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He's so eager to have sex. . .

My boyfriend of about a month is always in the mood to finger me or have sex or something. I wish sometimes he'd just chill out and we could just cuddle or something, but it seems like he's always horny! I don't know what to do when he gets like that, I have usually just kind of gone along with it but I don't want to do that anymore--especially since it's coming to him wanting to do it in like, semi-public places. I don't know what to do, or tell him. . . . help?
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  • You are having the very same problem that our couples are having when they start having sex so young and early in a relationship. Like you were doing all that before you even were together a month. He's always horny because you keep giving in to him so he knows how to score. You shouldn't have been going along with him if that's not what you wanted to do. Now it's probably too late to slow him down without making him feel like you don't like him as much anymore. Now he's starting to get more daring and if you go along with that then next it'll be something even more so. The sexual part of your relationship is way out of control. The only thing you can do now is the next time having sex is brought up is to just tell him how much you like him but how you've noticed that the sex part of your relationship with him has gotten out of hand and you both need to slow down. If he gets mad or however else he's not happy you just need to still stick to your guns. If he breaks up with you just know that would have happened anyway as soon as what he wanted to do was way out of line of what you wanted to do. If you sincerely want him to slow down you need to tell him. There's no other way to be nice about that. If he loves or really likes you, he'll listen and your relationship will improve.

    • Yeah, I know I need to confront him, and I don't feel uncomfortable about that really, I just don't know how to go about it. I want to like... make out with him and stuff without getting under the clothes. Are guys satisfied with just that? Can I just tell him that?

    • Yes, you most certainly can tell him that. There's absolutely no reason why he won't listen to you and agree if he likes you enough. He should be so happy with that because it'll bring back and fun and good times that sweet loving relationships are all about. Too much sex takes away from all that. After awhile, even too much sex gets to be not enough. Yes guys are. Yes you can tell him that. This is a good choice of yours. Let me know how it works out. Good luck... and thanks! :=))

  • wow just tell him, if he really likes you he will be fine with it!

    you just need to tell him when you are alone but not when he is getting horny or he might get angry that you killed his buzz if you know what I mean lol

    wow about a month too! btw what is it today with fingering being for the guy's pleasure? Its supposed to be for the girl not the guy!

    this is weird cos lately my girlfriend has been like this guy with me, luckily I don't mind cos it makes me horny when she is lol

    she loves when I finger her lol and wants me to lots cos I can give her multiple orgasms and she can't herself which I thought was weird but oh well whatever makes her happy I love her

    she is gonna give me a bj when I next see her anyway so woop

    she has tried giving back with hj's but with no lube I can never finish and I only got the courage to tell her when she asked was she doing it wrong

    oh yeah, in public just say no not in public!

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  • i hand to deal with something like that when I was in highschool. I had a boyfriend that always wanted to fool around, and like you, I just wanted to talk or watch a movie. I would tell him no and he would get really mad, and this in turn would make me really mad. looking back on it now I know that that was a terrible thing to do. there is no obligation that I had as a girlfriend to fool around with him every day, and the fact that he would get mad if I didn't makes me think that that was the only reason he was with me. so I have a couple of reasons/answers for you

    1. you need to vocalize to him that you aren't in the mood to fool around. if he's a good guy, hell understand. if he's an asshole hell keep trying or get mad that you don't want to. if this is the case, dump his ass, you don't need someone treating you like that.

    2. I think a lot of this has to do with the fact that you're so young. I see that your age is under 18, so I'm assuming he is too. guys are horny asses at that age. they get much better when they get older. I mean, theyre still horny in college but theyre a bit more chilled out about it I guess. so even though this may explain why he behaves this way, that doesn't mean he should get away with it

    • Thanks. Yeah, I really hope it's not #1. It just bothers me a lot because he's such a gentleman about most stuff, but he just gets really horny. It's a little weird, but I guess not entirely unusual.

    • Nope, not unusual at all

  • oh my girl! sounds like me...but mine wants to do all kinds of stuff in total public, like in stores.

    I wish mine would just cuddle...

    yeah, one time he managed to get all my clothes off, and then I was like can we just cuddle...and then he ended up doing other things to me (not like that, but with his hands)...I have gone with it to and I don't want to. Um sounds like that whole question could have been written by me. Well I'm a virgin, and he wants me to lose it, and has tried and asks me to in public all the time...

    Its like, I don't want to in public. And I don't want to give him anything since he asks for it.

  • my boyfriend has been the same way ever since we started date-n and we've been together for over 2 1/2 yrs now. in a weird way i feel lucky that he still enjoys being intimate w/ me all the time after we've been together for so long. personally i don't always want to have sex when he does and he respects that...most of the time. if you don't want to have sex then tell him that...if he cares about you he will accept that and get over it.

    i can't really give you too much advice because i dont know your situation. maybe he really cares for you, maybe he just wants some pussy. just talk to him and tell him exactly how you feel.

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  • That's really just what guys are like. Especially young guys.

  • Look just tell him the same thing you put up, if he doesn't stop after knowing how you feel then I think you should start looking for someone else.

  • It's his age, all guys are like that in their teens. When I was a teenager, no girlfriend ever saw my penis not erect. Teen boys have a huge sex drive. They get over it, but then you will get hornier in your 30's.life's a bitch.

  • break up with him.. maybe he doesn't really love you but only using you to please his sexual desire, just just like a hooker

  • Dont think about it as him disrespecting you or something...in nature that is the only thing men and women are meant to do...sex is the link that binds every WOMAN and MAN

  • well first of all ... that's not someone you want to be with..

    n dnt let him do that... jst tell him that you dnt want to and if he still keeps on do in that

    well jst break up wit him

    u need a guy that will show you respect and will wait until ur ready

  • THATS ALL GUYS WANT

    he must not really like you because its only been a month and he's trying to pull a move if he really did like you he would ask you what's a good time for that

    so you have two options

    1 dump him and move on because all he wants is your body

    2 tell him to wait (if he doesn't dump him)

    • Honestly it's not like that though, I know he's not just trying to take advantage of me-- he's like a gentleman about everything, really nice. Seriously, I know for a fact he wants this to last, not just to get physical (haha). It's just annoying that he's so all over me all the time-- but it's also probably partially my fault for letting him think it's ok most of the time.

    • But what does he do exactly just hug you all the time?i need more of an explanation of all over you?

  • Ok lets look at this from a guy's point of view, he's got a chick whose hot in his bed. Of course he is going to get horny and instead of you getting all mad that he is horny, why don't you embrace that and take it as a major compliment, I mean all you have to do is lay next to him and he's got a boner, and once you get hard you gotta take care of it one way or another so instead of going solo he's got a girl right there with him. What's wrong with that? You say you just want to cuddle I got news for you no man wants to just cuddle, but you women always want to cuddle and well we want sex and you don't want it and then we have to settle for cuddling let me tell you though it is torture when you do that.

    • Lol look I feel you ok but it's still not her fault, if he can't creatively make her passionate for him then he's not getting the whole picture...girls have their own right to NOT want to have sex.

    • True they do have the right not to have sex but every guy wishes they didn't the world would be such a better place.

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