Have you lied to a boyfriend/girlfriend about the number of sexual partners?

Just wondering how people feel about lying about your number. My boyfriend never asked me directly how many men I've been with but I've hinted to him that its not that many when really I lost count years ago. It's somewhere between 25-30 but If he ever does ask me I plan on telling him it's under 10.Luckily this lie will be believable since I had a 5 year relationship that started when I was 19. Thoughts?
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  • If he asks, just tell him it's none of your business. I stopped asking this question a few years ago. It's usually one two things she tells me. An extremely high number, that makes me think a lot different of her or a low number that's probably a lie. Either way it's a lose, lose situation.

    I can usually gauge what type of girl she is by how she acts. A true slut shows her colors eventually anyway. Most girls that are girlfriend material have low numbers. Which shows they have been in mostly long term relationships. So a number does tell a lot about a girl, too bad most of us guys will never get the truth from a girl.

    • dislike! Terrible judgement being passed here. You actually think there's a number scale in which you can determine girlfriend eligibility? That's just not fair. So what if a girl spent a couple years living life, having whatever partners she wanted, liberating her sexuality. It makes a woman feel like she didn't miss out on anything, making her READY to settle down. A girl with a low number is more likely to get that impulse to explore her options.

    • Once a slut, always a slut. What would a guy rather have, a girl whose had sex with 5 guys. All long term relationships or a girls that's banged over 20 and most were one night flings? Girls banging a ton of guys is not attractive at all, it's disgusting. It tells a lot about the girl, in how many guys she's slept with.

  • I would refuse to answer the question if asked. there is no good to come from that. No girl has ever asked me. They might have wanted to ask but wisely chose not to do so. And I never, ever ask a girl. that is so not cool. more mystery, less history. live now. not in the past.

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  • No & I would never lie about my sexual history or past. Recipe for disaster and is completely unnecessary.

    You've made your bed, so why not lie in it? I mean, I don't say that to condemn you but if you knew sleeping around would be frowned upon by a potential serious partner, why do it unless you're willing to own up to and admit your past actions and behaviors?

    But uh, he sounds like a lucky fella

    • Obviously like I said I had those experiences before my long term relationship. I was having sex between the ages of 17-18 and my parents kept me home throughout my high school years. So when I got an ounce of freedom I hoped into bed with a man. How should a 17-18 year old fully understand that her actions will be frowned upon. It's not like I'm going around doing this now. No need for the rudeness... as I'm sure you've made mistakes in life. But thank you for your thoughtful answer.

    • I said I wasn't condemning you, so if you took this as rudeness, that's your own guilt catching up. I'm 18 and have enough common sense to know that what I do now can and will catch up. If I make a sex tape right now it may not affect me now but 10 years down the line it may very well. Either way, I don't see how someone between the ages of 25 to 29 has not caught up with lying being one of the worst things one can do to break trust within a relationship.

    • I agree with Qa. I have been in my relationship for over 6-7 years. I lied when I was 18/19 to my current. The fact of the matter is at some point we are dishonest (no one tells the truth all of the time, lets be realistic) its all about coming clean and moving on from it. That is the real growth. This has nothing to do with age...it has to do with mentality.

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  • I never thought my amount of sex partners would be considered a lot until my ex. made a big deal out of it.

    After that, I lied to my current about it (when I first met him).

    I didn't want to feel judged and didn't want him to look at me any different.

    Eventually I told him the truth, and he didn't react the way my ex did.

    He accepted it.

    • Thats great to hear! Good for you for coming clean and being accepted.

    • :)

  • definitely do NOT lie. He might not even ask, because really.. who wants to know? It's just a number, what matters more is that you're comfortable with your sexual history and that you are safe and disease free!

    • Thank you

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  • Saying 10 or 25 is the same. If he cares how many boys you have slept with, then any number is greater for him.

    So be honest. There is nothing wrong in keeping virginity and nothing wrong in loosing and enjoying the pleasure of sex.

  • I have and I regreted it.

  • i lied about it when I was in high school - I think every guy does in high school though. I think I said it was about 30 or so, when really it was closer to exactly zero...

  • Always be honest. If he finds out you lied later it can create trust issues. If he can't handle it on any subject then its not right for you guys. Its really not that high of a number for your age. But, a guy who has been with closer to your number will feel less threatened by it.

  • No, I don't lie about it. If they ask I tell them.

  • Honesty in relationships? Who needs it, right?

    • haha your'e hysterical...thanks for the laugh!

    • I shouldn't be funny to you.

    • well your sarcasm is funny to me. Just saying thanks. I see your point but it has little to do with honesty as I'm always very honest but I feel this is a very personal question I don't really need to share.

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