Help! I've been having gay dreams / fantasies lately, what does it mean?

I've always considered myself str8 but lately I've been having a lot of guy-on-guy fantasies. Does this make me gay, bi, or curious? I've never had sex, I'm in my 20's, and I've never had a date with anyone. Is there a way to tell if I'm def into guys? Any advice would be helpful. Have any guys acted on this and regretted it? Girls how do you feel about this?
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It's also weird because I'm not really attracted to guys in public at all, but these thoughts turn me on a bit. What the hell is up with me?
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Maybe they are just dreams and I'm going through a phase. No matter my frustrations with girls I still love them, want to kiss them, want to hold them, and want to eat them out - I don't feel any of these things for guys.
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  • I somewhat agree with BruceJender, I can look at a man and think, wow he's got a great body but I don't find it sexually arousing. If you do find it sexually arousing then maybe you are Bisexual, it may also mean that you are going through some personal stuff that is making you question your sexuality.

    If you are having gay dreams it doesn't mean you are gay. Homosexual dreams are common for straight men and women and they usually mean something completely different than you are this or that.

    Here is a great site that talks about gay dreams:

    w w w. yourdreaminterpretation. c o m/gay-dreams/
    (remove the spaces)

    I think we all know deep down what we are or are not. If you have strong feelings and are fighting against them then you know that whichever way you are fighting is probably the way you lean towards.

    But it doesn't matter if you are gay, straight bi or anything else, it matters who you are as a person and you are awesome.

    Have a great day.

    -AskRon

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  • I agree with RedRain that labels are confusing, and the best way to find out if you are attracted to men is trying to have sex at least once with a man to see the experience. You don't have to be attracted to men in public to discover your attraction, I don't think man-to-man attraction works that way, at least it has not been for me.

    After some years of straight life, I have finally given in to my gay fantasies, and found out that is really what I have wanted all along. I define myself as gay now, but things could turn out differently for other people, including you. However, one thing is for sure, these fantasies won't go away. So, you may want to experiment in a safe environment and see for yourself what you prefer.

  • Maybe you are attracted to guys as well. Don't rush into putting yourself a label: straight, homosexual, bi, etc. Labels aren't really useful.
    What is important is that you ackowledge what your fantasies are. If you're confused I think the only way to know if you're into guys, girls or both is to experience being with them.

    • I think I will try out a guy. I haven't had luck even talking with girls :(

    • Actually, acting on this could be a bad thing. These things stem from not being with a girl, not from wanting guys.

    • Yeah act on it, then, if you hate it, be embarrassed for the rest of your life... great.

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  • As a bi girl I can tell you that it's what attracts you. Ask yourself those questions: Could I seriously imagine myself dating a guy? Having sex with a guy? If the answer is yes, you might be bi or gay. There is no real way to really know. Deep inside you feel what you are in time. Don't worry too much about it.

    • I could not see it seriously happening, especially not dating.

  • It's just dreams and thoughts, that means nothing. Your dreams and thoughts aren't you, they are just neurons firing. Any person who tries to personalize their thoughts knows nothing about neurosciences.

    • Thank you. I agree and I don't think I will need to worry about this anymore. I can't believe the responses pouring in.

    • You're welcome :) I'd say just acknowledge those thoughts as an entity apart from yourself & let it pass through. You get to chose which you want to make your own :)

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  • This is a little too personal to post to everyone. Send me a private message, OK?

  • Yeah, maybe you're bi curious if you're attracted to girls normally but these fantasies are happening.

    • Well, possibly. I am normally attracted to girls exclusively.

  • Your probably just going through a phrase. I would be worried if this strange continued more than a month.

  • You are straight and thinking to hard about this.

    • Thank you! I agree

  • don't read into dreams they're just weird! Read into who you want to kiss or touch or who you're constantly looking at!

  • You might be bi curious, if you would consider/want to try something with a male in real life, i have :-)

  • It's probably your conscious mind testing the boundaries of your subconscious mind. You know, like doing little experiments with your imagination to see what reactions your lizard brain produces.

    Listen to your lizard brain for clues about yourself.

  • It means you're gay, duh.

  • Probably nothing. They are dreams after all and as far as we know have no psychological connection.

  • i have these fantasies too, but i can't consider myself as gay becuase i have a girl crush on someone, and when i see a guy at school i don't either get attract to him nor have crush on him, i think it is just a curiousity.

    • Agreed, neither of us should worry about it

  • It sounds like you're not committed to any specific sexual orientation. So I don't ifknow ifyou're bisexual, asexual or just undecided.

    • I used to think I was committed to one...

  • Pretend you have a penis up your ass does the idea turn you on? If so you're gay

  • You watch too much porn... you need to have sex with a girl and you will love them for the rest of your life! Those who turn themselves gays just because have no luck with women are losers not gays.

    • Thanks

  • Well I think it means you won't be voting for Trump.

  • Hey i been having dreams of getting raped by guys lately... im not gay or bisexual... but the fact of thinking of being taken by a man does make things hard... lol
    Not planning to act on it, i want my wife

  • It doesn't have to mean anything

  • Did you like the dreams you had? If you do then yeah you like men..

  • Do you know what man? So do I. I fantasise about doing stuff with men sometimes. I watch gay porn occasionally. But guess what? I also fantasise straight and lesbian sex, enjoy straight sex with my girlfriend. I watch lesbain porn, and also straight porn. Am I gay? Doubt it, since the lust i feel for my girlfriend and thoughts I have for other women. If we break up though I would probably dabble with men and see what happens. But anyway, try and enjoy your sexuality :)

    • Yeah, I have str8 and lesbian fantasies, even though I'm a guy. This was insightful! Maybe I will try it.

  • It could just be a random thing if you're not attracted to guys otherwise. I've never been attracted to girls at all but have had lesbian sex dreams. I have no idea why.