Several of the girls I've dated were this way; they had been with guys who were wusses in bed, and wanted their man to be the MAN in bed, and take control and make the decisions. In my experience, it's probably the single most common female "fetish", and by "fetish", I mean, something that isn't 100% mainstream. Plenty of women DON'T want this, and either want to be "equal" or even want to be the dominant one, but LOTS of women want to be submissive in bed.
Now, having said that, lots of guys enjoy it, but there are many guys who simply don't know how to be dominant, and don't have the personality to ever be that way. I've known a couple of guys who were either complete doormats, and on the few occasions where they ever tried to stand up for themselves and be assertive, they just came across as huge jerks who didn't know what they were talking about. Like I said, some guys simply don't have it in them to be dominant, and those guys would be very uncomfortable with a very submissive girlfriend. And some other guys might get freaked out, yes. But I think the majority of guys wouldn't find it to be very strange at all and would have no problem accomidating those needs.
If a girl told me that my first reaction would be, after I picked myself up off the floor, to take her to an adult store and have her start picking out outfits and such. I don't know much about that kind of BDSM lifestyle, but goddammit I'm a trooper and I'll learn.
well it would be awesome if my fiance responded this way! lol :) But I really don't think he will. He's not really into trying anything new or "freaky" at all. which kinda sucks for me being the complete opposite lol :)
Yea, I'm not a guy (at least, as far as I know lol,)
But, my friend is really into the domination / slave thing; she started doing it last year, with her boyfriend of two years as her master. She's in the submissive stage now, as she's still working on completely being enslaved by him, (which is every aspect, whatever he wants she has to do.)
So, their relationship is really good - she's always very enthusiastic when telling me about their romps, and the thrill of losing control to his will so...
I think if your fiance / guy is really into the whole domination thing...it's a really unique and incredible experience if you do it for all it's worth :D
Check out fetlife.com - this is where my friend learned how to be a proper slave, and there are other people into that stuff as well on there, who can give you tips and stuff.
( I'm going to be starting on there soon as a dome (dah - may) that's a female dominant type.)
Have fun :D
was her boyfriend already into it and talk her into it? My fiance isn't the try new things type of guy.. but I would so love for him to get into this with me. I have to admitt I'm being a chicken about talking to him about because I just don't know what he will say or think.
No, my friend got him into it; she just asked him if he'd like to do it, and he was like, alright. So yea, you should definitely talk to him and at least see if he would try it. He probably won't think anything horrible about you lol especially if you just tell him it's a fetish / fantasy you'd like to try every now and then. Is he more of a dominant kinda guy?
he's kinda well shy in the bedroom. Just recently got him into pulling my hair lol He's awesome in bed, he just doesn't really sound open to new things. We've been together 6 years and never really been adventurous. I've tried to mention it to him like telling about a movie I watched or story I read and he just kinda laughs it off like damn that's crazy lol ugh
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What's Your Opinion? Sign Up Now!I think that would be hot! I love the idea of using a woman (sexually) anytime I wanted. One of the rules she would have to obey is, if she wants an orgasm, she MUST ask for permission. She HAS to ask nicely and politely and she can't cum without it.
I love the idea of making her give me nice slow, teasing, edging kind of handjobs. I like the idea of teaching her how to give the perfect blowjob. Sucking just the tip, softly and slowly all while stroking my balls with her fingertips. Cumming in her mouth and ordering her to swallow it, ALL of it!
I would want to fuck her while she's on the phone. I like the idea of her trying to maintain her composure as I use her for my sexual pleasure.
I like the idea of giving her a handjob while she drives a car, during the day, with lots of traffic all around. Stroking her pussy softly and slowly while both her hands are on the wheel. Listening to her ask for permission to cum and tell her no a couple of times before finally giving her permission. I like the idea of people right next to us wondering why she's screaming during an orgasm. Or, giving her a handjob in a some-what crowded movie theater. Knowing that she has to keep quiet while having an orgasm otherwise people around us might wonder why she's moaning or groaning.
I also like the idea of her finding another woman to join us on a regular basis. I would insist she learn how to make love to a woman and the other woman make love to her.
I love the idea of making her cum SO many times.
It would be hot.. but a constant thing would be very weird.
no not constant every time lol just once in while to spice things up and try new things :)
"way too freaky?" No such thing. I have limits--no sharp objects, please--but tell me anything. I'll listen.
I always play along. Will I like it? I'll know once I try.
I would say it would be OK, just to a point, I do like a girl to be indipendent to point and not give total control
I would play along...have to learn it of course...but I think I could make it go...there's a lot of things you could request that I would like less and this one just might be a positive experience :D
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