He doesn't want me to move or make a sound during sex...

[Anonymous]

When we have sex he wants me to be completely Still and Quiet. If I squirm even a little he gets angry and tells me not to f_cking move. The other night I started moaning because it Hurt pretty bad- yet felt amazing. He was on top of me from behind. He reached around, placed his hand on my neck and squeezed. And when that didn't stop me completely from making noise he stuck his tongue in my mouth as I whimpered and squeezed more while he continued to f_ck me, until I was silent. The strange thing is that after sex, he is nice again. Outside of sex he is a sweetheart. He will do anything I ask of him. If I call or text him, he will answer even if he is busy. He'll apologize to me for little things, things he shouldn't apologize for.. He even refers to me as "Ma'am" or "Boss". But Sexually, he is some one else. He is violent. He'll even say things like "Who is the f_cking boss now!" I don't know what is going on here. I don't know what to ask. I guess I just want to know if, if this is weird or not? Thanks

[relationshipDNA]

Sex is a huge part of a relationship so if you're uncomfortable with any part of it, you have to speak up, no matter the ramifications.

I think he has some kind of weird rape fantasy fetish. The only kind of girl that would be lying still and lifeless like that during sexual intercourse is one that is getting sexually violated in some kind of way.

It would be a lot better if he was vocal about why he prefers it that way so that you understand it. Otherwise, you're putting yourself in a weird situation every time you have sex. If you know where he's coming from, at least you can play a part in it rather than feeling...well...weird about it.

[Jennifer2048]

First of all, I think it is very strange that he does not want any type of reaction from you. Most guys feel inadequate if squirming, shaking, or howling at the moon. They like to know that what they are doing to you is having an effect.

The violent behavior is something you need to be very careful about, especially the choking. That is not good. If you are uncomfortable with it, I would most certainly talk to him about it. If he continues to do it, then you have a decision to make.

[Anonymous]

you're seeing the real him during sex. I'd break up with him for my own safety. and watch out for this guy's name in the future, I wouldn't be surprised if you read about him committing some sexual crime one day. the real him is the guy you're seeing during sex, that overly nice apologetic sweetheart is just a cover up. he is crazy as f*** with violent tendencies. probably the type to kill prostitutes or something like serial killer status

[katylaura]

rape/violence fantasies are more common than you'd think, however having not discussed this with you first this behavior is not okay. unless you have agreed that you're okay with being dominated and you have a safe word, it's not okay for him to talk to you like that, almost strangle you and get angry when you move. if this is making you uncomfortable, or you'd like sex which is a bit less violent sometimes, talk to him about it.

[BadGrim]

talk to him about it or it's gonna keep happening until one day it goes to far and he hits you or something...talk to him about it or things are gonna keep going on this way...maybe he thinks you like it rough.

[DaniJ]

maybe it's just the forensics class from high school speaking, but please stay away from this guy! We studied serial killers, and at least 30 of them did this exact thing.

[samanthaDty]

That is f***ing hot. Can we swap bfs I love phsyco's.. Sounds like a necrophiliac to me

[Bunny_isnt_funny]

Your name should be SamanthaDTF.

[samanthaDty]

Dtf?

[BobBobinson]

Down To F*** And I'd say it's more of a complete domination-submissive thing, not so much necrophilia.

[Temporary35]

that is sick samantha.very sick.

[samanthaDty]

Yeah like serial killers and rapists because that's the kind of thing that drives people to commit those crimes

[AndiArthropod]

I think he just likes to be the dominant one in bed. He wants all the control. If it doesn't bother you or cause you pain maybe don't mention it, or bring it up and ask why he does those things. I think it sounds hot though lol

[justme20]

that is strange. I would watch out for him. you need to let him know he needs to stop being violent and controlling

[ChemNerd]

Sounds like he'd rather be f***ing a blow up doll. A woman writhing in pleasure is part of the appeal of sex!

[Dee_gal]

he better get a blow up doll

[Bunny_isnt_funny]

Weird? A bit.

[oddball]

hes a sadist

[AZHorseman]

Very weird. It sounds like the guy has necrophilia tendencies. He could be dangerous.

[austin9]

this is VERY weird most guys like when girls moan

[KrismaArionna]

its only the way he likes it... he thinks it is hot...lol ever hear of bdsm and stuff like it? its normal_ish some people are into it... like I know someone who is homophobic but likes to have his girlfriend do stuff to his butt during sex...some people have a new personality in bed :) if you don't like it let him know its the best way.

[Anonymous]

Maybe it's his alter ego. During the day he is kind and passive but deep down inside he wants to be aggressive, so he expresses it sexually. It's a little odd him choking you but if your happy, let him do it. I would like it if my girlfriend screamed though ;).

[Anonymous]

I have to be honest, that sounds hot, to me.