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He couldn't get hard? My fault?

I've been meeting up with this guy and we really like each other, but the other night after drinking alcohol, we went home and ended up in bed togither, naked. But he couldn't get hard and I was exsusted, we cuddled up naked anyway but he was told me he really liked me but why couldn't he get hard? He kept telling me he couldn't wait to get me into bed and was excited to have sex with me by text message for ages, then that happened? He did put sex off ages ago because he said I was more experienced, I wouldn't agree tho, he's had more sexual partners then I, I've had one boyfriend I was comfortable enough to have various sex positions with. So it's not like we're both virhins we are 25+ What prevents guys from getting hard? Why the nerves?
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  • Guess you'll get the same answer from anyone who knows anything young lady :)

    Alcohol and nerves are a common disaster (luckily in my case it's always worked the other way round) but generally alcohol kills sex in the man at least in terms of physical reactions like erections though the mind may want to do it.

    Hence, it's most certainly not your fault and he certainly likes you which is why he chose to get naked together with you :)

    These give some spine to what's mentioned above :)

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    Ok and apart from the above, anxiety is another killer (the links above will tell you that), particularly performance anxiety and this doesn't bother with any age or experience. In which case I'd say that it's a compliment cause this happens when a man is super excited about the woman (in this case you), thinks she's really hot, thinks or has thought about her a lot, so much that when it comes to performing with her his subconscience is stuffed with 'will I be able to be good enough for her' - that's a compliment for sure ;)

  • Alcohol and nerves. It's very common. Not your fault at all.

    • Why does he have nerves tho? He likes me & I like him? Sex is different with everyone you have so I don't expect anything but sexual pleasure lol. This isn't the first guy I've had that's went soft, this is the second time as well.

    • Guys do get nerves with girls sometimes. We have insecurities too. Alcohol is the more likely culprit, but honestly my guess is a combination of nerves and alcohol. I realize it's natural for women to take it personally, but the odds that he wasn't turned on are extremely low.

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  • not your fault. you mentioned he was drinking. That seems to be the culprit.

    DO NOT take it personally, it happens with guys. Where women can get very aroused when drinking often times while men are mentally aroused the booze can affect the sex organ

  • it's because of alcohol it's VERY common. Don't worry. I promise.

  • Nope. Alcohol is the enemy of boners at times. Same with nerves. Try again later.

  • Cause he was drunk.

  • tbh it's possible he wasn't that into you sorry

  • It seems that he's exhausted/drunk/stresses a lot.

  • he might have slept with bunch of girls, just before you got him into bed.

    • He told me he hasn't had sex for over a year, like me too,both us don't like sleeping around and I trust what he says. So doubtful.

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