He doesn't want children, but he won't wear a condom.

My boyfriend tells me all the time that he doesn't want kids. But, he won't wear a condom. Why is that? I have no clue what's going through his head.
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  • A lot of guys say there's a significant difference for them from wearing a condom and not - that a condom makes them feel very little during sex - and as such they don't really get much pleasure from it. This could be the way it is for him

    Problem is, pregnancy prevention is a two way street, and if he doesn't want kids, he should be willing to do what he can to make as close to sure as possible that doesn't happen, ie. wearing a condom. And if possible you should take the same precautions too - by going on the pill or using spermicides or something like that.

    There are so many contraceptives out there - that there's bound to be something which will suit the pair of you. I'm a firm believer of looking after yourself as well as your partner.

    • The thing is; I do want children.

    • Oh right then - well it's simple. He doesn't want children, then he wraps up. Do he know this? because if he's aware of your feelings and he continues to refuse to wear a condom then he's only got himself. If he doesn't, then tell him, he might be under the assumption that if there's an accidental pregnancy you'll agree with him on the no kids stance and get an abortion. So make sure you're both clear - and don't compromise yourself for something HE wants (or doesn't want).

  • tell him you're okay with having kids. that will make him put on a condom immediately haha.

    but seriously, you have to look out for yourself too! You may want kids but if he's not interested, if you do become pregnant you'll likely end up alone. having kids won't make a man stick around.

  • perhaps he's a dumbass

    • Definitely a dumbass

Most Helpful Guys

  • Using a condom for sex is like shaking hands with gloves on! It makes me so insensitive! (Can't understand why it is so heavily promoted as a form of "safe sex"!)

    If you don't have a fear of sharing a disease or STI, then why not try spermicidal pills, a cervical cap or a copper T?

    The spermicidal pills acted as lubricant for me, which I truly loved. With a copper T (available in some countries), it was almost like bareback! Without the fear of unwanted pregnancies. (It needs to be changed once ever few years though, and my partner too didn't notice any side effects, which was great).

  • He's thinking with the wrong head lol you better get on the pill if you don't want a baby hah

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  • Actions speak louder than words.

  • what a dumbass. you should tell him that you are preggo, just to scare him. then once he has sweated for a week, be loke omg my period was just late. see if that changes his mind about protection though

  • Probably just has a low IQ.

  • Some guys think that they feel less pleasure during the intercourse.