He hasn't texted me in 5 weeks for sex?

[Anonymous]

my crush that I'm having sex with told me his not sleeping with any other girls and he hasn't since we started having sex it's been 5 months now that we've been sleeping together. but the thing is it's been 5 weeks since his even texted me I had to text him on the 20th asking if he wants to have sex tomorrow. but he said he was sick and we would do it soon it's now the 29th and there really isn't any excuse for not seeing me or texting me cause it the holidays so he has time. last time I saw him 26th August and he told me he wishes he was a virgin again so he wouldn't crave sex so much. but if he craves sex so much how can he go so long with out having sex, when he knows he could call me any day and I would have sex with him. all of his friends really like me and constantly try and get me to have sex with them when I see my crush. they say I'm hot and sexy and they really want to sleep with me an deven megged lets call him " buddy" to let them sleep with me ( not that I would of course!) so if I'm that hot why does he not text me for so long :( is he sleeping with other girls? and just lied to me? we are both 16 so are his friends 16-17.

[MrMysteryMan]

Hmm, well guys at that age aren't very committed usually. Especially when it comes to having sexual relations for the first time. The have someone steady for a bit, but then they want to try different things or they want a variety and want to try out someone different. It's not that he doesn't like you or like the sex with you. It's the "the grass is greener on the other side" analogy. Also being so young, he's just really started sowing his oats so to speak and probably isn't ready for a committed relationship. Women get committed faster than guys do, especially younger guys. So he probably wants to meet new people and doesn't know how to tell you so as not to hurt you.

It's not him being a pig or an assh*le or he would have cheated on you by now or something. If you really want to know what he wants, maybe casually ask him if he wants to see other people. Or just say to him that you were thinking of maybe seeing other people. Then you can tell from his reaction to the comment what he wants.

But at your age, you shouldn't really stress about being with one guy forever. I suppose it's because you guys are sexually active and you are worried about him being with someone else and then him giving you something later or betraying your trust or if he get's you preggers and then what, he's not interested in marriage or commitment. Which is very valid thoughts and things you should be thinking of. In that case, you should consider if you guys are really meant for marriage or long term committed relationship. If not, then you should go about your sexual fun with him as just a f*ck friend and protect yourself from pregnancy or std issues any ways you both can. When it comes to being f*ck friends, keep strong feelings out of it because then you are less prepared for just what it is, f*cking and no plans for commitments later.

But if I were you, you have to see where his head is at in that how he feels about you guys and what relationship he wants from you both. Or if he still wants to be in a relationship or if he feels committed to you. But like I said, it's a very very very rare thing for a guy to feel committed to someone at age 16. Especially after having sex for the first time and then knowing there are so many more hot women besides the one he has out there that he hasn't met yet. Maybe not necessarily has f*cked yet, maybe he just doesn't feel that you are "THE ONE" yet. So talk to him when you can and keep your feelings to a minimum when you do so as not to over react to the situation and get him really upset or yourself upset. Also, expect the worst, because it sounds like he wants to meet new people. But who knows, it could be something personal going on in his life that you don't know about.

[MrMysteryMan]

If you were his first, then he was probably pretty happy being f*ck buds with you and now he is interested in pursuing different women as variety or to see what other experiences other women can offer. It's kind of like if someone has never had pizza for the first time and then they have a cheese pizza... It's delicious and amazing, but then after awhile they see other pizzas with different toppings or from other restaurants and so they want to try those to see what they taste like. I'm sorry for the crude analogy, but I believe it's like that on a base level. Not saying you're not exciting or freaky in bed or anything, you could be amazing in bed. It's just how young guys are.

If you weren't his first, then he's probably using you as a booty call and now that he's had sex with you for a while now, he want's to change the pace and perhaps he has his eyes on someone else already, but he seems like he's biding his time to let you know when he wants to move on or just doesn't want to hurt you right now.

Or, he feels like things are getting a bit too serious now between you two, that it's not just a booty call anymore, that one of you are getting stronger feelings for the other and so it's time to cut the relationship as it is now before someone get's hurt. Most people that are in f*ck bud relationships, there is usually ground rules that imply that if things get heavy, it's time to move on. Unless you both mutually start feeling stronger for each other and then it just flows into a boyfriend/girlfriend relationship, which is fine as well.

But, if you are cool with him being with other women and it's not like you have stronger feelings for him then just a good f*ck when you need it, and you're worried about catching sh*t, then tell him to glove up and like you said, just let him know why you want him to glove up. Also, don't let him saying that, 'he's not seeing anyone so I don't need to glove up', bullsh*t deter you from getting him to glove up. If you guys are just f*cking anyway, you guys should be using protection and not just B.C. It's just to be safe now adays. No sense getting a crusty STD or worse for maybe 10 min of fun pounding (I'm being giving because he's 16 LOL).

But yeah, think with your head on this one and not just your heart.

[RedStiletto]

The sh*tty thing is it sounds like he has gotten bored with you. I imagine he probably IS sleeping with other girls at the moment and the "newness" of you has worn off. Most guys need a constant challenge...and if you were easy to get sexually, then he had nothing to have to work for. Once you are in this position is is damn near impossible to get out, and if I were you I'd lose his number. AND if he does decide he wants to hook up with you again and calls you, by all means answer the phone but tell him, nicely, that you have made plans and won;t be able to see him. OR...raise his neck hairs a little by telling him that you have found another f*** buddy and had a great time with him but don't really need him anymore. You'll have back control and he will lose his mind for a minute. May not bring him back, but he's not yours to begin with. Never fall in love with a f*** buddy...and I think that's what has happened.

Sweet luck to you~

[Aries11w]

He's loss interest I'm afraid and is probably sleeping with other girls. Your under 18, have respect for your body and feelings and stop giving him (or any other guy) your goods without caring or commitment.

Whilst your having casual sex you NEED to use a condom, your f*** buddy isn't going to be careful with protection with others and you may catch something awful.

[Anonymous]

i'd get rid of him! he's no good! he's just using you when he wants!

[dudeman]

not all guys just want to have sex to have sex, he doenst love you obviously so he wishes he was a virgin

[Anonymous]

Yikes, you sound desperate and clingy. GUYS HATE THAT! He obviously is NOT INTO YOU, move on!

[Asker]

it's just the way I wrote it. I'm not clingy at all. I don't go to the same school as him and I don't ever text him first. so if it wasn't for the sex and him texting me I would never see him. besides his the one that usually texts me at 10 at night just to talk

[Opinion Owner]

Oh ok... He sounds like he doesn't want what you want though, proceed carefully.

[Anonymous]

He has other f*** buddy...

[Anonymous]

It sounds like you're clingy as hell, and he's probably not enjoying that side of you at all.

[Asker]

i'm reallly not clingy it just seams like it cause I'm writeing it. I know how to hide my feeling sfor him. I NEVER text him first or write him on fb first. if anything he would probably think that I don't like him at all if it wasn't for me telling him I liked him.

[Opinion Owner]

Okay, maybe you're not. At least you understood it came across that way the way you had written things down. If it's not that... is it possible he comes from a religious background, and is feeling guilt over his lost virginity and doesn't want to have casual sex due to religious guilt?

[Asker]

i don't think so cause I know his parents an dthey aren't at all. an dhis last girlfriend and him broke up cause she was a year younger then him and he didn't like it so they decided to have casual sex instead until he met me.

[Opinion Owner]

Hmm. Interesting. So he's into casual sex, not steadfastly religious, and has avoided you for the last while. Yeah, I have to agree with the first Anonymous girl below. It sounds like he might be getting it from somewhere else then, but feeling sh*t about it.

[Asker]

but his only 16-17, he couldn't be getting it from a diferent f*** buddy, I'm surprised he even slept with his last girlfriend casually and now me. plus he was a d*** to me one night and the next day he texted me " sorry about the other night I feel like a d***, your a nice girl and deserve better :) x" an dthenh we saw each other again and that's the night I told him I have feelings for him. an dhe really is a nice guy. he wouldn't sleep with other girls and lie to me about it when I told him I like him.