Guys do you stay hard while eating your woman out? Ladies does he?

[Anonymous]

I am wondering because without her touching me while I'm eating her out I get soft before she cums. Its not that I don't enjoy it or anything I am just concentrating on making her happy and I get soft after about 20 min. Once she cums I can get right back up but my problem is that she thinks I'm not enjoying myself while I'm doing it or that she is unattractive to me. So we made this bet that if I could stay up the whole time I was eating her out she would give me a long slow blow job that lasted as long as I ate her out. But if I didn't stay hard the whole time she would give me a long slow blow job for as long as I ate her out but then she would stop without letting me get off and I would have to go to bed with blue balls and try again the next day. I am loosing horribly its been 7 days and I have not even gotten close to making it. Please help me. This all started because we are moving and very low on money so I talked her into going off birth control for a while. So we are just doing oral no sex

[ilovelegs]

Wow! That was a good question! It usually takes me somewhere between 30 - 45 minutes to get my girl to cum. But that's because she likes to hold back and enjoy it longer and I am so ok with that because I love giving her oral sex and that's our preferred way to be sexual with each other. I usually get hard right off because that's such a sexy thing for me to do, but as I start concentrating more and more into what I'm doing - you know like tonguing her deeper and deeper, , harder and harder, faster and faster I get soft and she understands that and appreciates my efforts more than if I'm still hard or not. As soon as her body motions tells me she's enjoying it more and more and wants more effort on my part, that's the time I get soft and according to her account, that's about 15 minutes or so. We usually change positions around then to where she's straddling me and sitting on me backwards to where she sees the action down there. Haha! Sometimes she'll reach down and give it a flick, lol! As soon as she starts cumming I'm like a rod again and that tells us both, GOOD JOB! But she does tell me that sometimes after I've gotten soft I'll spring up again but only to soften once more and she can associate that with my efforts. Well anyway, that's how it is for me and I think your girl is being hard on you but that's her business. The main thing is to make sure she's never disappointed in how you perform oral on her and your desire to please her that way.

[soxfan94]

It all depends, if she is making noise and being obvious that she's getting really into the oral, then I usually have no problem staying hard because it's such a turn on to hear her with all that pleasure. If she's quiet and doesn't move around at all, then I usually get soft after about 20 minutes like you said, because I'm concentrating on it and she's not giving any indication that it's good for her.

[FMfatale]

First of all, buy some condoms and follow the easy to read instructions. Lots of places even hand them out for free. Poverty is no excuse for celibacy ;)

As for your actual question, it's completely normal and does not mean you're not still turned on. Guys don't walk around strip clubs with full wood, but they're still plenty attracted. She can't take it personally if after 20 minutes, the blood's more in your head than your head. Your body's not an idiot - it knows when it needs to be hard and when it doesn't. Besides, a 20 minute erection with absolutely no physical incentive is probably grounds for a doctor's visit.

The punishment is kind of harsh too. Who punishes their guy for going down on them? Really?

[Mugzeee]

O my well I think maybe you really should think of getting a device to help you move it along like either a toy or banging her till she is about to cum and then start eating her out or get her to help you out too while your doing this to her she'll know its good for you too if your all moaning and stuff too right?

[Mugzeee]

Well then again my boyfriend stays hard because I enjoy it and that's cool for me but maybe you should try new things like writing the alphabet or something kinky with her that she would like

[lordian]

My advice is, try different techniques when your going down on her. I've been around the block in that respect with quite a few women, and never has it taken 20 minutes.There's plenty you can do to stimulate things along on her end and on yours. Never underestimate the power of your vocal chords, or simply running you hands along her things, among other things.

[tex151]

Well with me it doesn't take much to get me hard first off and if I am eating her out well heck yes I am hard who wouldn't be if he was looking at a naked woman?

[John83]

For me, I actually get even harder while I'm going down on a woman. I love the close up view of her p**** and her taste and smell get me really turned on. Once I get her off and start having intercourse with her, it usually takes me no time at all to come.

[Anonymous]

My girlfriend has a different technique; when I eat her out, I never know if it will lead to full sex or not. Sometimes she just wants oral. This means my erection may go half hard for a little bit but mostly I'm raring to go!