He eats me out but he doesn't know what he's doing! Help!!

[vally87]

Help! My boyfriend often eats me out, the problem is that he doesn't seem to know what the hell he is doing! Not even by eating me out can I get an orgasm from him because he literally never goes near the clit, I don't think he even knows where it is, I don't know how to tell him because lately we have been having other problems too in the bedroom such as the fact that he comes too quickly etc, so he is already very touchy about this topic, I don't want to hurt his manhood or offend him but I need to confront the problem somehow?!

[Ellex89]

You don't really need to flat out tell him he sucks but you can help guide him the right direction. If you two are comfortable around each other let him watch you masturbate. He'll learn and pick up on what you do to get yourself off and should apply it to his own technique. If you aren't ok with that you can try guiding his head into the places you enjoy the most,he'll likely think you're just getting really into it. This of course is a subtle way to do it without actually telling him.

The best option is obviously to tell him, he'll want to please you so he shouldn't take it the wrong way. Work it into a dirty conversation if you have to..anything to jolt him into doing what you crave.

[smith2267]

Right, tell him. why don't people talk to each other more?

[Ellex89]

Smith, do you really have to post a rude comment in every question you read? For the record she asked how to say it without hurting is feelings, that would how to do it. So you can take your sarcastic comment and shove it up your ass.

[smith2267]

It wasn't sarcastic at all. I think people should talk to each other more.

[Ellex89]

Ok? well thanks for your opinion.

[smith2267]

Have very little ego to hurt and I guess I think men who do are silly. Maybe that was less than helpful. sorry

[smith2267]

*I have. (does anyone else have bits of there comments chopped off by the slowness of this site?)

[Ellex89]

All men have an ego when it comes to sex. They're concerned about how well they're pleasing her and he wants to make sure everything is right. If a girl has to pretend to enjoy sex his feelings will be hurt , no matter how mature or how well you think you would handle things.

[smith2267]

You don't know me, and haven't had sex with me. don't presume things.

[Ellex89]

Thank god we haven't had sex. That also wasn't a personal comment towards you. Believe it or not I have no opinion towards your ego or not. Since you seem to think it is though, lets make it one.. you are also human so whether you like to think so or not, you'd be hurt if some girl told you that you sucked in bed. Get over it.

[smith2267]

I would take it in stride and try to improve. Believe it or not. I am actually a sensitive and non egotistical lover, so don't thank god too quickly

[Ellex89]

No really, I am just fine not having sex with you...but ok smith, if that's how you think you'd react then so be it.

[smith2267]

We'll never know, will we? your loss, whether you know it or not.

[Ellex89]

No, we won't know..but I can't say I'm gonna go to bed crying about it.

[metaldave20]

Our feelings may be hurt...but not to the point where were gonna stop having sex with you... its ok to talk to him about it, but be as nice as you can about it...maybe as you're showing him how to do it, you can talk him through it and such... especially using dirty talk

[Ellex89]

YAY Dave agrees! lol

[metaldave20]

I didn't just agree with you ell, I agreed with both of you

[Ellex89]

Smith didn't really say anything about the question. I never said guys would get their feelings hurt and never have sex again..that was an assumption you made. I said most guys feelings would be hurt.

[metaldave20]

Yeah, I agree, but still its just helpful to talk to them about it.. but while she's doing it, that way ya both win

[shellybelly]

Here is an idea...Make it a game. Kind of like hot and cold. Tell him that you want to experiment on him and ask if he would like to do the same. You could even say that you want to make sure that he gets the most satisfaction possible when it comes to playing with his penis. If you make it into a lovers game...He will be more open and excited...Not to mention that both of you might learn more about what each other likes and wants. Good luck! (Don't forget the candles and different lubes and what ever else you can think of. Add some ice cubes if you dare! ) Just remember to have fun...both of you!

[vally87]

Thanks!!

[Anonymous]

OK here is what you do. PRETEND he has gotten near your clit before, and when you're both naked, say, "You know what I love? When you touch me right here," and then show him where it is. He'll assume he's actually done something right, but he'll see where you're pointing and know what to do in the future.

[vally87]

Thanks!!

[lochnessmonsterwang]

I feel genuinely bad for you. It must be really frustrating. I mean how could he possibly not have figured it out by now? Process of elimination is seriously working in his favor. Lol.

Just grab a tuft of his hair and act like you're playing with it, but secretly pull him in the correct direction. Say things like "right there" when he is on it. He should catch on quickly. Come on, it's plainly visible for f***'s sake.

How is his tongue soft? That is one of the leanest and pound-for-pound strongest muscles in the human body. Tell him to flex it a bit and just use the tip. That should make it feel more rigid.

[anonclguy]

This is a big difference between men and women. If a guy was getting a blowjob, and the girl was just licking one spot on the side, every guy in the world would either move her head to the tip or tell her to start licking there.

How hard is point and say "lick me here"? Everybody has different bodies and people like different things. If something that simple offends him then he's a chump and its no big loss.

I don't know about your other problems. He comes too quickly? That's only a problem if it makes you both stop, but there's no reason it should...

[dave216]

Grab him by the ears, massage them gently and when needed take a firmer grip and guide his head to where it needs to be, then resume the massaging. If he strays off track again, guide him back. He will learn quickly what you want and not a word is spoken. :)

[Anonymous]

i think, you should be grateful he tries.

[Anonymous]

tell him what you like!

If it offends his male ego, then he is a twit.

[Opinion Owner]

Real men don't have ego problems.