Guy patting my ass, should I be offended?

The guy I'm seeing.and I were at a restaurant and on the way out he put his arm around my hip and patted my ass, right in front of the waitresses. why would he do that? It did make me feel like an object.
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Do you think it means he sees me as a sex toy? He is also quite a bit older
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if we were exclusive it wouldn'th ave bothered me. since we aren't, and just started dating less than 6 weeks ago, I'm way more insecure
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Most Helpful Girls

  • If you're offended, you're offended, and should tell him you'd appreciate that he not do that again.

    My boyfriend does that to me all the time, in public and in private, but it doesn't bother me because we're together and I know he respects me. He doesn't do it as a show-off thing, it's more affectionate and possessive, in a good way, if that makes sense.

  • if you don't like it then your offended, no sense in asking us if you "should" be or not. that shouldn't be a question, you just were. so let him know how you felt so he knows not to do it again

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  • Maybe he likes the feel of your ass. I like it when my husband displays affection toward me, especially in public.

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  • Many men or "Guys" see that act has a sign of "Macho", but in fact its just to talk it out with friends, in most cases, other well, I can only tell perverts, We man come in diferent sizes, minds, bodys, etc.. so you have to fig him out either you like the way he threats you or not.

  • How long have you been seeing him? I do that to my wife all the time.

    • A little over a month and he isn't my boyfriend

    • Then that is inappropriate and you should tell him it makes you uncomfortable. Now does it bother you that he touched your butt or that he did it in public? If you guys aren't in that sort of physical relationship then I say you should stop seeing him. That may seem harsh but guys who over step boundaries early in relationships should send up red flags.

    • i didn't like it because I felt like he was showing off to the waitress. we fool around, haven't f***ed yet though, it's been over a month. it was weird it turned me on and made me feel like an object simultaneously

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  • Alpha as f***

    You should just tell him indecent public affection isn't your thing.

  • you should tell him you didn't appreciate it and tell him to not do it again

  • I recent "date'/"going out friend" did that, and I told him I don't like it, and it seems disrespectful. He stopped doing it, and apologied, but he insists saying that it is not disrespectful.

  • I do that to my girlfriend all the time, but she's my girlfriend, and I know she likes it. I'd never even ~try~ doing that to a woman that I wasn't already involved with.

  • That is a big no-no. He's totally only interested in getting into your pants.

    • You can tell that from a little pat on the butt?

    • Notice she said "guy" and not boyfriend. Also, "guy I'm seeing," big hint on where their relationship is currently at. OP clearly sounds concerned and it's probably because her instinct tells her it was wrong. Idiot.