He told me he wasn't a virgin, but I just found out he was actually a vrigin.

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how am I suppose to feel about this? we have been talking for a couple months now and he told me that he wasn't a virgin...well I found out from his best friend when we were talking that he is a virgin and I don't think his best friend knew that the guy I'm talking to told me different. but the thing is we have already done stuff...and please don't judge. but I don't know how I am suppose to feel about this..i mean he did lie..but I don't know why he just didn't tell me

cmitch · Accepted Answer

He's a guy. Cut him some slack. He was just embarrassed cause he likes you. He doesn't want you to think he will be bad in the sack or that you are more experienced than he is. Guys are programed early to think they have to have lots of sex with lots of women.,

Give him a pass on this one. Maybe mention it but def don't let something trivial like this ruin anything. It is meaningless.

Look at it this way would you have rather found out he has slept with 50 women. Cause regardless of gender one side lies about their sexual past.

guats · Accepted Answer

I don't see it as a big problem. He must of felt insecure that he was a virgin when there's such pressure for guys to be more experienced. He must of just felt embarrassed by it, thinking that he would be less of a man for now having sex. Don't hang him out to dry, but do bring it up and tell him that you do need honesty from him.

Good luck.

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

LOL my boyfriend did that to me , he said I have to tell you something he said I'm a virgin I only said it because you said you wern't and I wanted you to thiink I knew what I was doing

i was his first kiss first everything . don't waste your time .

my boyfriend lied constantly after that and that's the only lie that came from . so really

he lied move on and find someone whos gunna tell you the truth straight up .

mme and my boyfriend broke up months after due to his lack of commmuication and lieining

Reeses-pieces777 · Accepted Answer

I don't think it's a big deal. one of my ex boyfriends was a virgin but he also said he has been with 3 other girls. I think it's so that he doesn't seem so inexperienced, he might be embarrassed by it.

violetkarma · Accepted Answer

i think guys aren't always comfortable with the fact they may be virgins. the stereotype is that their supposed to be experienced, ect. I wouldn't be mad, but just talk to him about it.

jeeperss · Accepted Answer

Maybe he was embarrassed by being a virgin. I don't see why you should take it so badly. It's not like he told you he was a virgin and actually wasn't.

superasker · Answer

He didn't want to make it seem like he doesn't have any experience. Don't take it the wrong way - he didn't want to scare you or think that he was a wuss.

MareBear0615 · Answer

Not a big deal...he was just nervous...if you like him trust your feelings :)

jessi-rabbit08 · Answer

TALK TO HIM.

l-hedoniste · Answer

It's trivial and, once you f*ck him, a moot point.

Xquisit_Breakz · Answer

how do you feel about him? Is this a big deal to you?>

Xquisit_Breakz · Answer

Probably he was embarrass?

israelisevil · Answer

My girl lied she wasn't and she was who cares

indifferently · Answer

all great relationships are built on LIES.. wait, that doesn't seem right

muddigger · Answer

I think you should talk to him. He's lying to you for some reason, maybe to get in your pants, maybe because he felt weird about being a virgin (especially if you aren't one) communication is key.

a-dee-tee · Answer

he might have been embarassed to admit it, or maybe he did lose his virginity and his friend didn't know abt it...u shld give him the benefit of doubt. Talk to him, that would probably give you a clearer picture