Holding my girlfriend when she cries turns me on. How to stop/hide my erection?

Is something wrong with me? Whenever she cries I get extremely turned on. She wants me to hold her, but I don't want her to notice my erection. I don't want her to think I enjoy her suffering. Girls, would you be mad at your boyfriend if you found out you crying turned him on? Would you break up with him? How to stop/hide my erection?
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Most Helpful Guy

  • This might not help, but once a platonic friend came to my place late at night because she was upset about a guy. I was in some light shorts (it was hot and after bedtime) sitting outside with her so we could smoke. Anyway, when she broke down and leaned on me, I got hard instantly. Not because I enjoyed her crying, but because I was barely dressed and usually masturbate around that time of night, plus she's an awesome girl. Now, there was really nowhere for me to hide, so I just said "don't take this the wrong way, I'm very concerned about your situation, but being close like this is causing me to get hard, and I just don't want to offend you when you're already upset, so I'll do my best to keep it covered. If I act weird or nervous or anything though, that's why." she thought it was funny and kinda cute the way I handled it. We were both respectful of each other, and we ended up spending like four hours together sitting outside talking all night. In my experience, the best thing you can do for someone that's upset is to get them to laugh. That doesn't mean perform a comedy routine, but rather just treat them like normal, and eventually something funny will happen. Hug them, hold them, do all that, but don't look at them as a "broken" person, treat them the way they expect you to treat them.

    • this is exactly how I'd want a guy to handle it :)

    • Ditto, Olivia. Well played, sir : )

    • i agree with olivia5555555

Most Helpful Girls

  • Put a blanket over it or think of something that disgusts you & it should go down lol. I wouldn't be mad though. I'd just be wondering why that's happening when I'm crying & why it's such a turn on. That's a minor thing that's smaller than a grain of sand so I wouldn't dump him.

  • maybe your protector instinct kicks in and makes you feel very manly and your adreneline kicks in? can you pinpoint what exactly turns you on about it, at what point you get turned on?

    • I think you might be on to something. But also, I always get a really good feeling when someone picks me to cry on my shoulder. It makes a bond and it's a pretty emotional connection to.

    • well and I've had a few discussion with guys who talk about how they really don't get a lot of physical affection where as girls do and they are "allowed" to be physically affectionate with pretty much anyone guys are taught not to need that but they really do so I think this 'bonding' is also an outlet for physical affection and emotional depth that they are normally told is bad if THEY have it but they enjoy maybe living vicariously through a girl who is allowed all her emotionas and reactions.

  • I think wpmason has got it spot on. Just be honest with your girlfriend about it x

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  • I would be mad but not breakup.

    • Why would you be mad? We can barely control it. But the way I see it, even at your runny make-up, snotty, slobbery worst, the dude can can still get it up for you. I think that means something deeper than just biological things... There's a lot of caring there.

  • i wouldn't mind. hell it might even cheer me up!