He can't orgasm with me on top? Is it me?

[Anonymous]

My boyfriend can't orgasm while I'm on top? Is it me?
I've been with him on and off now for almost 2 years. Everytime i ride him, he can't get off. I ask him if I'm doing everything right and he says yes and that it feels good, but it can't get him off. He says he gets close but can't orgasm with me riding. He puts me in missionary or doggy and can orgasm relatively fast. Is it me or my vagina? I feel like maybe I'm loose when I'm on top.. but he can *** pretty quick in other positions so I don't know if it's a problem with my vagina or not.. help. Is it me? He never complains about my riding skills and he's never told me I needed to be better at it.. I'm afraid it's my vagina.

[markscott]

The girl on top position tends to put less pressure on his cock, slowing him down, so he lasts longer to get you to orgasm. You on top is not a good position to get him to cumming. It's not your pussy. Doggy puts more pressure on his cock than most positions, so it's easier to cum. Missionary does put more pressure than you on top. So, just keep on enjoying riding him. It's a great visual position for a guy, as he sees your tits bouncing, and he can easily get his hands on them, and he can see you riding his cock.

[AskAVic]

You have nothing to worry about. It's not a great position for a lot of men. Some can't even stay hard in that position.

Just keep doing what you're doing if he does indeed say that he likes it and he'll have to orgasms in a different position.

At least it sounds like you're open about it and have talked about what you both like, which is the most important part.

[Asker]

Or maybe my vagina just feels loose when I'm on top?:(

[AskAVic]

No. That's not a thing.

[Asker]

Maybe it doesn't feel too snug on him like it should then..

[AskAVic]

It has nothing to do with that...

[Asker]

What do you mean?

[AskAVic]

That it has nothing to do with your vagina.

[Asker]

When we're in missionary or doggy, he cums and as soon as he pulls his penis out if me, all of his semen leaks out of me. People have told me that if the cum immediately leaks out of you, then your vagina is big.. Is this true?

[AskAVic]

You seem to be very misinformed. If the semen leaks out directly its an indication that he didn't cum deep inside. It has nothing to do with the size of your vagina, vestibule or uterus.

[MlleCake]

Actually, that's not the best position for a lot of guys. He can certainly talk to you about what he likes, and if he wants you to move in a certain way. There's no reason to think it's anything to do with your vagina.

Is he ensuring you're getting what you need to orgasm every time?

[MORPHEUS_12]

I cannot even ride my SO for 2 minutes before he comes so I am thinking that he has a mental hang up. Its not you.

[Asker]

Or maybe my vagina is just loose when I'm top? :(

[Tiff3B91]

No hunny, multiple folks here telling you, that's not it. Do you feel loose on top? Please get out of your head sweet lady. Life too short and your vagina isn't loose you just horny! 🤔

[joemm]

He might be lacking penis sensitivity.. this is quite common actually. But there are penis health crèmes available that contain a protein called acetyl L carnitine. This will naturally repair nerve endings and restore a lot of lost feeling… this will lead to better sex and a better relationship for sure. You can get one of these crèmes online… google it.

[ThatPersonOverThere]

Dude that's pretty cool actually. I personally only get a pleasrable sensation about 5 seconds before I cum, so if he can actually enjoy it longer that's great.

[UptightLight]

Your vagina... in other positions works well. Sooooooo. It's not your vagina.

My personal knowledge. Girls on top can ride til a cow walks through the door. I'm not cumming. Maybe the same goes for him. It's not you it's that shitty position. Good luck. Don't beat yourself up over other peoples shit.

[Buckzor]

Sounds like it's to do with the speed with you on top. Seems like the TPM (Thrusts per minute) as i'll call it isn't enough to fully get him off, even more so when you say he can in missionary/doggy and it's easier for him to go to town.

[GingerGuy]

Get that thought out of your head completely! It's NOT YOU!! Nothing is wrong with you! It's just something that just is that's all. Like, is there something he does to you that feels wonderful, but doesn't quite get you there? It's the EXACT same thing! Nothing to worry or be concerned about. Like he says, it still feels wonderful and he won't want it to change. My girl for example gives me great bj's, but I rarely orgasm from them. It has NOTHING AT ALL to do with her, or her "skill", it just is and would be that way with ANYONE.

[LeoZay]

I couldn't cum with the girl riding when I was young and dumb. It's no problem now, be have to know how to control her hips.

[bobbyp]

Yes you must have never road a horse

[yeahyeah26]

You got lots of time to Learn ur under 18

[FýrdracaDócincel]

It's most likely the position itself, not you.

I'm the exact opposite.. I have a much harder time cumming if I'm upright in any way.

[skittles2017]

Do not worry... it is not you or your vagina... You don't do anything wrong...
It can be the pressure that builds on his body cuz u r sitting on him... and that's it

[cancan73]

It's him, he just can't cum like that

[huggy]

He is probably trying to resist it or he has more control because he's not doing as much work im not sure

[-P4R4N0iiD-]

Boys like to have the controll over the jerking off, i dont like it either if a girl is on top and want that i come, i like to come when I decide its the right time, so i have to be on top or in a postition where i can decide, so its Not your fault, its normal i understand your boyfriend

[Daddywolfe]

Well he should be happy you can ride for a long time done guys will love that not orgasm in the position and can quickly in other position maybe your vagina grips him differently with you being on top

[Asker]

Could it feel looser when I'm on top?

[Seppelson]

It's hard for me too. Somehow my girlfriend suddenly stops when it's the most false moment :(

[mikey112]

even i can't.. but we do that to prolong our sex..

[fredstir]

Don't warry

[thefunnyone17]

Maybe go longer next time and move ur hips around when doing it

[Drewvr]

It's not your lady parts.

[CooLSpoT085]

My longest relationship was 9 years and throughout the entirety of that relationship there were positions in which I couldn't get off and others that couldn't get her off. And those positions changed at times throughout our relationship. As long as you're both enjoying eachother and are both satisfied at the end of it, there's no problem here.

[Anonymous]

Maybe he likes being in control.