How can I be sure of my sexuality?

[Anonymous]

So lately, I've been pretty conflicted about my feelings. To sum it up quick, I think about relationships like any other girl, and I started thinking about relationships more often recently, but also about something more specific; the image of me with a girl. Then the thought hit me. 'Am I bisexual...or even lesbian?' I've asked myself this so many times, and I can't find the answer on my own. I'm afraid to tell my parents, because since my family's Catholic, we're not really suppose to support that kind of thing, and my parents have made it crystal clear that they would be devastated and angry if they found out any of us kids are gay/bi/les. Plus I want to make sure of it before I even think about telling my family at all.

[Cromartie]

I really hope that Sexual Fluidity paper circulates into common knowledge soon. You're completely normal; your sexuality will shift multiple times throughout your life based on many things ranging from emotional investments to physical temptation. To worsen this you're at an age where basic curiosity runs rampant; while you're thinking of kissing girls and other sexual concepts this will not have any genuine effect on your sexuality and is not part of the "journey". Sorry. Fantasies involving same-partner sexual behavior will also, much like your more static sexuality, flow in the same manner.

Basically nothing you said matters and it's totally normal.

[bh6676r942]

I wouldn't be so quick to trust what cromartie said women and men have sexuall preferences If you get turned on by vaginas and boobs and man boobs and male genitals and features as well as female you are a true bisexual If you only get turned on by men you're a true heterosexual. That's just the way it is I don't think that he is trying to say that all women are bisexual if he is he's way out of line and so is every one who thinks that but I think he's trying to say that wemon are different .

[Cromartie]

You say this because you're male. Not that males do not actually have the same sexual fluidity trait that females do therefore from your perception what you're saying does make total sense. I would agree with you actually if I myself wasn't aware of this core difference. Also no one is saying that all women are anything, no, instead that they work on a different system altogether. We know this because not only of studies and experiments but through observations throughout time.

[talloak]

I don't think this defines your sexuality. Sexual orientation has more to do with the gender you're naturally attracted to, not to sexual fantasies or even sexual experiences. Many heterosexual girls have had those thoughts or even experiences. I have known some who admit to enjoying the experience but are not attracted to women romantically. Given that your thinking about relationships seems to be about boys, I'm skeptical that you are bisexual or lesbian. I agree that you probably don't want to involve your family in this until you are rather sure about it. Besides the heartache it might bring, it's likely to confuse you even more.

[Theguyoverthere]

The only way to be sure is to have a sexual encounter with another female. Even then though, you may not be sure. The one side of homosexuality is that you'll relate to your gender better. On the other hand, it's not a guy so...

[bh6676r942]

That's a horrible Idea then shed be more confused than ever