Guys, should I let my ex-boyfriend use me for sex?

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I know that's all he wants, because he came right out and told me that. I have to admire his honesty, and I want to have sex with him. I'm more attracted to him than I have been to any other guys, though I'm not sure why. The problem is that we've tried this before, and broke it off because he couldn't handle it. Now he's come back and wants to do it again, and we did have sex this past week, and it was amazing, as per usual, and now I don't know if I should enter into this knowing that he;s just using me. An advice?

RealDeal · Accepted Answer

You just answered your own question... " I don't know if I should enter into this knowing that he;s just using me". If you feel used then you should not be sleeping with him. You can only sleep with him if you are completely over him. It doesn't sound like you are. The reason he comes back is because he can. You let him. He needs that confidence you give him from wanting him in that way. He then has the confidence to pursue other women while sleeping with you. Basically, he could be spending his time with a girl right now and taking his time with her(sexually) and building a fountain if he really likes her. While she becomes more attached to him he will continue to keep the affection of two women. He will eventually cut you off quick when he wants the relationship with new girl to progress and you'll feel even worse letting it carry on that long. Believe me I've done this. I'm not proud but at the same time the old girl made it easy and let me.

People only treat you the way you let them treat you. Sleeping with him won't bring him back, letting him remember you for being better than that will make his miss you. Truth be told, If he left you and is willing to disrespect you like that to satisfy his own needs isn't worth your time. You don't want to hang out with someone who has a low opinion of you. He's being selfish and so should you. So start putting yourself first and forget about what he wants. You might only be attracted to him because he shares your most recent memories. Don't forget what you learned, give it more time, and go out and date other people! Moving on isn't easy, but dam it feels good.

Malcom_Reynolds · Accepted Answer

If you think that you can do this without getting hurt then yes.  If you think you're going to get too attached and end up getting hurt when he doesn't want more, then no.