Handjob-- easy or rough?

Handjobs confuse me :( I've read in Cosmo that it's hard to be too rough on a guy's dick. But I think I just don't get it. I've been told to go easier, told to go rougher. How much pressure? Do I move the skin itself or just graze over it? Is it possible to give a good handjob without lube or is lube necessary? What do you guys especially like? I want to please.
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  • You certainly don't need lube to give a good handjob! Just spit on your right hand and grip the penis below the head only hard enough so that the foreskin slides up and down with the movements of your up and down stroke as if milking him. One of the main things is that the foreskin slides over and over that very sensitive spot - you'll see some skin that protrudes on the backside that connects the head to the shaft. That skin area is his most sensitive spot as far as making him cum. Even if you just used your thumb on top and the the forefinger on the bottom and keep massaging that spot with the forefinger as you slide it up and down, that'll get him off in a hurry too. That's like the clitoris in a girl. So just make sure the foreskin is sliding over that and on the down stroke for extra feeling, extend your little finger so that it kind of pokes his balls with every down stroke. You can start out slow but build momentum and just be ready to catch his jissm in a tissue in the other hand. You can be squeezing and fingering his balls with the other hand for his added pleasure and your extra fun until the tissue is needed. Meantime listen to what he tells you do and pay attention to how he's responding to any particular thing you're doing.

  • Okay Grazing over it always feels good.

    It is possible to be too rough.

    Without lubrication:

    I'll let you in on a secret:

    Your hand already [should] feel different than ours.

    So your touch already feels so good.

    Another secret:

    Any stimulation, will eventually result in ejaculation.

    Trust me, I've tried it on myself.

    So with that said, don't try to go over board with pressure.

    I'd say pretend as though you are rubbing lotion on it.

    With Lubrication:

    Do what ever you like, it will feel good regardless.

    & the typ of lube doesn't matter either: spit, gel, soap [odd I know], lotion.etc

    What ever you think!

    I hope this helped.

    Sincerely,

    A Loving Black Man

Most Helpful Girl

  • With lube I graze over the skin. Without I move the skin itself. The guys I've been with have seemed very happy with that. You can definitely be too rough. The first time I did it I was a little overenthusiastic and the poor guy was putting Neosporin on himself for a week. I did make it up to him, though. Oh, and there's nothing wrong with asking the guy how he likes it. Guys like coaching and training us on stuff like that. You can even have him take your hand and make it do what he wants until you've gotten it on your own.

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  • ask the guy what he wants, I hate to break it to all the women out there but most of what's written in cosmo I laugh at and go yeah I don't know any guy who wants that, basically just feel it out literally I know what I want but with each girl its different she may have a different technique and it may work better just tell the guy to talk to you while your giving him a hand job and get him to be open about what feels good

  • Yes, it is true that a man's penis can take a lot (except teeth). Lube is usually better, but you don't have to use it. It really depends on how chaffed it becomes. I have had to reassure my partner numerous times that she could really squeeze hard on my penis and it doesn't hurt. The skin will definitely move, but changing things up is also helpful and enjoyable.

  • I like it very very soft. Just use one hand or two/three fingers to pet it .

    There is no description how to do it. JUst play with it. Try different things. Don't be shy or prude. Be open for everything. If you are relaxed, it's much easier. Don't excpect anything. Just play with it. Ask him directly during the hand/blowjob how he would like it. Watch his reactions during trying several things and you will realize if he likes it or not.

  • The shaft is pretty durable, but be careful with the family jewels. Those are more sensitive to pressure. Being too rough with them can be very painful - and for quite a while. Maybe that's where the confusion comes in.

  • Pressure and force can be overdone. Especially force. If you are moving too fast or too hard on the stroke towards his body, you might crush his "boys". Any man will tell you this is the most unpleasant sensation he can feel short of losing a limb. Its like being punched.

    Also, you don't want to squeeze it like you would to wring sponge, you just need to make sure he can feel your hand there. If there's no sensation there, its actually kind of a tickling, and gets boring quickly.

    Lube is not necessary, but it is a bonus.

    Keep in mind that its an imperfect, organic science. Each guy is going to be entirely different in how he likes his strokes.

  • Easy at first, more spirited towards the end.

  • I would prefer it slow and easier in the start, and gradually work harder and faster.

  • be easy then git harder its okay if you move the skin.i love it when a girl moves the skin. you can use lube. it makes him come faster.

  • Most men will enjoy various techniques... When jerking a guy, ask him how he likes it most... Anyways you'll notice it when it'll get harder in your hands lol

  • i'm pretty sure every guy has their own "sweet spot". I say this because some girls have been to rough with mine, others too soft. just ask the guy if it feels good and if he wants it a little harder or softer

  • This girl gave me the BEST handjob ever. She used her left hand to stroke the shaft vigorously while "Palming" all over the head of my dick in circular motion. It's quite the sensation.a multiple attack on the senses.then she'd alternate with clasping both hands around it firmly and doing this 'vibrating jackhammer' maneuver. DAMN that was hot.