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Guys: when a girl asks you to wear a condom?

so my boyfriend and I were fooling around and he told me he wanted to be inside me. I did too but I'm not on birth control. I was really embarrassed to ask if he had a condom but there was no way I was going to do anything without one because I DO NOT want to get pregnant any time soon and I know I'm getting somewhat close to my period again (like a week or 2 away probably). he had some but they were in his car (idk y) so nothing happened but I feel like I let him down in a way and I'm still a little embarrassed that I asked him if he had any. is that normal? and what do guys think when a girls asks them to wear a condom?
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Most Helpful Girls

  • Why in the world would you be embarrassed? When a guy wants sex, he is so in the moment he isn't thinking 'You know what? I'm at a stage where I can't afford a child so I think I better be smart and wrap it up!" He is think SEX, SEX, SEX! He isn't going to stop and thank you for being so good about reminding him about the condom. But that doesn't mean that you have to not ask for one. If a guy knows you won't have sex with him without one, I don't care if his car was 15 minutes away, he would be jogging to his car to get it!

    You have to be smart about this cause you are the one who is going to have to carry a child for 9 months, deal with a guy who is frustrated that he has a dependant now, sue him for child support, and take care of a kid on your own! I have just seen too many woman, not be forceful about birth control and now they can't figure out why they are having to fight this guy so hard for child support.

  • No guy should have a problem with a woman protecting her body and sexual health,along with him protecting his sexual health.

    No you did not let anyone down.

    And if you're going to have sex with someone but are too "embarrassed" about telling him to wear a condom,not to be rude or sound like a mother,but you shouldn't be having sex with him or anyone.If you aren't comfortable talking to him and making it clear how you are going to protect yourself,then you have no business having sex.

    It's just a condom and if your goal is sex,then make sure you have some on you.There's nothing wrong with a girl having a few extra condoms on herself,it doesn't make you look bad or easy,it makes you look smart.

  • AsK! dun feel embarrassed or you might end up more embarrassed to carry a bebe for nine month at this young age! and seriously, if he wanted to do it he shuld have concerned about you by wrapping it up. If asking this disappointed him then I think he doesn't really care about his girl enough. : / dun feel bad you did the right thing! I repeat YOU DID THE RIGHT THING! if he's not happy its his pb! lol

Most Helpful Guys

  • Nothing to be embarrassed about. It's your body.

    In my opinion, that's not letting him down. If someone's letting anyone down, it's him. He was the one who started the talk about sex, and apparently got you wanting it too, but then had forgot the condoms. His own fault.

    And to your other question: I would be totally fine with a girl asking me to wear a condom. Actually, I've never had sex without it. I see a lot of guys on these forums complain that condoms are a pain, but I really can't see anything bad. I've found a brand and size that fits me, and it's going great with that.

  • If you are going to be out in the world and there is the remotest chance of hooking up...a guy should have a condom on him at all times.

    I would never have sex with a woman unless I used protection or whe had a test done recently. It's called "safe sex" because not only could you have an unwanted pegnancy...but you could get a disease and die.

    It seems amazing to me that there seem to be a lot of WOMEN who don't want to use condoms...AMAZING.

    • Its not that I didn't want to use them its that I was embarrassed to ask but wouldn't do anything without one...

    • I understand, but you shouldn't be embarassed. I'm sure he understands and I bet the next time he's in that situation....he will have many condoms ready.

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What Girls & Guys Said

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  • In a situation like that, you have to think on yourself. You don't want to become pregnant, so there is nothing to be embarrassed about.

  • I'd be a little worried if a girl didn't ask.

  • some guys actually appriciate it because they don't wanna be a daddy anytime soon either. just say it in a sexy way and it turns them on even more because then they know theyre gettin it.

    just don't have sex with anyone that you don't care about and can't see in your life just in case it does happen

  • UM...your smart...he should be happy your smart.

  • Yea you should've asked and that wouldn't have made me mad or anything. I'm sure he understands and will probably have them on him next time. And its a good thing that you are wanting to be safe.

  • I would believe its natural for a gal to ask for a condom, especially if its your first time getting it on together. So there nothing to be embarrassed about from this guy's opinion :)

    As you develop your sexual relationship, the whole concept of protection and such should become a conversation and how to handle it long-term.

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