Guys, have you ever gone soft right before sex?

[Anonymous]

This guy I have been seeing went soft on me right before we were about to have sex together for the first time. He was pretty upset about it and ended up going home because he said he just couldn't stop thinking about it. Anyway, I invited him over tonight and he passed... and I get the feeling he is avoiding me because he is worried I will want to try again and it will happen again. Has this ever happened to anyone? Were you able to get over it... or did you never want to see the girl again?

[Cartiphilus]

Yes, he wants to see you again that's why have returned for a second swing. He wanted to please you so much it made him nervous he wouldn't be able to perform. I fulfilled his own prophecy.

Don't worry about it. There are many reasons why a guys would go soft like that but the only one that matters, in your case is, ANXIETY on his part. What EVER you do DO NOT make him un-comfortable or further nervous than he apparently already is towards satisfying you. That will cause him to go soft so fast you will not believe it. In fact, pretend it never happened.

[Tobbie5]

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[KERMlT]

Did it happen when he put on the condom? Sometimes nerves will be counter productive. If a guy is stressed or has too much on his mind, his dumbstick won't cooperate. Invite him over, and just cuddle with him nude. After he has fallen asleep... take charge.

The idea that the first time has to be perfect is more like a myth. Things never go perfect the first time that is what practice is for.

[Asker]

Yeah, it was right after he put on the condom... my guess is it happened because we have waited so long and there was so much anticipation and build up that it just became too much. I was nervous too... would it help if I told him that?

[KERMlT]

It is rather common for a guy to get soft if he puts on a condom. It has happened to me but I was using mediums when I should have had the large ones. Perhaps he is in the same boat I was. :)

[Delaisback]

I think for guys having sex relies heavily on their confidence. If a guy has an experience like this it will make him afraid of having sex in the future. I can honestly say that I've never had that happen to me, but all that your guy needs is a confidence booster.

By C.B. I mean having sex with you, by any means necessary.

[Carson1023]

He is just nervous. Maybe just wait a little bit until both of you are a little more comfortable with each other on many different levels. It just takes time. Trust me.

[0ddjob]

I've gone soft in the head. Does that count?

[taster]

Which day of the week?

[Asker]

Does that matter?

[taster]

No I am saying it has happened alot..and, over the years..probably on everyday (it is a saying) ..all you can do is see if he can get it back up...or switch to Plan B (oral or something) and try again another day

[Asker]

Oh, well he pretty much didn't want to try again after it happened... said he was too worried it would happen again. Now I haven't heard from him in a few days and get the feeling he is too embaressed to see me again.

[Anonymous]

It happens. It's just anxiety or being tired or whatever. The easiest solution is to just get totally naked, get into bed together and go to sleep. When he wakes up next to you and feels your skin against his and he's well rested chances are he'll be hard as a rock and bursting to cum.

[Anonymous]

Poor guy, it's just performance anxiety. I sometimes go soft... depending on how much masturbation I've done in the previous week. But since our relationship is many, many years old, it doesn't hurt much... We have the time to catch up.

An understanding woman can always "lend a hand" (pun intended). If you're willing to give head, you'll get him hard in a way few would even suspect!

[Anonymous]

maybe he's just not attracted to you...

[irykiryk]

This is a copy paste answer.