He saw a mark on my breast! What do I do?! It's not what he thinks. How can I make him see that?!

[LACHULiN305]

I was with my boyfriend all day yesterday. We had a lot of fun. We also spent the day with his parents went out to dinner and all these other stuff. When we finally got home we got in the mood.. We had some more fun by ourselves then went downstairs to watch a movie. Everything seemed to be okay. But then randomly he tells me he saw a mark on my left breast. I have no clue of what he is talking about so I go ahead & look & yes I do have a small spot there but it looks more like a bruise to me.. So we kept watching our movie den it was time for me to go home.. He took me home everything seemed fine. But when he calls me telling me that he is almost home the subject of the spot on my breast comes back up. He started to get mad because I told him I really did not know how that got there.. He says its a hicky! If it was how can I have not seen it there?! & the only person I have been with it's him! What can I do?!?!

[Anonymous]

Really there is nothing you can do becuase a mark on spots that I usually sucked on are almost always a hicky and to convince someone that it is not will be really hard. I'm sorry girl but all you can do is just tell him its not what he think it is because you can't prove it to him. Anybody in his shoes would think you were lying because if it looks like a bruise and hickies are bruises because of the sucking then he is going to think that exactly. So, hopefully you can convince him well that its not a hicky and to trust you. If he really loves you, he will in time let it go but right now put yourself in his shoes and you saw a mark on his neck that looked just like a hicky and you would think what else could it possibly be then? 9 times out of time, it would be a hicky. So that's what he is thinking now but in this case, you really don't know where that came from. if it is still there in a couple of days, go to the doctor and if he says its something else have him print that out or talk to your boyfriend as your only way to prove to him that you did not cheat on him.

[LACHULiN305]

I don't have time to cheat on him! I barely even have time for him! I am a full tie student & I also work! When I'm not at work or in school I' with him!! Or with my familyy! He knows this cause he goes to pick me up everyday!! I really don't understand how he just won't believe me. & it really hurts that he would think that about me whe I try so hard for our relationship to work out!! Causewe barely have time for eachtoher... With school & work.. On both sides.. Cause he dos the same...

[HaggardDiva]

Um, 9 times out of ten, it would be a hickey?! I don't think so. I've had MANY bruises all over my body and plenty in places that are "hickey" spots and they are just bruises from different things. Sometimes unexplainable things. And anyone that trusts and respects their boyfriend/girlfriend is going to hear them out and believe them, not just assume and blame.

[Opinion Owner]

I'm not saying it couldn't be something else but how do you know if its a hicky or not if you are the other person in the relationship? You don't right? All you can do is trust that person but some can't because people do give hicky's all that time that usually leave marks like that. And Lachu, I know you did not cheat but just because you are so busy doin everything else and see him everyday doesn't mean you could not possibly cheat. A person can cheat on there love in 2 minutes or less.

[saphirasilverwings]

First, it's wrong of him to mistrust you so much. Extreme jealousy is a sign that a relationship may become abusive, so be careful if he makes too big a deal out of this or shows signs of wanting to control you.

Also, I sometimes get weird hickey-like marks on my chest and shoulders after I scrub there in the shower or use an exfoliating glove or something. Maybe that's what happened to you?

[LACHULiN305]

Maybe Idkk... We usually play around a lot also.... But I dnt remember getting hurt there with anything....... Ugh! this is drivng me nuts!!!

[saphirasilverwings]

Just explain to him that a bruise could happen for a lot of reasons. It could have even been a hickey from HIM- they can take a little while to show up. That should be enough for him. If it's not, maybe if you voice concerns about his mistrust, that will knock some sense into him.

[katiesmuff]

He is beginning to sound like someone who is very insecure. just tell him it's not a hicky and get over it or get lost.

[LACHULiN305]

Yea heis veryyyyy jelouse! That's why this is happening! =(.

[mandamutt09]

Oh wow, that's great advicce.... yea, okay, sure. look, if you wanna take a chance on losing him over something this small, then yea tell him that. if he's sincerely a really jealous guy, then telling him to quote on quote "get over it or get lost", that really not gonna go over well. a guy needs to know he's the only one in your life, and have no dount at all about that. if its really a little mark, then make something up about it, BELIEVEABLE. would you rather have this become a trust issue? idts

[katiesmuff]

Girl to girl I know you must have feelings for this guy and he must have some good qualities to make you like and want him but jealousy is something that will destroy a relationship faster than anything I can think of. This is something you may not want to hear but the truth is odds of him ever changing is very rare which will continue to erode your relationship with him and in the end you will be hurt very badly. Would tell him this isn't working and maybe it would be best if you two parted wa

[LACHULiN305]

I really do! & yes I have thought about that before & many people have told me dat.. But we have such great time together! This is the first time it has happend in the relationship.... But we have had fite bout his jelousy problem before... Everything is okay.. ASOLNG as my cell isfar away from me! & its SILENT!!!! NOONE TO CALL ME!

[katiesmuff]

Well hope everything works out for you!