How can I be less perverted?

[tigerguy]

everyday life I'm a nice easy going guy, I'm sweet kind and lovely but when I'm alone on my computer I'm so a pervert, I want to chat with girls and get all dirty talking, I want to watch p*rn. i wish I could focus on other stuff but my mind keeps going where I want to have a wank. it could be due to the fact that I don't have a girlfriend, not the fact that I want a girlfriend to have sex with but the fact that I feel alone that I don't have a girlfriend makes me turn to p*rn and that. i have no luck with girls at all, they only see me as a friend, probablt because I'm chubby. what can I do?

[Anonymous]

Well I don't really see the problem, unless what you're saying is that you'd like to get off the computer and do things in real life. We're all sexual beings, don't be ashamed of it. Online you get to be anonymous, or at the very least have a slightly different personality- when people talk to you, they imagine the perfect individual that they'd like to talk to- you can't beat being perfect, no way you'll achieve that in real life.

I think it's fine to be online and let out some of your sexual frustration- as long as you're being safe and not meeting up with strangers in person. People usually comment that guys online should get a life, or they should find a real girlfriend, or w/e- but truth is, real life is intimidating. You can't just close down the chat window on a real life person and go do something else. You can't decide you're getting bored and just tell the person later that your connection got cut off- real life isn't like that. You can be ore adventurous online without people judgin you because they don't know who you really are.

As far as being alone, why not find a girl online that you actually want to talk to? Maybe you guys could talk about dirty things later, but initially you could start with a simple chat. I think a lot of girls are turned-off by guys who say "hey babe, you horny?" or something like that. They'd rather get to know them a little, see their vulnerable sides, and then maybe they'd feel more comfortable with talking about dirty things. This way, you could meet up with he same girl online, or at least the same girl for a couple of days in a row, and set a sort of schedule. You could focus on other things the rest of the time because you know you'll get to do what you want later.

I guess it all depends- are you looking at p*rn because you keep searching for fulfillment and don't get it? or do you just have a really high libido and can't get enough?

I think lots of girls who are looking to talk dirty online would love to know they're doing it with a sweet, funny guy and not some creep who's 52 and looking for little girls.

I'm sorry I can't be of more help. I'm single too, and sometimes I really crave that feeling you get when someone is holding you close. It doesn't control me though- I still get other things done. I always know that in my free time, if I want to chat with someone, people are out there. I don't think I can put in the work to maintain a relationship right now, but I don't see why I can't chat with ppl.

I'd suggest joining a club, or volunteering in your community. Maybe take up a hobby like playing guitar and try and get really good at it. Watch some interesting documentaries. Start a blog, go clubbing, go outside for a run- join a marathon training club. Just get out of the house or away from the comp and do other stuff, preferably in a social setting ( you may meet someone) . Then, at the end of the day, come home and get your fix of p*rn and dirty talk.

[lulugirl2345678]

well study up on how to make girls happy and if you wish horny.it's not that hard.and there are some girls out there that would actually find it cool that you do these things.yes I am one of those.dont worry I do it all the time even as a girl.to me it's not wrong.

[tigerguy]

Thanks

[yengesi]

There's nothing wrong with having a robust carnal appetite, but it sounds to me like you've got too much time on your hands. If you find some other way to kill time you'll probably feel less perverted, and maybe even meet some girls too.

[Anonymous]

I have the exact same problem, I hope this question gets some helpful answers.

[tigerguy]

Me too