.

    • I do more or less everything in anonymous status so try not to feel special, it isn't about you, it's about me. I'm sorry, you're not dumb, you're ignorant, willfully or not I don't really know. My apologies for writing in such a fashion that you might infer insult when the inflection I intended was incredulity. I really do find it hard to believe you didn't realize it took a penis in a vag to lose virginity.

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