I hear where you're coming from. I am in my late 20's and though we never had a wild sex life, I have gone through phases where I masturbate because she is too tired or not willing to have sex with me. Mine is sort of the opposite situation to yours but I understand how you feel, rejected and isolated.
My first question about it is whether he is consciously doing it or if he actually falls asleep and does this in his sleep. If he is doing it intentionally, I would interrupt him and ask if you can do it with him. If he says no then make him do it somewhere else so he can feel the separation and awkwardness you feel. That could make him resentful though so be tactful.
My second question is how often do you actually have sex? You used to have it 3-4 times a day, how much do you have now?
My third question is how is your relationship outside of the bedroom. Are you close, doing things together, sharing your lives with each other as much as possible? Or are you doing a couple of things together and then living your own lives while you cohabitate? If the only time you share together is when you go to bed then I would say that there is some emotional distance to overcome in your relationship before this issue will be resolved.
I know that there have been times when I have masturbated very soon after having sex because I wanted to have the pleasure again, but on my terms. For a while I was focused on p*rn in a way that I felt was unhealthy because it was interfering with my relationship and I took steps to stop that. I had to see how my behavior was impacting my wife and my marriage before I could take steps to change it.0 0 0 0Sweetheart PLEASE let me tell you THIS... YOU ARE ABSOLUTELY ONE OF THE SEXIEST WOMEN I HAVE EVER SEEN BUT LEMME TELL YOU THIS AND I'M TRYING NOT TO HURT YOUR FEELINGS OK? LEAVE HIM HE'S LOST INTEREST IN YOU. HOWE OR WHY WHO KNOWS BUT THERE'S OBVIOUSLY A COMMUNICATION ISSUE BUT IF SAY HE'S DEFINITELY LOST HIS FEELINGS FOR YOU I'M SO SORRY
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Girl the same thing is happening with me. I mean literally exactly as you explained word for word - from him calling me crazy and imagining it, pushing my hand away when I think maybe I can give him a blow job to get him to cum so he can sleep and stops moving around, and sleeping on the couch, but hearing everything. He won’t have sex with me anymore - if he does it’s because he feels bad. It’s not fair to make us feel unwanted and as if we are lying about what we feel and see and hear. It’s heart breaking. I am also pretty, I don’t necessarily think I’m model pretty but enough to be attractive to men. So yeah, it’s painstakingly unfair and I don’t know what to do anymore. I’ve tried everything from patience to surprising with pics, stories of our sex (I’m a writer) in detail to try and turn him on, he gets hard, like really hard really fast if I brush against him even, whether or not it’s on purpose he always pushes me away and says
0 0 0 0“babe, seriously?” Wasn’t always like this, I never cared about him jacking off before because he was also having sex with me all of the time, and when the person you’re in love with shoves your hand away from him, your self doubt becomes pitiful. I don’t want to talk to him because if I bring it up he yells at me and says I need to stop being such a drama queen. But if I am quiet because I don’t want to, he yells at me for being so disengaged.
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1 5Sorry, how attractive did you claim to be? Very? Methinks the lady doth protest too much.
0 1 0 0why does he do that when u r next to him , sorry i am too lazy to read that long para
0 0 0 0Heck I would rather have real sex than masturbate or get a BJ...no matter what time of the month it is even!
0 0 0 1two can play at that game. If he wants to have sex reject him and then make sure he hears/sees you masturbate later...then see how he reacts.
0 0 0 0Idk, maybe he's gay.
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