Help - a two pump chump!!!?

[Anonymous]

I just started having sex and I think I'm a two pump chump. Every time I penetrate my girl I get the feeling I'm about to come and then I do. I'm a young guy and I don't have a lot of sexual experience I need help. I really like this girl but she's not going to love a two pump chump

[kholland65]

I'll give you a few things that might help you out.

1. Use positions that involve the girl moving, not you (aka cowgirl)

2. When using male moving positions, try limiting your pelvic movements. Use other muscles of the body like your legs. Pure pelvic thrusting causing the muscles around your penis to tense up and can lead to to much stimulation.

3. Like above, when possible use your arms to pull the girl back and forth, like during doggy. Just sit still and pull her towards you to prevent the need to tense up your pelvic muscles.

4. As soon as you feel yourself starting to near orgasm, relax your muscles around the pelvic area. This takes practice (use masturbation to practice), but it effectively will cause your to almost go numb while still being able to continue thrusting.

5. Use positions or angles that aren't as directly stimulating for you.

6. When nearing orgasm, pull out and pleasure her via oral or manual sex for a few minutes, then go back to intercourse.

7. When nearing orgasm, switch positions. Those 30seconds it takes to get into the new position can be just the breather you need to drop back down from the peak of orgasm.

8. Use thrusting speeds that are less stimulating to you.

9. Avoid to letting her stimulate you too much during foreplay. I.e. don't let her give you oral for 10min. By the time you get to intercourse, you'll already be about to pop.

[Asker]

This will help me for now thanks I ment to agree but my touch screen had other ideas

[kholland65]

np

[kheserthorpe]

Edging with lube.

Is it a stimulation thing, or just mental?

Reverse kegels, breathing etc and arousal awareness can help.

[Asker]

It's little of both but its mostly stimulation. She's so tight I just lose my sh*t.

[kheserthorpe]

Good. That's easier to deal with, because its easier to simulate. Sorry to be so graphic, but how do you masturbate, and for how long?

[Asker]

It's a graphic situation. I masturbate with body lotion with my right hand .I stroke the neck for a min then I stroke the head. The head is how I get off. It takes me about 5-10 minutes

[kheserthorpe]

Body lotion doesn't give very good stimulation at least any I've used (haven't used many tbh). Its meant to be absorbed. Use astroglide or KY liquid or similar. Use a tighter grip and pump harder on the head., if you can, and add rolling motions. Since you last '5-10', try to last at least 10 like that. Don't cum. Only come every third day. Add two minutes a day till you're at 20 minutes (or more if you want to, but I wouldn't aim for less.

[kheserthorpe]

Don't use p*rn for now, focus on what you're feeling. Try to determine your arousal out of 10, where 10 is orgasm. Be aware of how close you are. learn to maintain a steady pace with higher stimulation, then build up and back off. When you get excited, try to get under control via least extreme measure possible: - reverse kegels (flex like pushing out urine) - kegel (hold urine) then reverse kegel - slow breath, relax - focus on whole body, be aware of toes, etc. - slow down - stop

[Asker]

Thanks man if this doesn't help nothing will. I'll look for the gels at a sex shop

[kheserthorpe]

They're available in drug stores, near condoms. If this doesn't help, send me a message, there's more you can do, I've tried to give you a high level overview. Premature ejaculation is almost always treatable.

[starlight124]

Build up your stamina, masturbate to try and make yourself last longer

[Belgie]

Use numbing creams. Jerk off before you start, or let her make you come first during foreplay, then you make her come during foreplay. And when you're ready to go a second time, then you have penetrative vaginal sex.

[kaitlovesyou]

pratice edging yourself then ull last a bit longer maybe, good luck :)

[Asker]

I think ill try this thanks

[Anonymous]

Masturbate a little while before you have sex, and do more foreplay to make her get off and close to it when intercourse starts.

[Asker]

Here's the thing I never know when where about to have sex. Do you think if I knock one out in the morning ill be ready for anything that day