He doesn't get hard when we make out...

[Anonymous]

The guy I've been dating takes a while to become hard. We can be kissing and stuff for a while and he'll still be soft. All the other guys I've been with always got hard really quickly. Once I put him in my mouth or give him a hand job he'll get hard, and he has no problem keeping it up once he's there. But... I don't understand why it takes him so long to become hard... Am I not turning him on?

[MrOracle]

I've known a couple of guys who have admitted to me that they are like that too.

This is just one of those "all guys are different" kind of things. He's one of those few guys who needs physical stimulation to get an erection. But he CAN get them, so there's no real problem. This is just how HE is. It has nothing to do with you, or his attraction to you, or an of that.

[Anonymous]

Maybe, but not all men go "BOOBS= boner" some guys just need more work to get it up, or he could be mentally refusing it. Which means he has very good control over his body. My advise to you is ask him if he likes this or that, or doesn't like it. Most guys will tell you if they don't like whatever you are doing, or that they do like it. So just find out.

[kheserthorpe]

Erection and arousal are not the same thing. This tends to be more obvious as we get older, sadly.