Have you ever been raped?

Statistics say lot of women have. There is the chance to be anonymous here. Its not something that's happened to me although I think it probably happens to guys to. I was wondering if people had been through this and how prevalent it is.
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  • yes I have. its something that for a while takes a big part of you. however, there are ways to come through it while its def not the easiest thing to overcome its possible. I guess that's the thing with rape is you can't fight it while it happens, you can't make them stop and you generally know you're going to lose... but its after the rape that for me the real battle began. it began the moment after they crawl off of you and kisses your forehead tenderly the way someone who loves you do. it begins the moment after when they slowly pull out of you and you feel like its ripping out your heart and tearing up your soul. it begins then. that's when the biggest fight of my life began. its an everyday struggle to let someone you love caress you or touch you and sometimes when someone you loves touches you in that same way while they have good intentions it makes the hair on the back of your neck stand up and it sends a chill up your spine.

    But you have to fight it because you survived it. you have to put one foot in front of the other and know you are still worth something and despite what people say or the stigma with rape you're still you. you're still wonderful beautiful and amazing! you never asked for this who the heck would ask for their dignity to be robbed with them.

    The fight begins after the fight to feel normal again. For me I saw my rapist the next weekend and the weekend after out and about like NOTHING ever happened he was smiling and laughing and he would torment me. But I survived. So you have to fight with everything you have to feel normal... to feel like you again. Because I promised myself after I was raped that that sick jerk wouldn't rob me of who I was so I fought for that. I had to I had no choice. I didn't want him to win twice.

    • I am sorry to hear that. I really feel sorry for you :( Ur a brave girl and should be voted best answer. here is advie for any-one who gets raped.

    • im not a brave girl. I'm a survivor that's the choice you have either survive or let them rape you and steal you of your sense of self. you just can't give in that way. but thank you.

    • i wish guys who talk sh*t and men and women who devalue what this is really about could read this.

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  • Yes I have been raped! It has happened a couple times actually! I was molested when I was 6 or 7 (for about a year) and then when I was 11 I was raped for the first time. At that age I really didn't even know what rape was so for a while I blamed myself never knowing what it would do to me in the end. I went through hell for about 4 years. I blamed myself and felt worthless and dirty. I let guys treat me like trash my boyfriend (well ex now) used to do what ever he wanted to me because he thought he owned me and I believed that if he didn't have his way he would treat me like every other guy and rape me anyway! I am happy to say that I have come to the place where I am healing. Everyday is a new battle but even though the rapist will always believe he won, I've got another story one he'll never know! The one where I have won in the end. I am the one who survived! Yes everyday is a new beginning but it's one day you've chosen to gain instead of give up! And there are the memories, flashbacks and nightmare that wake you in the dead of night in a cold sweat shivering and crying because it's too real. But those are things you will always have to work through to get to the other side. You have to have a storm to get to the rainbow on the other side. For me I've been through the worst of the storm and I'm headed for the rainbow..infact I'm almost there! :)

  • I was raped the day before yesterday.. and it was horrible. It was my first time to have sex as well.. so it was really terrifying.. We started just making out.. but it ended up really bad. Apparently at some point men think with their other head, and just can't control their need to have sex. I tried to stop him but he kept telling me, "Shh.." or "Shut up, they'll hear you", "Shut up, or I'll hurt you". I was really drunk, I've never actually been this drunk in my life-and he was too. The weird thing is that I knew him for quite some time and I never imagined he could do something like this. Anyway, eventually a friend of mine saw us and came and grabbed me and took me home. I was in such a shock I couldn't even cry properly, cause I couldn't even realize what had happened. I went home and my vagina hurt so bad and I was bleeding, I couldn't even walk. Thankfully the next day I was a bit better physically, but psychologically worse. It's kind of okay to tell the story, but when I think about it all alone I end up crying. I try and tell myself that it could have been worse, but I still can't believe it happened. I remember listening to stories like that and not even considering that it could actually happen to me. Anyway, that was my story.

    • You should really go to the police about this and get him reported...

Most Helpful Guys

  • I've never been raped. However one of my exes tried to ruin my life by telling everyone that I had raped and beat her. Ever since she said that, I have a hard time believing women when they say they've been raped. I know it happens. I know its out there a lot. But it does not happen to the majority of the women in the world, yet, majority of the women you ask will say they have been.

  • I have, I speak out about it. I was abducted and held for 3 days by three female strangers, nearly killed and have some pretty nasty scars on my body to show for it.

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  • As some people might see it, yes. As I see it, no. I do know a girl who has, though. :/

  • I have been molested. I fear from rape. When I walk outside, it goes through my mind. I guess I am sort of afraid of men. Especially in large groups. I was being followed once and I freaked out to the max. When guys (older ones) whistle at me or check me out, I get scared. I hope I never get raped.

    I feel sorry for the girls who have

    • my best girl "friend" was molested AND raped. I never know how to interact with her because of this. she's always nervous around me because she doesn't know if ill do this to her. I'm the nicest sweetest guy you'll ever know but sometimes things just scar you to the point that you'll wind up. paranoid

    • Yeah it's horrible. It does scar you and I think the reason why I don't trust older men that I am surrounded by is because of what happened to me. It's a horrible feeling and I hope she can trust you again,

    • sorry to hear that sh*t as for the walking behind a girl thing... i get scared sometimes when I'm walking home and I see a girl on her own in front of me. its like that time when you want to be like ''IM NOT STALKING YOU''. I know this is a bit of a dumb point to make in this context but if it was me walking behind you id be feeling pretty bloody awkward in the situation.

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  • No, I have not and I would never wish for anyone else to be.

  • Rapers d***s are gonna shrink..

  • I have nearly, it scars for life dude.

  • Yes i have, it was end of November, it is now June 17th. My birthday is April 3rd, So i am now 14. I came on here to tell my story. I trusted guys so much, i had these two boy best friends, we were homeschooled so we even did school together every day for hours. I was homeschooled for a year, i got pulled because i was being bullied so i have been skipping class a lot. *MY STORY STARTS HERE* I have these two boy best friends. We were all brother&sister, 10 months later there older brother had gotten out of jail, he is 17 (just turned 18 a couple days ago), My two boy best friends and i had been fighting a lot sense there older brother had gotten home. They started hanging out with him and stopped with me, i still had to do school with them at a class my mom paid a bunch of money for, so i went once a week. Every week for about a month, they started hiding my notebooks when i went to the restroom, when the teacher would look away they started calling me a slut, whore, etc. So i told my friend that works there for babysitting. We talked in the bathroom at that class. My mom said i can stop going there, at that time i had a phone and snap chat. They had texted me after 2 weeks sense i left the class. Saying they were so sorry and they want to make it up to me but its a surprise and i have to be alone. Of course i went for it, i loved them. They said there older brother was coming to get me around 2 A. M, He was supposed to take me to there house, but instead he took me an opposite direction. I didn't think much, i figured they were at a park wanting to meet up, But there older brother pulled up into a house i had never seen before, i figured they were in there, so i went in there. It was a small house, we went into the room. *sorry if i misspell i am shaking.* There was a man who looked 23-24 he said he was 16. There were 2 boys there i sort of knew from there sstep sibligns. Then there was there brother, i was so confused, so i asked there older brother where are my two friends? He said they are coming they will be here in 30 minutes. II waited an hour, and another guy showed up that i knew. He was friends wtih a boy my age. *He is 16*, anyways, He had brough a bunch of beer, so they all started drinking. I saw the 23-24 yr old man bring a drink into the kitchen, and he came back and wanted me to drink it. I said no and they forced me into it, i drank it and i couldn't remember anything after that. I had woken up, to the 16 yr old i knew from a friend and the 23-24 man next to me in bed.. i assumed the 2 boys i knew from step siblings were in living room. They started putting there hands in my shirt and my pants, i felt so uncomfy. So i was saying no, they said "shh its okay sweetheart.." At that point i knew. So i tried to get up. the 23-24 man got up, got on me, put his hand around my throat yelling at me to shut up, My two friends older brother had heard, he walked in, i thought he would make them get off of me because i was best friends with his little brothers. But No he said "Hell no, im not missing out on this thing." He got beside me, and i had blacked out or something. i woke up 4 hours later they said i had too much to drink, thats why my stomach and head hurt.. So i asked my friend from stepsiblings for a tylenol. i know it was not a good choice* They gave me a pill. i had passed out again. and i woke up on the living room floor, my vagina was hurting so bad, i staretd to bleed, so i asked them what time it was and i wanted to go home. They said it was 12 P. m and i said thats what time my mom wakes me up, she will know im gone. All of them said i have to go on the run so i dont get in trouble.. they were convincing me, i kept saying no, later on i tried leaving, thats when they shut the door, locked it, and pushed me to the ground, got on me, held my hand over my mouth and nose, and said "if you want to breathe you will stay there." so i nodded yes... Later than they let me walk to the boys i knew, Like for more :')

    • Yes i have been raped by 5 guys at once, It was painful, but now 8 months later, All i think is "I am a fighter and a survivor, wow im amazing i went through all of that." Girl, i promise you, my messages are open, Just remember you are the one fighting, Battles leave scars, But scars are who YOU are. I am proud to say i have survived rape, You should be too, my life is getting in hand, we are moving out, i am going back to public school after almost 2 years! I have been looking for a girl that we can talk anonymously together about our story so we can relate. Everything will get better, you are a natural Queen <3

  • LMFAO! all the women here have been raped lol get over it it's just sex

  • Yes I have.

  • I've been raped three times. When I was 16, I was raped by the manager of the supermarket where I was working at the time. And when I was 37 two men attacked me one evening and raped me. I don't go out anymore.

  • Not raped but molested. Even though it happened when I was an adolescent, I'm still damaged from it in ways and probably always will be.

  • Yes. Anally raped once when I was 15. Orally raped twice when I was very young. And molested a few times, but this man is mentally ill and I do not place blame on him or anyone, he can't help it. Three unrelated guys. I'm just in the wrong place at the wrong time a lot.

  • i have not, not even close. and I don't know anyone who has

  • yea I have.

    I just remember he didn't ask me if we should have sex or if it was OK for us to have sex. He just went on and on talking about how experienced he was. I let him because I was nice, but I didn't know that he was going to hold me down, get on top of me and do it. If it was mutual it would have been more pleasant. When he did it I was freaked out about getting pregnant and we weren't married so I cried for 30 minutes. I really wanted to save sex for marriage. Luckily, he told me about plan b so I took that right away the next morning! Thank God there is such a thing as plan B. Well now... I don't know. I'm still with him but I am kind of... feel like he is the one always wanting sex and not me, so I feel like a prostitute or a piece of meat some times :S. We are having sex less and less, but I don't know. I think it is probably because I call him names some times, for the way he treats me. He treats me like I'm a slave some times... I just don't like it.

  • It's very prevalent. I'm living proof.

  • Yes, I have :/

    Maybe the only thing in my life that I can say I wish I had been dead for. There is nothing like it. It's like being robbed, but only in a more violent and scary way. There is nothing that could be compared to it, and nothing that could ever pardon an act so animal like. It starts slowly for some, but it was sudden for me. It was unexpected and I am angry on how it went along unnoticed. Most people expect that I was scared at first, but I was in fact very angry. There wasn't any fear until I was exhausted from fighting the biggest, most brutal fight of my life. The feeling of defeat is the worst thing ever. Unlike anything else I've ever felt. When you know that you're going to lose, and you have to watch and feel every second of it, when you know your screams won't be heard and your struggling has come to an end, you want to die. DIE. The feeling of it tears you apart and then the cries are no longer from your throat. They come from your soul, which is scarred, along with a heart that is full of fear and will not trust easily anymore. It RUINS** your life. The process of getting over it is endless. It takes so much to even accept that the act wasn't your fault. For the longest time I blamed myself. I never saw the man who stole my innocence again, and I never even knew his name. He stole from me, but he left more things behind. He left a trail of confusion and broken dreams, low self image,esteem and confidence. I could never prove to him that he didn't break me completely, I couldn't show him that I wasn't going to let him win. I stood up on my own and I'm still standing alone. What pains me the most is that I can't change the fact that in his mind, he won... And I lost.

  • i have, and it's completely changed my life. it was the scariest thing I've ever gone through and I can't even stand to be touched my anyone anymore. I've become completely isolated. I would never wish it on someone else, and I wish it never happened. I wish that no one ever had/or has to ever go through this kind of torture.

    • whoever did this was a sad pathetic person and its not your life story to be hostage to their issues. it angers me to hear this as id like to kill a rapist knives through the eyes. I really would. I see beautiful flowers and I see evil twisted lost f***s dirtying them. but the point remains, a beautiful flower is still a beautiful flower underneath it all.

    • i'm sorry for what youve been through. you have to find your courage and you have to remember one thing you are still more beautiful now than ever, stronger than you ever thought you were, more incredible because you survived, and you are still human because you feel. You can't be isolated when you still feel remember that. Don't give up on that.

    • i wish I could find the guy who did it, but it's been a year and they have no leads. and yes, I should be strong and happy because I survived, but I actually almost didn't. if a bus boy from a restaurant wouldn't have thrown out the trash that night, I'm not sure I would have been found in time. I can't help but be isolated because the fact that my rapist is still out there and probably raping more women, frightens me to hell. I wouldn't be surprised that I've come face to face with him before.

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  • No. And I hope I never am.